My partner falls asleep while fingering/rubbing me?

[vilexia]

Hello, I have been in a loving relationship with my boyfriend almost three years now. I love him more than I can fathom and he always makes me so happy - well, almost always. I'll just get down to it, he keeps falling asleep while fingering me, rubbing my pussy/boobs, pretty much anything to make me feel good. He's done it about three times now and he did it again day before yesterday, I hadn't said anything about it before because I figured he was just tired, but we had had a huge nap before hand and after we woke up I sucked his dick for him (I'm a good girl I make sure to make him cum every time I see him) and then he went to rubbing me. He would start, then stop, then start again, and stop, each time making me have to get worked up again. This continued until he just completely stopped and I literally had to put my hand on his and rub me with his hand myself to finish and orgasm. So, I got my feelings hurt, and was really upset, and I tried to get him to understand... but he wouldn't. But that's not all. Now today, he doesn't even remember why I was upset! He forgot completely about our fight! I just don't see how that's possible... I mean he didn't even remember us arguing. Please help me. Does anyone have any advice? I'm getting really tired of this, and it hurts my feeling more because he always gets me really turned on and worked up then just falls asleep. I just don't feel like it's fair, he means the world to me though seriously and I don't want to leave him, I was just wondering if anyone had any good solutions to this problem? We both don't drink by the way so that wouldn't cause tiredness.

[Arrowdynamics]

It's not his fault, believe him when he says he doesn't remember something especially after he has came. It's his body's way of saying "Okay you've successfully bred a female now it's time to sleep" After a male has an orgasm his body releases a hormone called PROLACTIN. The two of you should look up prolactin release after the male orgasm, it's very helpful. Anyway , we males don't just release a small amount of this hormone, we release 4x as much as females which explains why women can have multiple orgasm sessions and men are tired to very tired after one orgasm. Some guys have a larger releases of prolactin then others which can cause them to fall asleep almost instantly after an orgasms. While other guys have burst of prolactin which will have the effect of a guy going in and out of sleep. Which I think is happening to your boyfriend. After you've taken care of him his body is now having an internal war. His prolactin level has elevated which is causing him to get sleepy, but his dopamine hormone are fighting to keep him awake to pleasure you, but they're lossing and he doesn't even know it. This is causing his stop and go actions and forgetfulness. My suggestion for when y'all are feeling frisky find ways to stall him from cumming until you've came at least once. So don't get upset with him it's just one of nature's way of stopping us from a dopamine overload. Too much of a good thing is bad for the body and it knows it and you partner is easily satisfied. I have the same problem so I had to do some research and get really good at foreplay, not only because I want to stay awake, but because I wanted my lady friends to feel satisfied as well. Sometimes you have to do a little footwork to get things done, so do a little research to help him help you reach your climax. Good luck.

[vilexia]

I understand but as I keep saying, he's done it multiple times with or without him cumming first. I'm not upset anymore I am worried. It doesn't matter when he cums, even if he doesn't he still falls asleep even in the middle of the day

[vilexia]

Thank you for your detailed opinion though I can tell you really care. But it happens no matter what we do

[Arrowdynamics]

Has he ever had had a sleep study test performed. He my have EDS which is excessive daytime sleepiness. It is a form of narcolepsy. It's not the cataplectic attack narcolepsy when a person loses control of their muscles, then passes out, but is when a person get overwhelmed by good or bad hormones and it causes the person to go straight to REM sleep without having a cataplectic attack. This may also be why it hard for him to remember things as well. You should get him to talk to his primary physician.

[vilexia]

I was thinking along those lines as well, Thank you for all your help

[ilovesexyfeet]

Has he had any brain trauma? How can he forget and argument or fall asleep while playing with u? I've never fallen asleep while with a girl and how can anyone really be tired when there is a wet pussy right in front of u begging to orgasm? Its a strange one I'd get him checked out for brain injury, as this just isn't normal.

[vilexia]

I know, thank you for mentioning him forgetting the fight also, it just doesn't seem normal. And I know, I could never fall asleep with a dick in my hand, or mouth, or anywhere really lol but I can even understand that more than him forgetting it ever happened.

