Because he is messing with you, he just wants to see if he still has some control over you. Don't let him have it. He sounds like classic mr. unavaliable and trust there is nothing worse than feeling like your only good enough for him a little bit of the time. Just drop him like the rock he is.
0 0 0 0I don't understand the push and pull. I havr known him for a few years. This has happened before but this is the worse that it has ever been
I hate to use the classic phrase "you want what you can't have" but there is some truth behind it. its like a weird check in thing he does with you right? The moment you show little or no feedback to him the more he will try to "check in" so to speak. So im pretty sure if you did not respond at all towards his bipolar behavior and just start ignoring him, he would put more effort in to bug you. at the end of the day though do you want someone who only makes you feel secure 10% of the time? I understand that youve known this guy for quite awhile but as you also said its not a new occurence in fact it's only gotten worse. It just sounds like he is not spending the time you are thinking about each other. which is not fair to you, he may not be intenionally trying to hurt you but that is no excuse for his actions. he just lacks consideration towards you.
So what triggers a "check in" ? To me, if a guy or girl for that matter is not interested in someone, they would tell them so. They would not feed into it, even JOKE about sex. At all. Whatsoever. He never jokes about sex w anyone. If he does, it's "har har" funny. With me, he looks for my response. When I'm bashful, he blushes and convers HIS face. He's always bringing it up but hides behind it being a joke. Yet in an instance, act like he didn't do anything thr very next day. It has made me anxious.
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Why are women so flaky towards men? I'm just doing exactly what women do to me and it works extremely well against you.
0 0 0 0I'm not following... what do you mean, flaky towards men? I've tried to text him, talk to him, make eye contact. It seems to be when it's convenient for him. Can you explain a little further?
Had he not played hot and cold and made it easy for you, you would have considered him a none challenging "nice guy" and lost interest in him. You women due to your nature automatically set the tone for mind games. And I'm sure you're going to disagree with what I'm saying because women hate more than anything when the ugly truth about them is explain regarding their natural behavior towards men. And lets be clear about something else: I'm speaking from experience. I've dated a lot of women. All types.
I'm not saying anything against your statements. I'm just trying to understand how it applies to me. I have shown nothing but interest to him. Again, this back and forth has been confusing as I thought it was a sure sign to start talking again. From his actions tonight, he wanted nothing to do with me. I've known him for years so this isn't like I've only talked to him for a few months. Take away gender and he said she said, think of 2 people. Just two people and their interactions. Person A makes an attempt, Person B is relieved and tries to respond, continue towards peace if you will. Person A, declines. Person B is left thinking that nothing is wanted so thus removes themselves. Person A tries again and the pattern repeats. At what point, after numerous attempts to make peace, does it go beyond this? At what point can you ask the person, who goes to great lengths to avoid any confrontation and questioning, that they actually care about you? When it goes beyond this alleged game?
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