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Should I stay with my boyfriend that is obsessed with blowjobs?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 years. We met when I was 20 years old and he was 33 years old, I am now 30 years old and he is 43 years old. I have given him blowjobs everyday for the past 10 years, he is obsessed with receiving head. He is very rough, he literally skull fucks my face. I have told him many times that we shouldn't do it so often because my throat burns and sometimes I can even feel burning near my vocal cords. My doctor did a biopsy of my throat because of scar tissue and said I had chronic inflammation and that if I didn't stop what I was doing, I will eventually end up with throat cancer. Also, I had braces as a teenager and had perfect teeth, now I have a severe overbite (top teeth cover more than half of my bottom teeth), I also have TMJ. My jaw pops and cracks all the time. I recently caught him messaging filthy prostitutes (men and women) to meet up for oral sex! His excuse is he don't want me to get cancer. Seriously? I love him and other than his blowjob obsession he is the perfect man. Are there any men out there that are not obsessed with blowjobs that actually prefer sex? I mean I would be fine with doing it every now and then but everyday is just too much! Also, he has bad teeth so he can not return the favor, the last time he ate me out I got a really bad infection. I can't stay with someone that I have to kill myself and dislocate my jaw to keep him from cheating, I'm just afraid the next man will be the same.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I strongly suggest you get into a couple's therapist and work through this issue. If my lady suddenly told me I couldn't have anal sex anymore, I'd be looking for a therapist. I love all kinds of sex but I'm very kinky and anal is my favorite and the one that is far and away the most gratifying. Hypnosis therapy may be an option but you're looking down the barrel of some painful surgery to put your mouth back in shape and he has to learn to 1) be more of a gentleman when you do go down on him and 2) learn that it will be an occasional treat and not a steady diet. If he won't go, you need to dump him for your health.

  • should you stay with a guy who ignores your health concerns, and personal preferences in favor of his own pleasure? or he'll go out and cheat on you to fulfill his own needs with the lame excuse that it's actually a benefit to you?

    what do you think? should you get cancer or have your requests go ignored for a guy

Most Helpful Girls

  • You're having doubts after seeing those messages? It almost sounds like a threat! You either ignore your health problems, or he'll cheat on you. Well if he's fine with prostitutes blowing him everyday let him be, dump his ass.

  • Drop his ass like a hot pan, lady! Doesn't matter if he's otherwise perfect or if you love him, some relationships are just bad news. This is one of them. He doesn't care about your health or love you. Fuck that guy

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  • You should seriously dump him for messaging the prostitutes alone. I also think it's way inconsiderate of him still wanting head when you have all these conditions that I technically think are his fault from the constant demanding of it.

  • You knew the answer to this before you posted here.

  • You should definitely leave.

  • For the sake of your health and personal well-being, you may have to get rid of him

  • You are too sweet for him. I hope you find someone who will treat you right.

    • Thank you! I hope so too!

  • Judging by the fact your asking random on the internet you know the answer

  • Your health id the most important thing and u got to tell him that and ask him to limit the bjs but if be trying to find men and women for a bj u gonna leave him cause he seems that he doesn't care about u and all he wants is a bj also u should have a guy that can eat u out also. I am a virgin but i think actual sex would be better than oral. I think oral sex is more like foreplay and i am gonna eat a girl out no matter what even if she doesn't give me a bj if she does that's like a bonus and also i wouldn't skull fuck her face unless she likes it rough but not to rough u got to find a better man to protect your health.

  • Restrict him to one a week if he doesn't like it has got his hand to help

  • Leave him or have an open relationship

  • You really need mental help. It's obvious that he doesn't give a shit about you. What about YOUR sexual pleasure? All he cares about is him getting off. How can you love an asshole like that? You either think very little of your self and are desparate, or you're really stupid.

    • I guess I do think very little of myself and I guess you could say I'm desperate as well. I know that I am stupid for putting up with it. I have severe anxiety and never leave the house, I can not drive or go grocery shopping because of my anxiety. I am scared to be alone. I guess I know what I need to do and that I deserve better, I guess I mainly wanted to know that there is men out there that would be of some support to me by thinking he is a pig. I just need to know there is men out there that think there is more to life than getting a blowjob no matter what the cost. I just feel so trapped :(

  • I am also pretty rough in blowjobs, with the difference that my girlfriend has no physical consequences and she also enjoys it. Your case is different, but if your question is "are all men obsessed with rough bjs" I reply "probably yes". If your question is "shall I dump the facefucker" I'd say "yes".

  • I have a similar sexual pattern with my girlfriend where she gives me deepthroat bjs daily. She's never had any negative health effects even though I enjoy being quite rough.
    I would suggest getting a second medical opinion. I have never heard of blowjobs causing scar tissue or cancer. It would be a shame to lose a long term successful relationship over not wanting to give head anymore.

  • If I found a woman willing to do that much for me I would treat her like a princess. Where did he find an angel like you in the first place? I love blowjobs, but am not into skull fucking at all. Even just doing it as a little foreplay is enough for me. I don't see why the penis should ever hit the back of your throat. He sounds really selfish. I don't see how a guy planning to cheat on you with disease carrying prostitutes, could ever be considered a good guy. You deserve a lot better.

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