What's with all this "squirt" frenzy? Why are people so obsessed with this new fad?

[Anonymous]

I have done it once before and it was pretty uneventful besides having to wash my sheets afterwards. I know I can cum, I make myself cum all the time and it's fantastic, squirting felt the same just messier. I am not really a fan of the water works because it comes after the worst urination feeling (and yes I had an empty bladder prior, and it was clear). One of my exes was obsessed with it, he would brag about his squirting exe all the time. Made me feel like shit cause I couldn't do it on cue like her. Long story short dumped his ass now he's very regretful. I find it horridly annoying when I am having a sexy conversation with a man and all of a sudden he brings up the "can you squirt?" question... first off I remember my exes obsession and him comparing me, second that question is a little rude. It's like me asking "are you 9 inches and can last 3 hours? Cause I am obsessed with that, I love guys who can last forever and have a specific size that they have no prior control of." So guys what gives? Also all I could think when I was squirting was "oh god I just pissed myself," kind of took away from the fun.

[pelleas]

squirting is visual. unfortunately, too many guys nowadays "learn" about sex from p*rn flicks. so... if you can't see it, it's not real, apparently. hence the obsession with squirting.
p*rn has always been around, but before the internet made the stuff so all-pervasive, men at least realized that what they saw in p*rn had to be taken with a grain of salt. Nowadays, some men look at p*rn as the gold standard against which to measure their girlfriends. and I am not talking about looks; I am talking about behaviors.
I am becoming more and more convinced, by reading questions and answers on sites like this, that p*rn hurts women.

[Asker]

It not only hurts women but it hurts men as well. This is why you always get questions where a fellow is average (great) sized and he's always asking if it is enough because he feels insecure. As a normal real life honest woman I would not enjoy getting rammed by men considered hung in p*rn. I have a cervix and it would like to remain in tact. Not to mention that the reason men are so big in p*rn is because they need it as a visual aid, so their costumers can see what is going on.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I blame p*rn, and the video game age. It's seen as an achievement to unlock.

[hanscuit]

LOL so true I thought getting a 20 hit combo was supposed to be an achievement not time with your girlfriend that's just lame!

[hanscuit]

It's p*rn really and peer pressure from school a lot of boys are like MAN I MADE HER SQUIRT BEFORE YOU or SHE WAS SCREAMING MY NAME that sort of stuff which is fine you know but after awhile it becomes redundant and everyone is trying to do it which takes out all of the fun. p*rn exaggerates lots of stuff so whilte it looks fun on the screen, have fun cleaning up the sheets in real life bro..

[glamgamergal]

Yes this is it right here

[CuriousEddie]

Well, it is much better if it happens during cunnilingus!

[TLB2015]

I jus don't get wth guys are so obsessed wit it my boyfriend is and I've did it once wit him but takes forever and obviously wasn't good enough for him so now I feel pressure to do it and can't and feel like I'm not good enough for him bc some comments he makes bout watching porn n wishing I could squirt like the bitch on there smh it's jus really bugging me

[broadsword]

Female Ejaculation has been around since the dawn of time but was Allways perceived to of been peeing because of where it comes from. It's only since scientists have started to study sex in humans around the 1960's that it's not possible for men or women to urinate when highly sexually aroused.
It is due to a misconception that a woman ejaculate's when she orgasms. Some do but others can without orgasming. Guys love it because they think it is the zenith of sexual pleasure for a woman. A woman's orgasms can be faked and most guys would struggle to be sure , as discussed on many other occasions there are many signs but most can be faked. To my knowledge the trembling of the flesh between the bottom of the vaginal opening and anus is something that is very difficult if not impossible to fake.

[Asker]

I understand that there are individuals who can orgasm and squirt at the same time (note: some) but not many know that. So they put these sexual standards on women which can actually be quite psychologically scarring. As if society telling us we're not skinny or pretty enough here comes the men we like telling us we have to achieve this sexual ability or else they failed and in a sense we failed them. At least that is my experience.

[broadsword]

And I think you are spot on. It's a great shame and quite wrong that modern media and p*rn give such a misconception of what sex should be and how a woman should look and act it's all wrong. Sex or making love should be a sharing of pleasure how a person looks and their size and shape of anatomy actually has little baring on how much pleasure they can give. I wish women could understand how much they and their bodies are desired by guys. It has been to my knowledge the joining of two minds sexually that gives the most heightened pleasure and the giving of pleasure to your lover that is what makes sex even more enjoyable and bonding within a relationship. When younger I understand and have experienced sex for sex sake and enjoyed it but it is only a mere showdown of what can be achieved with someone you truly care for.

[Asker]

Some of the best sex sessions I have had have been when I am submerged into someone, when the connection is strong, and I did not even orgasm. I would honestly give up my ability to orgasm if I had more sex like that. During those sessions my body was heightened, I was in tune with my partner and everything felt good. There was no pain, he felt amazing. Normally biting sensitive parts of my body bothers me or having men go too deep, but when the sex is on a whole 'nother level I just can't get enough of ever sensation (even things that normally felt painful felt wonderful).

[Braveheart4321]

Squirting is a desired result because it absolutely confirms that you are orgasming without any doubt. As a guy I am often worried that she will lie about her orgasms, however if she is squirting there is no doubt.

