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My first time having sex - I make him cum 3 times and he doesn't even try to make me orgasm?

Last week, my boyfriend and I had sex. It was my first time ever (I waited to find a guy whom I felt comfortable with and whom I loved). I'm apparently the 2nd girl he has had sex with. We spent all Saturday cuddling on a motel room and he initiated it the first time by rubbing me under my skirt. I made him cum by sucking him off and he jumps off the bed to go wash up and so do I cuz he came all over me.. After an hour of laying together The second time I initiated it cuz I was still turned on.. I told him not to cum in me cuz I'm not on the pills yet, but he did it anyways, and we both freaked out. (I took plan b later that day - I'm not pregnant, thank God). We both jumped off the bed scared that time. The third time we both did it and I made him cum again.. And again he came on me and left. Not once did he make sure to do anything to me to make me orgasm... Which really, really sucks because it was my first time. When I told him about it after, he got upset at himself and stopped talking to me for a while. He then told me that he doesn't know how to make me cum cuz the last girl never let him make her. What do I do? What is this.. Shouldn't he Want to make me orgasm like the way I do for him? I want to make him cum over and over and I did.. Even though it was my first time. Why doesn't he want that for me? Please help. I feel a little sad and unwanted after all this. He's all about talking when I tell him things I'd do to make him cum, but he never ever mentions anything he would do for me.. Is this pointless?
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Thanks for the input everyone. Of course I will work with him. I just wasn't sure of myself and I doubted if he even wanted me for a second which was stupid and I shouldn't have. I really do love him and we have nothing but time to learn together
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This will be fun =) I can't wait to be with him again. Thank you again for giving me constructive feedback!
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  • It sounds like he is still kind of a virgin in the way that he never got the chance to get the others off so he is clueless as to what to do. As a guy I would rather give her oral and make her cum before I cum inside her, as I do not want to taste my own stuff or no guys stuff at all, so if that twinkie is cream filled I probably won't want to eat it, this can be solved by simply saying to him, this is my vag put two fingers in and curl your fingers up like saying come here, while licking here (point to your clit), then tell him do not stop until my hips buck so bad I give you whiplash! If he refuses to do that for you then you will need to tell him if he will not then he can get better associated with Rosey Palms and her five sisters, as you ain't givin out no more freebies, and he now has to work for the orgasms he wants! Personally myself I love eating a woman off and still want to keep going but they say stop they are too sensitive, and it spoils my enjoyment, so make him learn to enjoy eating you off! REALLY? IT IS NOT HARD TO MAKE WOMEN CUM IF YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND HOW TO DO IT! I mean hell I have about 90% - 100% success rate and most times it takes less than five minutes! But I also use psycho-sexual techniques too as great sex is not just the body but the mind too! When you combine physical skills and pumping her mind too she will see stars, fireworks, and hearts!

  • Yeah, you need to undestand that to make a boy cum is easy, but a girl? an a chalenge, so dont feel like you are a hero and he is an idiot, but he should be more concern about his preformance, if he is not then maybe he is not the right one, for me giving pleasure to a girl is the most exitening thing about sex.

    • Lol nothing from my post makes it sound like I think I'm a hero. I know it's easier for a guy to cum. My point is that it's something I wanted for him, he didn't even try to make me cum. Not that he couldn't or that he did something wrong, it's that he didn't do anything at all. But like others have said, he's as inexperienced as me and we both need to learn and get comfortable with each other.

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  • Females don't orgasm as easily as a guy does... That is why there is the question "was she faking it?". You kind of shot his ego down by telling how you felt, which is understandable why you did but I don't think you realize how difficult it can be at times for a female to orgasm. So next time you two have sex, here is what you need to do...

    For starters, slow down. By slowing down you will be able to explore one another more and figure out what it is that you enjoy sexually. Let him touch you. If he doesn't touch you the way you want to be then put his hands where you want them, tell him what you want from him. For instance, a man will never known where my favorite place to be touched/kissed is unless I initiate to go there - that is because it is an abnormal place to kiss lol. Ummm... He is still somewhat inexperienced himself so be patient with him. Ask him to give you head and try to relax so you can enjoy it. It can definitely be awkward the first time as a female but for some women it can often be better than sex itself.

    There is more to sex than just the action... the connection plays a really big part as a woman. So just take in the moment and love it.

    • "Females don't orgasm as easily as a guy does" - um? "That is why there is the question "was she faking it?" .. " - not the reason for the question!

    • You think that a female orgasms just as easy as a man? --- Why do you think that is a question?

    • @Lovin_U

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  • He doesn't know what to do or how to do it. That is to be expected. You're going to need to teach him what to do and how to do it. Yes, currently you're better at this than he is. There is no shame in that. Let's not be sexist about it. Please be patient and teach him. :)

  • Because he's a selfish prick, or sounds like one anyway. Break up with him - find someone who is willing to go down town on you.

    • Sex should never be one sided, either.

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  • To me it simply sounds like he's inexperienced really. Just... sit down you two and TALK ABOUT IT! don't come here for help, instead go to him. Bring it up, ask him about it. He got upset about himself, and that shows he's probalbyin terrested in improving. Also don't forget sex is never the best your first time.

    So you two should sit down and talk about how you can do better, and how he can do better to make you cum. It does not need to be penetration. He could finger you, eat you out... lots of ideas. And if he says he does not know, don't be mad at him. Instead pitty/ care for him and offer to help him out, educate him. And let him test out his knowledge on you.

    Sex is, i dares ay 70% about comunication. And to comunicate good takes time and practice. You've just started learning. I'm sure he'll get better :)

  • he's just a selfish person

  • well he gave his reason. he doesn't know how. so teach him. show him or tell him what you would like to do

    unfortunately a lot of younger guys are rather selfish about sex OR don't really know how to please a woman. it is something that many learn with age or once being taught. so maybe give him some pointers

  • Take control a little more next time. Introduce him to face sitting, perhaps.

    You need to teach him that he has to please you.

  • he seems inexperienced. I wouldn't worry about it too much - he'll come around with time. You have to teach him that getting you off is rewarding.

  • Well you'll have to start treating him like he's a virgin, because he is. IF he's willing to try to do things, you can offer to help him out.

  • Try 69.
    Push his head down there :p
    He'll make you cum I'm no time!

    • I will =) looks like I'm gonna have to tell him everything I want and how I want it, so.. Let the sex games begin!

  • what do you do? go on this adventure with your bf and start learning together.

  • Selfish lovers suck lol. Sorry about that.

    I'd offer advice, but some of the other guys offered some good stuff already. Goodluck : )

    • Thanks =)

  • All those questions you are asking us, you need to be asking him.

  • What a loser

  • Sounds like he's trash, honestly... Talk to him about it and try to show/tell him how to do make you cum, if he won't even try to change I would honestly tell you to run in the opposite direction. You don't wanna spend months or years with a dude that doesn't care about your satisfaction.

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