[ilovesexyfeet]

Lol yeh this is a strange one. Test it by starting another argument or doing something he shouldn't forget and then bring it back up in conversation a few days later and see if he remembers. A short term memory loss problem could have serious underlying issues and will need to be checked out. Good luck and hope it gets sorted because getting a girl all built up ready to climax and then falling asleep should carry the death penalty as punishment... its just not right

[vilexia]

It's very hard to get me back going lol and yes, he is forgetful about other things as well that aren't sexual, he's been forgetful, but I never thought it was this bad. Mainly, I'm just worried about him, of course I was upset at first, but I just want to fix whatever it is

[ilovesexyfeet]

Make him see his doctor and tell him about everything he's been forgetting and how your worried as well as frustrated (sexually) ask him how he'd feel at that point of xtc to have it stopped and him to be left to finish it off himself. Others have said he may be bored but these are not actions of being bored this is more than that.

[vilexia]

Thank you for the helpful opinion and for being understanding. I will talk to him about it, I know we can work through this together. ♡

[Elyzian]

Maybe go see a dr. about it. It sounds to me like there may be a medical reason behind it. Other than that I can't really suggest anything else.

Or he could just be bored... thats where we differ from guys, if something bores us we tend to continue on anyway

[vilexia]

Well that's why I'm worried. And I understand, but then he shouldn't get me riled up in the first place, that's what bothers me

[Elyzian]

Yea I know... idk, maybe do what one of the guys up there said and get him to do you first since he falls asleep if its the other way around... either that or you can invesy in a vibrator and not let him touch you.

[vilexia]

Oh no I wouldn't be able to live if I didn't let him touch me, but a vibrator wouldn't hurt that's for sure lol

[vilexia]

Also Thank you for the helpful answer o∩_∩o

[Elyzian]

Well just the vibrator then... would come in handy for times like that :). No worries. Hopefully youse can sort it out

[justbanANNAz]

yeah take that boy to the doctor lol, he sounds like a koala bear sleeping all that time...

[vilexia]

Aw, well when you put it that way though it's actually kinda cute lol

[justbanANNAz]

haha true, but when u think about how it makes u feel then it ain't so cute anymore huh? :P

[JangusRoundstone]

Give the poor man an energy drink!

[Manbot]

Give this girl a cookie!

[JangusRoundstone]

I'll take a cookie any day! Thank you :)

[vilexia]

That's a good idea but me and him both don't drink energy drinks, he doesn't like the taste and I don't like the jittery feeling haha But I really liked your answer it made me smile Thank you

[JangusRoundstone]

Then I'd day let his "grand finale" happen AFTER you get yours ;) As the guys have mentioned haha they get sleepy

[vilexia]

The timing doesn't really seem to make a difference, as I said he's done this multiple times, before and after cumming.

[nicko2552]

how about you don't make him cum until he makes you cum us guys tend to fall asleep after we cum

[vilexia]

This has happened multiple times with and without making him cum. And if he is sleepy, then he should sleep, not get me turned on then stop lol I wish he wouldn't start in the first place if he's that tired

[VanillaSalt]

try a shot b4 doing anything... tequila is the ultimate sex tool

also consider depression... he's trying to help u but he's not really into it and when ure not into something like sex... it just dont work...

it sounds to me he's got depression and adhd... its similar to me i 4get a lot of things that i shouldn't and depression just drains a sex drive... if this is the case dont hold it against him he really wants to do it for ya its just so damn hard to stay focused on the task at hand... trust me ide know

my adhd has gotta increasingly worse the last few years... i didn't even remember my bday was a few days ago... i 4got arguments... chores... i learn most things much more slowly than others... consider eating more balanced meals and adding fish oils to his diet... that helps combat both adhd and depression...

[Coldice]

What? how on earth can any man fall asleep while doing that? I would speak to him about it. Its just rude and silly.. Maybe next time you give him a Bj you also fall asleep and see how he likes it lol

[vilexia]

Believe me I wanted to at first, but then I realized that wouldn't solve anything, Besides I like giving him blowjobs too much to fall asleep even if I tried lol

[Coldice]

I was just kidding lol. Well If he keeps falling asleep then you really have to talk to him about it. Ask him why? nothing wrong with talking

[vilexia]

He says he doesn't know why. He said he wasn't tired or sleepy when it happened

[Nik1hil]

Increase his diet especially proteins and fats. During sexual activity we loose lot of calories you both need to supply sufficient amount of calories to body to have enjoyment.

