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Why Do Women Pretend To Hate Sex?

When you think about a woman's body compared to a man's body... a woman's body is pretty much geared for sex, and they are geared to really enjoy sex. Think of it this way: -Women can experience 3 types of orgasms: Clitoral orgasm, vaginal orgasm, and a full body orgasm. -They clitoris has more nerves than the penis and is just made for sexual stimulation and is ultra sensitive. -Women can have sex multiple times. Men... after ejaculation, we are done! In short... you would think that having sex for women is much more pleasurable than it is for men. If this is the case, why do women act like they hate sex so much? I have met women who get really pissed or touchy when a guy even mentions sex or talks about it.. n even if they have known each other for a long time. Just recently, I was talking to a girl I knew for a year. I asked her a question about sex... she freaked out on me, asked me, "why do guys talk about sex so much?" cut me off from social media and won't talk to me. Why do women pretend to hate sex, if their bodies are really made to enjoy it?
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I mean... we are all adults, right? Why is sex such a taboo topic?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Two reasons:
    1. A lot of men are only concerned with their own pleasure. All those wonderful ways that a woman can enjoy sex, and guys are content just pounding away for five minutes and getting themselves off.

    2. Cultural/societial norms mean that a woman who does enjoy sex is seen as being easy/a slut/ a skank. We as men want a woman who knows what she's doing and enjoys doing it, but at the same time expect this to come naturally to her - she can't have learned it from anywhere else, we want be so amazing that she only has sex with us and just somehow knows.

    As a hetero man, I see women as beautiful, sexual, sensual creatures. They have so many beautiful parts, which we as men crave and which they as women find arousing. A guy can skilfully and lovingly use these to make her have so much pleasure that she will collapse breathlessly into your arms. This is what being a good lover is all about - a woman so exhausted from the pleasure you have given her that she wants nothing more than to please you in return, and to fall sated into the warm embrace of one that cares for her (yours) and fall asleep with strong, protective, loving arms around her all night.

  • Some women enjoy sex, others are indifferent, others are straight out frigid.
    A survey of marriages here in Australia found that 25 per cent of marriages were without sex (usually because the woman did not want it); another 25 per cent had little sex, once or twice per month (again, the woman); and the other other 50 per cent of marriages involved sex several times per week.
    What this means is that about half the female population can be relied upon to be either frigid or indifferent on the matter of sex.
    Aside from that, the mediaeval social taboos about sex that persist in Western culture tell females that 'nice' girls are not supposed to enjoy sex. Consequently, 'nice' girls pretend to not enjoy or be particularly interested in sex.

Most Helpful Girls

  • You're only thinking of the pleasure and not the pain~ I'm a virgin so I'm not 100% sure, but for guys there's no pain, they just stick it in. Some girls (especially the first time) are in pain during intercourse~ Some girls, after the first time, are still in pain during intercourse. I've experimented a few times by myself and every time it hurt, a lot. So if I can't enjoy masturbating then I doubt I'll enjoy sex.-. But from the comments not all women hate it~ Some are probably embarrassed by it, like your friend. I get upset too if I hear about sex too much, but just because it's embarrassing not because I hate it~ But that's just because I'm a very shy person haha~ I know quite a few girls who talk about sex "like a guy".

  • i love sex but when i hear guys talking about sex literally ALL THE TIME it makes me really annoyed and pissed. not everything is about sex we dont want to hear how big your dick is or how many girls youve banged in the past month. it makes me uncomfortable when my guy friend sit around talking about sex especially since they have a bet going of who can fuck me first but thats a different story. i love sex i even love masturbating but just not all the time

    • Lol... I just simple asked her, "What are your views on sex?"

    • lol sorry

  • A lot of women have yet to tap their full sexual potential. They get frustrated because their partners don't know how to please them. Some men don't even know what a clit is.
    I interviewed my grandmother for a paper I was writing about female sexuality and she said she'd only had a handful of orgasms in her entire life. No wonder she said she didn't like sex!

    • Lol... Well, I read a lot of books. When I go to the bookstore, I also read a ton of books about sex, orgasms and women. So... yeah... lol.

    • Well that's good. I'm sure you'll make an excellent lover.

    • Lol.. We'll see! I'm actually still a virgin XD... a virgin who is interested in learning about sex XD.

  • I don't know any women who pretend to hate sex. I do know a girl who actually does not like sex. But she's different.

    Girls might orgasm differently but their minds are not *usually* as sexual as males' are. More testosterone = more libido

    • Oh and men are less picky about sexual partners

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Hondtly, I love sex. I don't know why someone act that way. It's jus sex... we all have it.

  • I don't pretend to nor do I actually hate it haha don't generalize all women!

  • Maybe for some yes... for me, I don't hate it... I just avoid because I would love to do it only to my husband (future) :)

  • Because of many centuries of being juged about being sexually active... I think this is merely a cultural issue, we didn't have the right of enjoying sex ( mainly due to religious beliefs), so it's difficult to get rid of all of those prejudices

    • Who can revoke the right of enjoyment of an act you do privately in the bedroom? That doesn't make any sense.

    • Sorry, I think I didn't express myself correctly (English is not my native language), what I meant is that women weren't supposed to enjoy sex freely

  • We like sex. I would love to have sex. There are simply no suitable partners around.

  • They don't pretend to hate sex, they're just fed up with society degrading them as sluts for enjoying sex. A guy can e joy sex, fuck how many girls he want and he gets praised. If a woman does the same thing, she's usually heavily criticized. Centuries of criticism has an effect on overall mentality toward sex. They do enjoy sex, but you can't expect most women to be as liberating with sexual subjects/topics the same way guys are. And many are sexalt repressed because of religious upbringing.

    My sister and I were talking about sex ed and she mentions she never masturbates because she rather wait to do sexual activity with her future husband. Masturbation is simply relief, it's not a true sexual activity. When someone won't masturbate because of religion, then they're also more likely to not be too keen on sexual subjects.

  • They enjoy sex. They just on average have a much lower drive to have sex, especially if commitment isn't part of the deal.

    Lol at all the women blaming it on men though. If you want to have sex or be open about sex do so, no men are stopping you.

  • I love sex. I'm willing to go at it whenever my fiancé does, same vice versa. We have sex about 3-4x a day.

  • Women don't hate sex if they are honest with themselves. Most women I've ever been with love it, perhaps more than any guy I've ever heard of. However, in the U. S. we have a strong rape culture and as a result women are taught to use sex as a weapon and is something they aren't to enjoy or are supposed to be made to enjoy as a result things get really messed up in everyone's head including women, to the point that they don't enjoy it. Thankfully, it's starting to go away, but we have a long way to go.

  • Isn't it funny how women blame men for everything, including their own inability of understand and master their own sexuality? It's always men's fault. LOL.

  • What turns men on often often doesn't work for us and even brings us pain. So females who have never had good lovers may develop a distaste for sex.

    • Also, many women LOVE sex, but only with certain partners that offer some combination of physical and emotional attraction. Too many guys thing they're entitled to sex with ANY women just because he is horny.

    • For the guys below... It's hard for women to "train" themselves to orgasm from 5 min of jackhammer pumping. Some guys spend very little time on foreplay, even knowing what their partners want. They think women are just being difficult because it takes longer for our bodies to heat up than men's by design. Unfortunately, guys are wired to get impatient when they're horny and even normally good lovers sometimes get that way. It's not guy's fault as much as its a natural mismatch in the way our bodies work.

  • I love sex. I think this might have to do with women being labeled trashy or easy if they are outspoken about their sexuality. Where as a man is congratulated and a playboy.

  • I love it and it seems to surprise people including men so I unno.

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