[Asker]

My friend who is a regular squirter says she doesn't orgasm when she squirts. A sure fire way to make her orgasm with by accessing her clit, I have came multiple times with oral and not once did I squirt. In my opinion the oral orgasms are the bees knees. There are other cues you can look for like vaginal contractions, flushing red, jerking bodies etc... So next time you absolutely feel like you NEED to make her squirt just remember that you are putting unnecessary pressure on her and yourself. Rather than a moment to connect you are making sex into a job. Nice going.

[Braveheart4321]

Actually I'm a virgin, I have never seen a real orgasm, only ever p*rn, and that's all fake so its good to know that it is possible for a woman to squirt and not orgasm.

[Asker]

My friend always complains that after she squirts the sex ends cause he thinks his job is done, but in reality she was not even close to finishing. That's why I rather they go down on me first, now that is a guaranteed orgasm for me.

[Braveheart4321]

Glad to learn the truth, some girl someday may benefit from your advice

[BertMacklinFBI]

its not a new fad?

[Asker]

Not until recent years have men been concerned about women squirting, also seeing a women squirt in vintage p*rn is rare, but now there are hundreds of p*rn stars squeezing little hoes in their coochies in order to sell the show (yes a good chunk of them are fake).

[BertMacklinFBI]

"recent years" doesn't sound new to me, just sayin :D and men being concerned to me is irrelevant, since it first started determines how new/old it is not by how much popularity it is gaining in the recent years.

[Asker]

That does not make sense. Squirting is nothing new but the obsession over it is.

[BertMacklinFBI]

that's what im saying people aren't just getting obsessed with it now, they were into it way back too lol.

[Asker]

Before it was seen as incontinence and a new thing to research. Like a crazy fetish or something in style it has blown out of proportions. It's the new shiny car to own. Sure back then you had a few who were intrigued and were curious about it but now it is a MUST HAVE. "Dude I wanna make her squirt... gotta make her squirt... blablablabalbla... she can't squirt? so lame..." that's all you hear now. And do not say those men are just concerned about her orgasm cause it sounds pretty self fulfilling to me, like and experience you must have in order to gain a new status. Kind of like owning a new car. Lots of squirters I know in real life say that half the time they don't even orgasm when they squirt.

[BertMacklinFBI]

I've personally never heard any one of my friends actively having sex say they love making their gfs squirt or they want their gfs to squirt so that's why I have my own opinion lol. a lot of dirty conversations I've had with girls and squirting is never a topic mentioned, and as dirty as my dumb ass friends can be they never ever mention squirting hahaa. the only place I see squirting thrown around is on the internet, never reality, im not lying, maybe its just my area though who knows lol. :D if you're wondering why you're beginning to see it more and more in the places you visit a lot then I have no opinion on that cause I can't provide one which is weird because you say that's all you hear. then again, must be my area that makes all the difference because im drawing a blank :D

[Asker]

Probably, the men around here and on the internet are obsessed with it. There has not been one single guy who has not mentioned it. Funny thing is that none of them have ever been able to make me squirt, that was all on my own. When guys mention it from the very start I start to feel the pressure and I can't finish with them, I get really uncomfortable.

[BertMacklinFBI]

well add me to your list of guys that 'HAVENT' mentioned it yet hahaa:D and I would say you know your way around your own body better than anyone so you can actually make shit happen and they cant, it makes sense:) I just noticed some guy post something about squirting like 2 min ago, internet is the only place I ever see it but its the best place to just ask whatever you want cause of the anonymity so it makes sense.

[Tripzz]

It's not a trend or fad. For men, it's a milestone. The first time I made a girl squirt, I stood up like a Greek God and never looked back. :)

[Asker]

Wow good for you, I am so glad you got that notch under your belt. Bravo. I am guessing her anatomy or attraction to you had nothing to do with it. You did it all on your own...

[hanscuit]

It's a great thing im sure to be able to do that but some guys take it to unnecessary heights and make it a game like seriously? it's not that hard to do apparently since thousands of men are doing it on pornhub, redtube, oh and japanese p*rn all the time.. not that i know from experience but lets just say a friend who is very.. resourceful.

[Tripzz]

Sorry asker you asked for an opinion and you got one, no need to be butt hurt and passive aggressive, expect conflicting opinions or you are on the wrong site

[Asker]

Not butt hurt, just amused.

[jmmmfi]

I have no idea why this is such a big deal

[Asker]

Me either, sounds more like a burden than a pleasurable experience most of the time. Pressure on the man to achieve this "goal" and pressure on the woman to make sure he achieves said "goal." And if she can't they either come to the conclusion that a) he sucks in bed or b) she's not "special" enough.

[JayMGM]

It has become super popular in p*rn. I think it has to do with seeing a girl feel so much pleasure that she releases, that's what makes it attractive for men I think.

[Asker]

But women don't always feel pleasure when releasing. I think it's just a hedonistic desire every man subconsciously like because in such cases the woman is ejaculating, something mainly reserved to men. That's the only way men can probably relate to their female counterpart. But many men don't realize that squirting does not always equal orgasm.

[Asker]

So in a way it's for a man's pleasure, not a woman's, in such cases.

[Anonymous]

Well I like it because I enjoy female body fluids, pee, cum and breast milk.

[Asker]

Wow you sir are honest ahaha