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Losing ur virginity how painful it is guys?

One of the most scaring thing to me is losing my virginity.. almost all of my friends told me that it was insanely painful.. they said they couldnt walk well afta their ist tym sex, bleedin, nd even more painful when they were peein.. Honestly, i really wanna try it.. but im not ready at all because of the rumors plus my bf isn't experienced.. So guys what ur opinions? How painful it is? And if u had to feel it all the tym to hav sex would u do it?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Once more (it's general advice):

    Just do NOT plan a "I-lose-my-virginity-evening or -day"
    Do it with a guy you love and who loves you.
    Do NOT decide “It will happen on Saturday,2013 , Feb,31st at 23:02"
    Just decide, “From now on, Iwill be prepared to let it happen when everything is right, when we’re in the mood, when we both want it.”

    Let it happen gradually, doing more and more , gradually discovering and exploring each other's mind and body, pushing limits over a period that can take months:
    Making out, then light fingering, oral, heavy fingering, until you're completely familiar with the other one's body and reactions, likes and dislikes, limits.

    Then one day, unplanned, when you're both really in the mood, both relaxed, really wanting and horny, on birth control and using condoms, Morning After Pill ready in a drawer (in case of a Friday evening accident-accidents happen on Friday evenings before a long Easter weekend, all pharmacies closed-Murphy's Law) and no one possibly disturbing you (switch off those cell phones!) then softly go all the way: 1 finger, 2 fingers (3= girth of the penis) Just that little bit more than the evening or week before. His penis head just gently teasing her vulva... and then...

    The keywords are GENTLY, CARING and “GIRL WANTING IT”

    It will probably not hurt that way.
    The first time will not be fantastic but the next times will be.
    Success!!

    For most girls it does NOT really hurt if the guy is caring.
    My wife described it as 'a slight burning, soon forgotten'.

    Don't forget to lock the door and to switch off those cell phones!
    If you're not relaxed enough and if it's legal in your state, a glass of white wine can help a lot and, yes, I tasted American wines from California: they're quite tasty.
    (don't get drunk!)
    In short:
    Just 'let it happen' gradually, bit by bit, gently, as the relation with the guy you love grows more intimate, taking the necessary precautions.

    Success!!

    • Omg this is awesome... i will try it :">

    • Jack's nailed it

    • FYI: this isn't mere theory, I tested it. (angel face)

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  • its fun for boy because i have experienced it but really painful for girls. i remember when i was 18 and put my penis in her pussy a little part of it and she start shouting and there was some blood in her pussy but when i went slowly in to her i think it becomes enjoyable for her. its painful in start but feels good

    • How can becomes enjoyable so fast? :S

    • when go inside slowly its ok but little painful but if you are in hurry and go inside fastly then you will really can't walk.

    • Omg its like psycho movie

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Most Helpful Girls

  • For me it did hurt a little bit but I didn't bleed, it took a year for my hymen (the thing guys say "I Popped her cherry) it tooka t year for mine to actually "pop" wasn't till recently that happened. wasn't embarrassing at all just a little bit of blood. But if you use lube or like me get insanely wet it makes it a bit better, Im super tiny down their so anytime I do have sex it feels like the first time for me and my partner its really nice. ALL I can advise you is to make sure you're ready not physically bcs ur body is naturally ready but mentally, do you love him are you doing it for the right reason or bcs u just want to try it? And USE PROTECTION I can not express that enough, don't take any chances unless your married.

    • WHat do u mean by pop.. i dun get it.. :O I love him.. nd he said he wanna try.. i said i do too.. but mentally im not ready.. i kinda girl who easily get wet too anyway.. but He nva had sex.. im afraid that it will hurt me even more.. cuz he's not experienced

    • it just means the hymen thing (ur cherry as guys call it) the skin tissue breaks, and the majority of girls bleed a little, mine however took awhile to actually pop bcs it wasn't till recently I had a guy go really far in me and we had sex often so yup. then wait, sex isn't everything tbh. its not going to hurt you bcs he's not experienced lmao its going to hurt bcs uve never had sex, relax it hurts everyone for the first couple times, eventually feels amazing. and the pain you have when u first have sex you'll miss, some like me who do kegels down there, makes it tighter so everytime we have sex it feels like the first, (:

    • oh and by the way you don't feel it pop neither does he, itll just be a bit of blood

  • It depends, for some women it's sore, some its not, at most its uncomfortable, just relax and use, lubricant

    • Lubricant? No sex shop here..

    • Well in that case you'll have to rely on your own nature lubricant, take time and ensure that your bf spends time getting you fully aroused so your vagina gets wet enough for penetration. Go at your own pace and its when you feel ready and not your boyfriend. Most of all relax, if you tense up then you will find penetration either sore or impossible.

    • *natural * not nature..

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • i feel that i should lose my virginity with a girl worth losing it with.. i dont want to have sex for my first time with a slut!

    • That's wise, indeed.

    • My regards dear sir!

  • stop yapping and go have sex. if you worry how painful it is you'll remain virgin for the rest of your life!!!

  • I suggest you wait till you are married.

    • That's what 5% ~6% of Americans do and have been doing. :D

    • waiting won't make it not hurt.

  • ... how does your significant other being inexperienced matter? If you are scared that it may hurt because he is inexperienced then go use a cucumber or an experienced guy for practice then!

    If you really like/love him all this should matter because in the end you won't regret doing it.

  • Can I follow you...
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    Bcoz My dad says, always follow your dream :-)

  • For guys... awesome... for girls... go slow and use lubricant

    • Unfair :/

    • didn't set the rules. sorry

    • If the guy gives her real good foreplay, a girl's body can provide plenty of natural lubricant.

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  • It's a different feeling for every girl and it was not painful to me at all

  • Not discouraging you
    But... I've been with my girl since two years... We meet once in a week... We foreplay, do everything but intercourse. She hasn't lost her virginity till now. I just rub my Dick on her pussy. Even if it pushes her a little, she starts crying. I love her a lot, so I haven't yet gathered the courage to tear her hymen. She's 20 now. Waiting for the marriage :)

    • I don't know why.. it sounds sweet.. hihi

    • marriage doesn't make it not hurt, you still need to work up to it.

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