Does it bother you that your Boyfriend/Husband masturbates?

[waybackinc]

Does it bother you if your boyfriend or husband masturbates? As long as it doesn't get in the way of having sex with you would you mind if he pleasures himself on his own? Personally I love to masturbate, I do it almost every morning in the shower unless I know my wife and I are going to hook up that day. We don't make love every day so I take care of things on my own. With a busy schedule you can't always make time for each other so why not take care of your own needs. How about you women, do you feel the need to release on your own? It's not taking time from your partner just taking time for yourself. Your thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I think it'd be only disturbing in that it's someone else he's thinking about and getting turned on by, and that makes me curious. So no, in general, it's normal and I don't mind at all if a man does it. However, there's been a guy far away who's into me, he has a woman but thinks of me and masturbates often. I had no idea he had someone else so I'd love your input on why guys do it. Is it just a variety thing? Or is that sometimes the woman in their life is not making herself sexually available so they have to find other outlets?

[whattothink]

Why would anyone be bothered by that? Sometimes life or schedules get in the way. Sometimes people have different sex drives. Sometimes it's just nice to get off without having to worry about someone else. And it's a much better alternative than cheating on them.

[Patrick453]

The reason why is because some people think masturbation is due to lack of sexual contact with their partners... which in a way could bother some females

[whattothink]

I think that's a highly insecure and not very evolved in the relationship way of thinking.

[waybackinc]

I have to agree with both of you I can see how someone could feel insecure if they found their partner masturbating. I can see how someone could feel they weren't doing a good enough job taking care of their partners needs. But I agree this is a bad way to start a relationship. I don't take care of my needs to spite my partner. And I don't expect my partner to take care of her needs too. It isn't cheating and it's a healthy way of re-leaving stress. Life is difficult as it is and schedules do take priority. We always find time for ourselves but it may be early on a Sunday morning when nothing else is in the way.

[apierz]

it doesn't bother me if my boyfriend masturbates or watches p*rn. we only see each other once or twice a week, so it would surprise me if he didn't.

[SammyGurl]

Not really, I take things in my own hands too so I can't expect him not to do it too.

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

i mean i don't really care. although my ex would masturbate up to twice a day (only once a day when we were together according to him) so he would last FOREVER when we would have sex which just gets annoying. but if we don't have sex one day or he's just extra horny or something i don't care. as long as he isn't choosing masturbation over being with me.

[HoneyButterCup525]

if we are together most of the time, yes i would mind but if its a distance relationship, then no i wouldn't mind.

[Anonymous]

Of course not. If it doesn't affect our sex life, then he can masturbate all he wants.

[Anonymous]

If he was kind of hiding it from me I wouldn't like it. Like it's a dirty little secret I'm not meant to know about. It would make me feel a bit insecure. I mean he doesn't have to tell me but if he goes out of his way to make sure I don't know I'd feel like I was doing something wrong

[Anonymous]

not at all lol, especially i only get to see my boyfriend once twice a month. we exchange private pictures and videos as well

[Anonymous]

I would only be bothered if he masturbated to pictures of girls on Facebook or something like that.