[vilexia]

He has a terrible diet. Sugar and salt is basically all he eats, I've tried to get him to eat better but to no avail, I really appreciate your input Thank you! I

[Nik1hil]

It also depends how hot you are from inside. Means your fitness and health and even stamina to do sex. If you cannot enjoy sex and have been trying to do it every night then take a break , avoid having sex or turning each other on for 2-3 days , once you two are flooded then you can have a blast, it will be awesome. You should not programme or schedule Sex. sex should happen when ever you two really get horny that will make it more enjoyable then trying have every night when you are not ready.

[Nik1hil]

Use new heavy fat dishes randomly for him. You want him to work you need to make him buff.

[vilexia]

We never schedule it, it just kinda happens lol and yes we have tried abstinence for awhile then going back and yes the sex is nice but he only falls asleep when he is rubbing me, he's never done it during anything else just when he rubs and fingers me

[johnmsk]

Is he using any substance abuse? drugs? I see no reason he would have forgotten an argument.
As for falling asleep " on the job" do u give him orgasm or cumm before he attends you? In that case dont do that.. let him give pleasure to you first or do it together. Once a guy cums, some guys due to less stamina loses energy and gets slow in the mind and tends to fall asleep.

[vilexia]

As I've told the other users, he's done this multiple times, before and after cumming, the timing doesn't change anything. As for drugs Oh no no no we aren't drug users. Thank you for your input

[DrGreenthumb]

He's banging other tricks,

[vilexia]

No he isn't. I really feel this may be medically related.

[DrGreenthumb]

It's not, he's bored of you, and is banging other girls. I do this all the time, except I don't fall asleep on my girls. If I get bored I stop seeing them. That's proly gona come next. Your gona catch him or he's gona tell you. He seems like a pussy

[vilexia]

You're really wasting your breath. I know my boyfriend better than anyone and I know how much he loves and cares for me, you have no idea of the crap we have been through together, and helped eachother through, he's been here for me during my darkest hours, and me through his, he's literally saved my life multiple times. You don't know a single thing about our relationship, so don't make him out like he's you because he isn't. Just because you're a douchebag doesn't mean he is. You obviously have never experienced true love before.

[DrGreenthumb]

Maybe, but he's a guy. And all guys all the same. I'm not telling you to believe me.

[Iron_Man]

The fact your bring up I dont want to leave him is trouble right there over something like that that has happened 2 or 3 times. no big deal he's prob worn out from something else or under stress

[jmmmfi]

First lemme just say you do sound like a good girl. Second what the fuck?

[wickwunderland]

When a guy cums he gets sleepy which is opposite for a girl. If you want to correct the problem, switch it up a bit and enjoy each other before making him cum. Once we cum, it is nighty night time... so save that for the finale.

[Anonymous]

When you fall asleep you generally can't remember the previous 7-10 minutes before you actually fall unconscious. You're blaming him for facts of biology that he can't control.

How would you feel if he BLAMED you for your period? Like it was somehow your fault that you bled every month, made a mess and became a hormonal nightmare?

It would be petty and shitty wouldn't it?

[vilexia]

Huh? I'm just worried about him... no reason to be mean...

[Opinion Owner]

It doesn't sound like you're worried it sounds like you're pissed at him.

[vilexia]

And I was just saying I wish he wouldn't get me riled up of he knows he's tired... I didn't think that was too much to ask... sorry...

[vilexia]

Well of course I was upset at first, that would hurt anyone's feelings at first you know... I'm not pissed at him, I was just asking for a solution, which you gave so Thank you... but you didn't have to be mean about it..

[vilexia]

And I didn't know that till you just told me you know...

[Anonymous]

I once fell asleep, trying to masturbate. I wanted to do it but didn't realize how tired I actually was. I almost got caught with it out by my mom too. I was almost mortified

[vilexia]

Goodness lol That would be horrible!

[Opinion Owner]

I know right. Sometimes we just get tired, don't blame him

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn't blame you if you were tired and thought you could fuck

[Opinion Owner]

Eh, on second thought...

[vilexia]

See? xD

[Opinion Owner]

I was saying, if it were you and I, I'd probably blame you for falling asleep on me. He's probably diff. though, and hopefully you are too. I'm sort of an antagonist of GAG

[vilexia]

This was my first question and I wouldn't have even asked it if I wasn't worried about him