My boyfriend want me to be more assertive in bed and I don't know how, can someone help?

[myownname]

My boyfriend and I have an amazing sex life. I am a bit on the sub side. His fantasy is wanting me to tell him what I want and be more aggressive and assertive in bed. I don't know how and need help I end of up feeling awkward or that he will get upset at me and not sure exactly what I want except the usual. I can honestly say our sex life is far from vanilla. He wants me to go all out and just go for it. What exactly do I say or do?

[Wanttoknow1]

Focus on yourself and make the act of intimacy last as long as possible. For instance gentle clitoral stimulation should be a must. You might be in the missionary position and all of a sudden you tell your partner to stop and have him wiggle his tongue on your clit.
If you aren't ready for him to cum, make him stop and pull out so he can calm down and then while you are on your back have him rest the head of his penis on your clit and then the both of you "gently" grind against your clit so you can climax but not enough for him to cum.
Also practice your PC muscles 3 or 4 times a day. (them muscle that controls peeing) then practice that on him while he is slowing penetrating you repeat a squeeze and hold for 5 seconds then release a couple of times (never allow him to thrust fast because you don't want him to cum)
There's enough here for you to enjoy multiple climaxes, but I can suggest a lot more if you want.
The main thing is going slow which will torture him but the longer he goes the more intense his climax will be while you are enjoying multiples.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

The beauty of being dominant in bed is there's nothing you can do to upset him. I don't know what he wants or what you all do, but on a basic level, I'd say command him to please you how you want it. IF you want oral, tell him to get down there and eat it. Tell him if he's doing it right or not. Then go from there.

[Anonymous]

If you don't know how then that's weird. It should come natural to know what to do.

[Anonymous]

Be on top, all the time, do what you like, he won't mind ;)

[BertMacklinFBI]

just do exactly what he asked, he wants you to tell him what you want. and then just try, its all trial and error in the bedroom. just try it and go with it.

[Anonymous]

Just be more dominant. That's what he means. Tell him what you want him to do. If he needs to fuck you harder then tell him. Be on top and ride him like it's the last time you guys will ever have sex. Also tell him to fuck you super hard when you're on top but do the work also. These are examples, get what I'm saying?