A guy losing control in bed, is it normal?

[Anonymous]

My latest date, is a sweet man, a hard worker, but when it comes to me in bed with him, he loses control easily, he fantasizes a lot and drives me completely nuts for him. I asked him before if he was like this with any other girls, and he just replied that this animalistic behavior happens with me only. And when it comes to sex he's extremely rough and sexy being dominant with me. We fell in love with each other quickly too, he treat me like the sweetest thing ever, but this sex is really addictive and good. Is it normal that he loses this control over his desire when he's with me?

[AustinMan]

I'd take it as a huge compliment. He finds you irresistible. What could be wrong about that? You love it rough and so does he. I think maybe he should spank you for being such a "slut" with him. ;) There's a slut in every girl and he lets yours out to play.

[Asker]

I'm already slutty and kinky in bed, even more with him around, and so is he! Spanking would lead to next level... That's a great suggestion. XD

[AustinMan]

I always just love it when she comes to me all contrite, telling me she's been especially bad and needs and deserves a hot, hard bare bottom spanking and (for us this is part of it) a painful rectal reaming. I spank those cheeks bright red and the almost can't stand how good it feels to grab those round, hot cheeks, yank them so wide apart it hurts, and ruthless drive my over sized, rock hard cock straight up her tight, sensitive little rectum. You might try something like this with him. Hopefully he'll discipline you severely and leave you whimpering from a savage sodomizing.

[Asker]

That's interesting...

[AustinMan]

What's your plan?

[AlexCab]

Don't know if it's something to be considered normal or not, but hun, if he goes like that over you, enjoy it and congrats :-)

[AlexCab]

Thanks for MHO, and hope you're enjoying it :-)

[Asker]

Oh, believe me, I am. We complement each other very well.

[Anonymous]

It's like reading a romance novel! Congrats on the tycoon, haha

[Asker]

Thank you. ^.^

[backspace]

Me and a girl I was with this last year had it like this. We both fell in love and both just lost control over one another but the thing was she cheated on her boyfriend. I could really feel her being in love with me and it was so great I mean even just touching was great. But she dumped me and stayed with him. Now she's torching me by saying I never really meant anything to her and that she doesn't care about me and wants me to move on but doesn't leave my sight. She's hanging out in places I go to normally.
I've never felt this kind of connection before in my life and I'm so sad because I lost it with her.

[Asker]

Women can be tricky and manipulative too, and most of all, mean. I'm so sorry it didn't work out for you and her.

[backspace]

Yeah well she didn't seem that way in the first 7 months. It really is too bad because we both said that we were afraid we might never find somebody that will make us feel like we did. That's why I think I can't seem to let go and I think one of the most important things was the attraction and sexual energy I felt between me and her. I think I've never been as happy as I was in this relationship. So I think this is one of the most important things. As far as she's concerned I don't know how to get her back because I've literally tried everything but she keeps hating me and bashing me when only a few months ago she told me I was the most important person in her life and that she had never fallen in love as much as she has with me.

[Asker]

So is she hating you for nothing? In my experience, women don't hate it for free (except cray people), perhaps she was forced into hating you, so she could be away.

[backspace]

Well she really hurt me when she came back and then dumped me again so we had a huge fight and I was so hurt that I tried to hurt her back and then she was angry about that and back and forth. But I suspect that she doesn't want to talk to me because it's easier to hate me for something small crap than to deal with her feelings towards me or maybe she never really felt anything. I don't know we never talked again after she dumped me every time we just argue and start screaming at each other and then we fight via texts. The last time she said she's block my number and I told her she doesn't need to because I'll never write her again. I don't know why we people do this stuff get angry at the people we love and say stupid things we don't mean. But like I said I don't know what to do to get her back or even if it can be done. :(

[MothMonsterMan]

So really what's the problem here? If you're happy with it, and he's happy with it, who cares if it's normal?

But yes, it happens to a lot of us. :)

[Asker]

I apologize if I misspoke it, but I never had such thing ever before. I'm highly sexual being myself, and I enjoy this man very much. I just didn't think that I'd do such thing to a man. But anyway, thank you so much for your reply. :)

[MothMonsterMan]

Glad to help! No worries on the confusion. It sounds like he appreciates you in bed as well, and it's nice to see a woman enjoy it too. Have fun! ;)

[Sixtus64]

Normal is a setting on the dryer.

[Roarke]

i was enjoying all the exchanges below so much i almost forgot to ask... can you give an overview of his fantasies beyond what was expressed here? could help define what is going on in his mind.

[Asker]

His fantasies are not kinky or weird, they're pretty normal. Like sharing a shower, having sex on the floor of a hotel room - and we do these things very often. And his sex drive, oh my, it's unstoppable.

[Roarke]

sounds like both of you have got keepers there. the only risk is that if this relationship goes on, sooner or later one of you is going to have to buy groceries.

[Asker]

Do you mean in the sense of having a routine? Or chores in a daily basis?

[Roarke]

no sweetheart, i mean you could spend so much time having sex you might end up dying of starvation.

[Asker]

Oh I'm sorry, I misunderstood what you said. There is no way we starve, he works 12 hours a day, I work 8, and we don't skip meals when we're together. It's hard, but we can't starve.

[Roarke]

oh never mind.. just enjoy your partnership and maybe stop defining altogether what is too much passion for him to have. he is into you and trusts you, and for you to go on controlling him in this way robs him of the fullness of having a real girlfriend. be fair to him, as he has most definitely been toward you.

[Asker]

Thank you for your replies. I'm trying to be fair to him, I understand his needs and his life apart from mine too, and I'm love him very much, I'm not willing to lose that. It's just something I never had like this before, it is an enourmous passion, with complicity, commitment, he loves me without any judgement. It's rare to find anything like this in these days. ;)

[Roarke]

indeed. go forth and dance into this brave new world you have entered. all my hopes.

[kambo_trick3y]

I tend to lose control too, in fact, I generally have these like... these fantasies that I'm a werewolf you know? And I'll like, rip off my shirt and everything, which usually gets the girl going at first, at least until it hits the part where I crouch down on all fours and begin to pretend I'm growing really sharp claws and pointy teeth and fur all over my body.

Then the hunting game begins.

It usually involves the girl running through the whole house screaming something or other nonsense like, "Oh God, please don't murder me you sick psychopath!" usually forcing her to try and unlock the doors to escape me (I always make sure to triple lock them so it takes longer to escape), usually forcing her to jump through the window.

At this point I've had quite a few house arrest charges and restraining orders but, fear not, I'm not the type to become dejected from a few failed hunts. No sirree!

[lumos]

You cray cray.

[kambo_trick3y]

@lumos You're right, I keep forgetting to bar the windows.

[LastGirlScout]

I think you need to rewatch Home Alone for some inspiration... a paint tin to the face will stop her getting out those windows...

[kambo_trick3y]

@LastGirlScout A capital idea mi'lady, I shall endeavor to do so. Perhaps a heated door knob is also in order.

[LastGirlScout]

Definitely! But what emblem to brand into her dainty hand? Hmmmmm...

[Asker]

And what about banana peel?

[Klaatu51]

yes (filler)

[countrydude]

That sounds normal especially when im with some one I am really into. I say enjoy the ride. and enjoy.

[rUinSAYAN]

what's so special about it to make a question out of?