I fucked my boss behind my husband's back. What to do?

[Anonymous]

So my husband has to work abroad for a couple of months. I invited my boss over for Dinner. A lot of my colleagues have invited him over at least once so nothing intended at first. I cooked for him, we talked about people from work, and then we just fucked. It wasn't a romantic atmosphere or anything but than again that's not the way I like it. I know it sounds stupid but it reminded me from when I was in college and had this guy over, cooked for him and then he was like let's just fuck. He wasn't over excited like most guys who try to please me, but it feeled like I had to please him. Like he was the one who I needed to do my very best for to please, and that excites me a lot. With my boss now it was just the same. I never have that kind of wild sex with my husband because it always feels like I'm the one who stands above him. Now it was the other way around. He stayed cool and made me feel like I had to show what I could do. I never thought that I would cheat on my husband but because of this situation I got weak because it remembered me of that guy in college who gave me the time of my life. Now it was the same. After we were done he just got dressed, stayed cool and told me that I was good and went back home. Then the guilt kicked in. I don't know if I should tell my husband. I am actually sure that he would forgive me but I think it will do less good than when I'd keep quiet. My boss did tell one guy at work that he fucked me and made a joke that he didn't fuck me, but "I fucked him like a pornstar". Which makes clear that he doesn't take the whole thing seriously and might tell it to more people, although my colleague is pretty sure he was the only one who knows and the secret is safe with him. He just knows the boss best. So what do I do now? My boss acts as before so my job is not in trouble, but do you think he would tell more people? Cause that could get him in trouble too right? And should I keep it a secret to my husband?

[Paris13]

With the Mouse away, the cat did play and this is what went down in the kitchen when you had this steer over, where you both ate, drank and were merry work mates and now you feel your goose could be cooked if he starts chit chatting around the water fountain and whether to keep your secret meat recipe left in the oven so hubby doesn't smell anything.
I am not one to point fingers, sweetie. He who is without sin, cast the first stone, I always say. I have been in some toil and trouble myself in my own life, with a husband I left behind in Egypt and with coming back to the states, I got lonely and did some savoring myself. However, I ended up telling him, he forgave me a million times but my affair went on with this Coptic living closer to me and it was Muslim vs. Coptic for a year. End result it became burnt, not even half baked: I lost my marriage, my family's respect and the Coptic wasn't totally prepared to be two birds of a feather, this turkey...
As wise as I am and knowing what I call the domino affect, this whole raw deal could end up escalating, falling and falling. If you tell hubby, who may forgive you, he may end up throwing it in your face or something worse... it could Backfire altogether. With boss man, who is Now spilling the beans and I can't guarantee he won't spill more or even the other schmo won't start with more lunch time Munchies.
Let sleeping dogs lie. It was a one time fling with no intent to get to the top. Keep this one under wraps on a short leash by not talking turkey to hubby. However, be your own straw boss and set the record straight with Bob it was a mistake and you would appreciate it if wouldn't be the topic of conversation for every Tom, Dick and Harry to hear about... it's over, it's Never happening again.
Don't let the past follow you again. Keep it as a skeleton in the closet and close this chapter. If you are having problems with hubby, work through it... Don't let the Grim Reaper come knocking at door.
Good luck. xx

[SammyGurl]

This is just sad every way you look at it, especially when you assume your poor husband will forgive you. Here he is working abroad and you are at Hope bed hopping. If you are the least bit remorseful, which it sounds like you are not; you need to tell your husband soon before things get worse. If by the remote chance your husband finds it in his heart to forgive you, you need to get some sort of counseling to find out why you just jump into bed with anyone. The other thing, if your husband does forgive you, you need to quit the job and never ever speak to or be around your boss again. As for your boss, he is a low life bottom feeder preying on and using his position of power over you to have sex with you, hats disgusting too.

[Belleza2]

I usually do not state my opinions on something stupid as this but here goes:
you are the reason most men think all women are nothing but gold-digging whoring cunts so I thank you for giving me that kind of reputation.
what the hell is wrong with you? If you never wanted to get married then you should not have and you sound like my aunt - her husband used to be abroad a lot and what did she do fuck every guy she saw on the street.
And how dumb can you be yes women get the blame for gossiping but men are the actual gossipers so of course he will say that he fucked you to his work buddies and yes you should tell you husband everything.
you know, I am just wasting my breath here

[SolitaireBond]

You are the lowest of the lowest.

A complete an utter lowlife fucking whore.

I sincerely hope that your poor husband drags you through court and takes you for everything you have.

You will please pass on my sympathies and condolences to your husnand, and to give him this piece of advice... To dump and discard trash like you... And to MOVE ON preferably AS FAR AWAY AS POSSIBLE FROM YOU.

You totally discuss me, I just hope you are proud of yourself in now giving women such an appalling name.

[thisGUYknows]

Preach!

