Should a guy cum during foreplay oral sex?

I've always struggled with this one. Girls, if you are expecting to have intercourse after oral, do you expect the guy to cum or not? If he does cum, do you continue giving oral, go into intercourse, or call it a day and end the sex? It always confuses me, because girls always seem driven get the guy to cum, but doesn't that usually mean there's no actual sex afterward? If a girl really wanted sex, I'd think she wouldn't want to have him cum, because few guys can cum again in a short time. And guys, do you try and hold it in during oral, or do you just let it all go? And if you cum, do you still do the intercourse? I've had several blow jobs done on me and I usually cum (I'm very sensitive down there) but I try to keep going. Sometimes, but rarely it works. Usually we're both awkwardly frustrated because we just end in a weird non climactic way. I know that guys and girls try to get their partner off during oral... But I'd think that usually ends the sex, right? Or should a guy try to hold it in if he plans to have intercourse afterward, and only blow if its solely oral with no intended sex?
2 1

Most Helpful Guys

  • If he warns, or if it has been talked in advance, it is ok. Many girls like giving oral till the end, and like the feeling of a guy cumming in their mouths.

    Some guys (like me, at least when I was younger) find it very hot, and can go for a second round straight away, which is an added plus for the woman if she's not that much into the cum fetish.

    Remember to differenciate between foreplay and play. Oral sex is part of sex as much as it can be part of the foreplay. May you reach the orgasm and ejaculation during the foreplay, be grateful as an orgasm from a proper blow job is amazing. But be ready to reciprocate, if not immediately, at least in the short term.

  • by definition foreplay is the activity before sex, so unless you are going to be ready to go for sex right after an orgasm from oral then you aren't supposed to ejaculate during foreplay

Most Helpful Girls

  • I can't answer for anyone but myself, but personally all the guys I been to bed with are like you. Some of them can cum again, but they need a break of an hour or so before getting back at it. This means that if he busts during the blow I need to wait, sometimes till next day depends on the time. I usually try to not make him cum therefore. However if he indicates that he is about to bust a nut from my blow that to me mean he likes it and the thought of him blasting off in my mouth is just too big a thing that I just can't stop. I want to make it happen. Also because I know that to most guys it's a big thing to have their girl "suck them off"

  • It really depends on the girl really. Some girls like oral then sex. Some like sex then oral. Some like sex then oral then sex again. and some just don't like oral at all. And also yet again some like doing that in all one shot and others like it in parts.

    Me personally I like oral for a bit, sex for a while, back to oral then back to sex all in one shot, But if he cums before I don't make a big deal about it, because that just means round two. :P

    • Haha. Seems like you have a nice plan in place... but what exactly do you mean by round 2? You expect him to cum again?

    • I don't expect him to cum again but go again ya why not if he's up for it. I not one to care if he decides to call it quits but I don't know with my boyfriend he recovers fast, and can cum at least 4 more time before he can't anymore. But my Ex could only go once and he couldn't go again because he was too sensitive. So basically it depends on the guy too. So just do what you want to and what you feel is right, Do not be afraid to take control and tell the girl to stop oral so you can get sex started. To be honest a lot of girls actually like when the guy takes control like that.

    • alright, thanks. I definitely take control in the bedroom but this situation hurts my sex drive sometimes. I guess I'll just try to hold it in during oral so I can climax during intercourse. But its easier said than done.

    • Show All
  • It's up to him what he wants. If I'm going down on him and he wants to cum in my mouth he's welcome to. If he wants to have sex right away then he stops me before he cums. Usually he'll cum from both in some order, it just takes a while to recharge after the first time =P

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

What Girls & Guys Said

5 9
  • Suggestion: After you cum in your mouth, use a dildo on her while you lick her pussy. Or, just use a dildo on her. As you do, talk dirty to her. Pretend it's another guy there and you're there to watch. Or, as you fuck her with a dildo, have her tell you ALL of her naughtiest/kinkiest sexual fantasies. Or, give her a nice slow handjob.

  • For me oral is the main event. When I'm doing oral on him my goal is for him to cum and for me to swallow. :)

  • girls just want to give you pleasure. If you can't do a second time, just interrupt her and start the sex.

    • So I should stop before cumming during oral and go straight into the sex?

    • Well, be sure she's as aroused as you first. Blow her instead.

    • Ok. So foreplay and then sex. and I should avoid cumming during foreplay/oral? Sounds cool.

  • If you can't have multiple-orgasms, don't cum.

  • I do not mind if I still get sex after he cums.

    • Exactly

  • Yes , ull get a longer orgasm

  • i think if a girl is blowing you with the thoughts of getting fucked, then I dont think she wants you to cum on her BJ

  • yeahwhy not

  • As long as he can get hard again and keep going then sure. I will suck him dry before fucking him

  • Yes I don't like getting head before sex. For that reason

  • Oral feels great of course we should cum

  • I can cum multiple times so I can cum during oral then cum at let 2 more time during sex.

  • If if happens it happens. Personally I love giving oral because, I like pleasuring my partner. My goal is to either a) drive you so crazy that you, force me stop and proceed to penetration. Or B) you loose yourself in my mouth.

    Just make sure you take care of her if you do cum during foreplay. Make an art out of it. I once had a boyfriend who could only make me orgasm with his fingers.

  • My member is very sensitive, so after around 30 secs of oral, i will bust. But, i can straight away keep going again and be able to last longer

    • Haha, yh I've been with a boy that finish within minute from handjob. But he told me to carry on and he came 3 times