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Boyfriend only wants to Dry Hump. We live together for yr. now. Is this Normal?

He only wants to dry hump or get blowjob. Seen on his phone he watches p*rn EVERY day. All w women. Blond teens, cream pie oiled massage bondage. He doesn't do any of that w me. I'm very attractive great figure (5' 103# petite & very sexy) Guys come up & tell me I'm stunning etc.. Give me phone # Sick of the dry humping for our entire year relationship! We've Known ea other 34yrs. We've never had intercourse. Any time I've tried to talk to him he phys abuses me. He gets crazy enraged & won't talk about it. I've had broken breast bone, cartilage in ear, unbelievable bruises, he's choked me slammed my head into wall, floor. He broke my elbow 10wks ago. 5hrs surgery & Dr. 12months pain & recover & occupational therapy 2x week. Luckly I don't work. I have a lot of money. Pay for most everything. He doesn't abuse me any more. Found he answered a GUY'S ad on Craig's list for blowjob. On 1/25/13, was shocked! Don't know if he went through w it. This is part of his emai'--"We are on! Wednesday night works for mGUYu? My shit gets hard thinking about it! Will send you pix! You better make this worth my time!! Lets have funx 10 you." --guess I have to conclude he's GAY. Known him 34yrs. He even dated my sister for 2yrs. I've in all this years EVER seen be gay. He was in 10yr relationship w a women, he got her pregnant. She had a miscarriage. He answered 8 ads to women & 1 other GUY On Craig's list.
Is he gay? He asked me to marry him. Talks about it all the time. I keep putting off looking for ring.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Look, I've been on the recieving end of abuse, love. They don't change. They all go through periods of remorse, but once a relationship has gone there, it will go there again. If you can't deal with the helo lines and victim advocacy, just seperate. Now. While he sounds like he is being reasonable.

    He clearly has some major issues with his sexuality, be he gay, curious or just into blowjobs, and it sounds like he needs to not be in a relationship until he has gotten that sorted out, one way or another. Counceling would probably help that.

    But regardless of his situation you need to be out. Sooner rather than later.

  • Get the hell out before you are seriously injured or killed. Report him to the police.

    • Yes, that's what friends & family say. There afraid I'll be dead next. It is SO hard to walk away. I can't explain it. I always why DoD/did those women stay. NOW I'm one of them. With all the NFL players in the news he talks to me embarrassed, humiliated. Says never will put hand on me again. He really seems changed, like going to emergency was huge wake up call. He said he's afraid he could injured me worse or killed me. The Dr.'s & nurses didn't believes I fell. He was crying & when we alone he was begging me to tell them the truth & be arrested. Idk, he's different & still wants me to call police or hotline. Says it's the right thing to do. I just don't want to deal with all that goes w that. Know a few women that went through he'll w the court system, all the court dates, victim advocates, the Dom abuse classes do you learn not to let it happen again. I mean it wonderfull all the resources are great but it does make you even more worn out scared confused & emotionall mentally tired

    • I think when you listen to your head, your heart will follow, my dear. Get out. Seek the help of your family and friends. End contact with him. Report him to the police so he can't do it again (hopefully). Please please get out.

    • just leave him, even if you dont report anything, leave him

Most Helpful Girls

  • Leave his sorry ass! Why are you still with him? You should have left him the very first time he laid a hand on you. Honestly he's gay lol why else wouldn't he want to have sex with you? Or maybe he's not ready but I mean you guys have been together for a year. LEAVE HIM.

  • His ass would be so far kicked out the door if a guy ever laid a hand on me. And as for the no sex part, I wouldn't put up with that either. If he's watching p*rn and not satisfying you or wanting to be with you then fuck him. Seriously, get rid of him.

  • yes you do need to leave this hell of a relationship no one deserves to get abuse get out now as you can you deserve better

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  • I wouldn't mind a boyfriend who rather dry humped on the daily than have sex :D that way we save sex for marriage lol

  • You need to leave this relationship ASAP. Its not okay for anybody to put their hands on you. Please, do not marry this guy.

    • I am so confused. It's really hard to leave. I never under stood why women stayed. I do know, psychology I kinda feel like its my fault. Don't bring issue that infuriates him I'll be fine. My sons be with several times & runs in had to get him away from me. He scared for me when he's not here. He begs me to leave or get him out. Thank you for your opinion. I'm thinking seriously need counseling to help me to be able to dump him & move on. Uhg, plus there's sex issue... I really think he's wanting at 54 years wants to be w a guy but can't come out. Our friends are homophobic! They would freak. I think all that built up & my trying to ask what the prob w our sex life builds to rage he takes out on me!

    • Don't blame yourself. This guy has rage issues. If he wasn't doing it to you he would be doing it to another woman. Stop with the excuses, take a change of clothes and go elsewhere. Do not go back. Do not look back. Once you're out you will realize how many people are out there that are willing to help. I've been in your situation. I know how hard it is to leave. Hopefully one day you will be on GaG telling another woman that she deserves better and can find it if she leaves.

    • Yes it's so hard. I have money so fine on my own, don't even have to work. & yes have other just waiting for me to leave. He also doesn't let go anywhere w o him & have to be here when he's home. Was at nueghboors upstairs few times like working comes & gets me says " I. Miss you I. Want you to come home, I don't like being there with out you. I go n no were by myself

  • Dump this bum. He's loser.

    • Correction - He's a loser.

  • Lose him. You deserve better.

  • GET OUT NOW!

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