[Blueeyes81]

Tell your husband. And let him decide what is best for him going forward. It just sounds like to me you are downplaying it and trying to justify it so you don't have to tell. If he cheated would you want to know? If you want to fuck like your single, be single.

[OmniSlug]

^ THIS.

[cavmanier]

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[AnnVdB]

ghahahahahh :D

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

I feel like this isn't real. This is some douchebag practicing his p*rn writing skills online.

[coquettish]

Why do I feel like you got this story from somewhere? But let's say you didn't.
First.. "I cooked for him, we talked about people from work, and then we just fucked."
We. Just. Fucked.
SERIOUSLY?
UH? WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU WOMAN?
You don't JUST FUCK! NONSENSE!
Second, YOU TELL YOUR HUSBAND IMMEDIATELY! He deserves to know!
I feel so sorry for husband. I really do.
And guilt and she WILL live on with you forever.
I'm actually kind surprised you felt guilty.
You don't deserve to be called a 'wife'.
Shame on you.

[Bitmap]

Your either going to get a divorce, or come clean n tell em what happened n say you'll go to counseling
cuz if he finds out he'll leave anyways

[crazyincalifornia]

I read the first 5 sentences. that's 5 more than most people that just read the header.
Simply tell him you need $500.
Even Steven.

[Ygritte_snow]

Uhm...:

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[Zango91]

You know the right thing ygritte snow.

[lumos]

I feel sorry for your husband to have married a low-life cheater.

[jackyct]

Fucking slut. Hoes like you are the reason why people don't want to marry no more. While your man is abroad making money for the two of you, you betray him. No respect for neither your man and marriage, eh.

[Versz]

U miss deserve a cooki.

[thisGUYknows]

Daayum

[HonestWhiteGuy]

well said jacky

[BuchitaBuchys]

People like you piss me off.

Just tell your poor husband. It wasn't "just fucked", the way you say it so nonchalantly sickens me, seeing as you have a husband. Tell him and hopefully he divorces you. I feel so bad for him being tied down to a cheating, lying person.

I don't know if everyone is meant for love, but you're one of the people who definitely don't deserve it as of now or until you grow the fuck up. -_-

[SuperMommie13]

Are you out of your fucking mind!!! You tell your husband what happen he deserves to know and are you seriously worried about your bosses job? You should be worried about divorce. Honestly you need to get your priorities sraight

[GlamPod]

Did you use protection?

[Qwazihomo]

... what the hell

[GlamPod]

I'm asking because she could be pregnant and that'd be just another horrible thing to tell her husband.

[Tractorbeam]

For God's sake, don't tell your husband. It might be good for your conscience, but it will cause him years of needless suffering.
Your boss isn't likely to open his mouth.

[Red_Arrow]

It appears a troll kicked out a great p*rn story and is sitting back laughing at the comments. Notice she has not replied to any of them.

And if she is not a Troll, then holy bat-shit! How clueless and evil!

[CommieDearest]

My condolences to your husband that you are his wife.

[thisGUYknows]

Ooohhh snap

[oddsonchances]

Well sounds like your boss is the gobby type so looks like the only option open to you is tell your hubby and beg for forgiveness . Well once you have told hubby he is not going to trust you working there and sounds like your boos has just used you feel a bit of fun.
Sorry if I sound harsh but feel free to pm me if I can help you win any advice I will. I hope everything works out ok for you.

[Meedo]

If you are planning to see a psychologist and get this fixed and make sure you never get week again... then don't tell him. You have to fix this.

Otherwise.. you two deserve to move on away from each other.

[vet31bSoldier]

you message me and gimme all the steamy details!

wait what?

[thegreennss]

You should let your boss know not to tell other people. I don't know your husband but if you feel like it could ruin your marriage and you want to keep it then don't tell him. Otherwise tell him if you think he'll forgive you.

[Anno_Domini]

She has zero leverage against her boss. He can fire her if he wants to. He certainly doesn't sound like a nice or caring guy.

[thegreennss]

Yea he'll fire her right after he fucked her because she doesn't want him to go around telling everyone when she's married. You need to ask yourself whats more important to you though, your marriage or your job.

[Anno_Domini]

That's why it's considered unethical to have relationships with subordinates in a company.

[thisGUYknows]

You did the wrong thing. Now so the right thing and tell your husband. It's up to him what to do now. You no longer have any say in that relationship the way I see it. Or you can cover up your lust with selfishness. Up to u

[J1nnishere]

The problem is. It'd not this one deed that's the problem... for it to happen, something went wrong a long time ago. ... this is why the only thing left for her husband is to end her while he's still young so he can find himself a pretty young thing

[Mesonfielde]

How on earth do people deceive themselves into claiming "oh we JUST FUCKED and there was nothing there" hello? If you are not in control of your own behavior, then who is? You don't honor monogamy, it's plain and simple.

[Anno_Domini]

Exactly.

