Questions about a BJ situation?

I was giving my guy a BJ and I can rarely make him cum from them. He tells me all the time that it's really hard to make him. When I was going down on him he was thrusting a few times towards my face and moving around but when I continued to do the motion that he was into, he just stopped and laid there. Was I misreading that he liked that motion? After about 20 minutes of me giving him head and not cumming I told him he needed to help me out and tell me what he wanted and all he replied with was "no you got it". Was he holding back and just enjoying it, or hinting that he was going to cum soon? We ended up switching to having sex (he always wants to after I give him head and he doesn't cum) and after about 45 seconds he stopped then started again for a few seconds then stopped again, trying to last. The fact that he needed to cum so fast after having sex, is that an indication that he would have cum soon if I kept giving him head?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Every man is different, I don't lose my load quickly when women give me head either. But when two women do it, even though the physical sensations are not as good, I do.
    Much of it is inside our heads. Maybe you can change something up, wear something different, role play, use some lube, make him notice that you like it, and most importantly encourage him to cum.

    The thing to remember is that a man is in control when having sex with you, therefor it's much easier to get there. Also, pleasing a man orally is much harder than most women tend to believe. It's not at all strange to ask what he likes and get him to feel comfortable telling you. Communication is a part of sex after all.

    Maybe you're really pretty and he can only get there while looking at you ;)

  • Everybody is different. Just accept it. Knowing he probably won't cum should not frustrate you if it doesn't bother him. It sounds like your sex life is pretty good together, so suck it if you want to, and then switch positions to finish him. One day he'll surprise you, and you better have a plan for what you're going to do with that stuff when he does.

    • Swallow it like a very happy girl!

Most Helpful Girls

  • You almost made him cum orally that time reported.
    It won't take much more research in BJ videos and other tips on line to have enough ammo on hand to find which works for him and which are duds.
    Among all polls, the vag is always voted superior to BJs but that said, some report awesome BJs from dedicated souls, e. g. ever heard of a guy saying his teeth would tingle it was so great? oohlala!
    You can do it.

    Other tings that can take him over the top (this is cheating) while giving the BJ -
    he's watching a porn that has always made him instantly hard
    he's reading an erotic porn story and you're keeping up tempo with the action

  • It's not your fault, it's just figuring out where his sweet spot is that once he's at that stage of being aaaallllmost there is able to tip him over the edge. I try changing tact and speed/rhythm very quickly to something which I know drives him crazy, just keep 'practicing' and doing different things and you'll figure out what will work, but a sudden change in pace can be the thing get him to the end.

  • It's hard to fuck up a blow job, your vajay will make him cum fast than your mouth. In other words no he was saying you didn't need any pointers, be happy he's not a 5minute man!

    • I wish he would cum after 5 minutes, I would love to give him BJ's before work!

    • Lol no you don't, no one wants sex to be over in 5minutes unless your on a time limit.

    • Well... lol... I guess sometimes it would be nice. If we are together we have to have like an hour and a half for him to cum if I want to suck him. :(

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  • Sex is MUCH easier than BJs
    1) takes a LOT of research
    2) lots of practicing technique
    3) getting to know his buttons - not all guys have the same ones

    Tenacity!

  • Some guys can't cum easy from oral.
    Thankfully I am not one of them, oral actually feels better to me than vag.(by a tiny bit) lol
    He might have been holding out, but that would not be fair, making you blow him for 20 minutes.
    I can cum twice in that time.

  • not really, no. Some guys (like myself, actually) can't usually cum to oral. But it makes us UBER sensitive, so sex doesn't take much lol.

  • Masturbation before sex can influence how long it takes or if he does. I would ask if he does and if maybe not to when you two plan on having sex.

  • TELL HIM TO STOP MASTURBATING. THIS IS THE CAUSE. EXPERIENCED/MATURE WOMEN KNOW THIS. MEN THINKS ITS A MANLY COMMENDABLE THING TO LAST AND TAKE PRIDE IN NOT CUMMING. IT ALSO MAKES WOMEN INSECURE WHICH KEEPS HER IN PLACE

    • Did I just read that right? Keep her in place by making her insecure?

    • lol. its an older experienced mans wisdom. women only react... the wrost women to love is an overly previledge woman who thinks too highly of herself and entitled... same reason woman can't be with arrogant men. its not to put her down but to keep a balance and reality. trust me, its not abuse.

    • men who can get a lot of women know this

  • I don't know but you sound like a great girlfriend :) maybe try some foreplay then the BJ and that will work?

    • He doesn't like foreplay for some weird reason, he wants me to touch it a few times through his pants but then he takes them off and has me go down on him. He also has a "gasping" reaction when I do touch him at first.