[J1nnishere]

This is the reason why I have such doubts about a western women who isn't grounded in anything just slaves to sensuality.

[Mesonfielde]

@J1nnishere well, not everyone is incapable to control their own behavior. Some people do actually have values that would make them feel like "you know, this might not be a good idea. I probably shouldn't do it".

[J1nnishere]

The west has become extremely liberal in terms of morals. It's an anti god movement... morals came from God but even non beleivers acknowledge it. It's riskier

[Mesonfielde]

@J1nnishere it has nothing to do with God. It has to do with people being dishonest and claiming to persuade monogamy while they as evidence shows are unable to understand why it'd be beneficial for them, thus ending up lying to everyone else including themselves then trying to justify these with lame excuses that make zero sense such as "it just happened".

[J1nnishere]

What I m saying is. The more anti god a person is, less grounded they tend to be with right or wrong and accountability. I mean who's says soemthing is wrong? Csn right or wrong change with times? U may say no but it does in pop culture.

[Mesonfielde]

@J1nnishere I am anti-religion and I don't believe in the existence of the Christian God and I personally don't agree that we should be ashamed of our sexuality, but I STILL don't approve of dishonesty in a social relation and thus pretty much lying to someone in the face while acting against what we think is right while also lying to ourselves and making up pathetic excuses like this one. "We just fucked", "I just had to please him", "but afterwards my guilt kicked in", like what? Stop fucking lying to yourself, this is what you wanted, and you don't honor your oath to your own husband, in fact you don't even understand what it was for.

[J1nnishere]

That's fine. I have my experiences and have yours. Yes I agree. The thing is, it's not this incident that's the only issue. It's her perception and where she places her boundaries. ... this wrong in her happened a long time ago before she was married

[LastGirlScout]

@J1nnishere but the huge paedophile rings which exist in church circles and Rape gangs of predominantly Muslim males in my country don't reflect you're very uneducated statement. Morals are not only for the religious.

[J1nnishere]

Uneducated? Girl I know enough to know it's catholics who were the crusades not christians and know enough catholics are very different... I'll go as far to say a lot of them aren't christians. Listen, my life is a huge contrast. I've gang banged since I was 16 and gone as far as meeting mafia boss of my city and the cartel boss so I've see the worst of society. I've changed my life around and even gone to seminary Christian university as well as other schools for education. If I resort to talking about the deeper things I know, we won't be able to have a cones at ion because u won't know anything. All I stated was the origins of morals. Just like anything, a bit of history lesson is crucial to understanding where things came foment in it'd original context.

[J1nnishere]

It's people who don't beleive in anything that's the Sheeple of culture and times. Right or wrong changes with our times. The corporations who control this have their own agenda of dumbing people down for profits. I never said expressing ur sexual it is bad. The bible teaches laws and design of life to let people know that they fall short and what's ideal. I've never met one person talking shit about faiths who actually took years to know their shit. All I hear is the same old "thr book is old" it'd been changed" talk about what catholics have done like sex rings and pedophilia ND group it with christians... ect. it's bs. Do u know hwo many lives are transformed and changed the missions of the church while non beleivers are pursuing a life of debautry and in fact contributing to the harm of society? Don't go there... I've spent years trying to figure things out and I come from nothing g... I see things comfortable people over see

[Mesonfielde]

@J1nnishere use mention... @LastGirlScout

[J1nnishere]

Apologies for bad grammar and spelling. On a touchscreen phone multitasking

[LastGirlScout]

@J1nnishere how does all that good compare to all the misery organised religion has caused and still continues to cause to this day. Paedophile rings don't just exist in the Catholic Church, there's a strong history of abuse in almost all of the major religions. I have no problem with people having faith and belief but I have no faith that any good can come of organised religion, it's too secular and judgmental by its very nature. What's written in books and how it's practiced and interpreted are world's apart.

[J1nnishere]

I'll be back. I just got to the hospital for my 90 yr old grandma. Can't debate right now and I stopped going down this route with non believers... I have a friend my age who cured and lady of breast cancer over a prayer to be confirmed by the hospital. Many do not make it to the news and I grt where u come from. But it's pointless... faith isn't for everyone...

[Mesonfielde]

@LastGirlScout @J1nnishere Faith certainly is only for those who can't live without it. Doesn't change the fact it's kinda nothing but false hope with no foundation.

[sawno]

You have two options here.
1) Wait it out and hope for the best, in this scenario you will never find peace and you will always feel guilty towards your husband. If he finds out its over forever.

2) Explain it to your husband as soon as possible and promise you won't do it ever again. He will most likely get furious about it and leave. But if he appreciates you being honest and telling him about it he will come back when he is calm and forgive you.

If i was your husband the best thing to do would be 2, its the only one with a chance of me coming back if i find it out this way. But if your husband isn't as forgiving as me and you can life with the guilt then option 1 might be the better choice.

[TaureanBull81]

Finally someone is being rational with their comments :-)