Really confused about this girl, should I cut her off completely?

[Anonymous]

This girl and I were dating for a few months. She broke it off with me when she told me she was still in contact with her exes and I got upset about it. She said I was being too possessive. She started ignoring me. I kept trying to get her back but she finally told me she doesn't have the same feelings for me anymore and doesn't wish to date me. After that I backed off and stopped contacting her. When I didn't message for a week, she sent me a few messages saying she wanted to talk to me, she was missing me, wanted to tell me about her problems etc etc. After this conversation she got cold again and stopped talking to me. When I asked her to stop playing these games, she blocked me. A friend of mine spoke to her and she said she missed me and really did like me but when she got a message saying she was playing games, she got angry. And she told him she wouldn't contact me again in case it gives me false hope. 2 weeks later, she unblocked me and messaged me saying a song reminded her of me. Since then we've been talking. 3rd time she came back. But what she does now is, she starts a conversation by messaging me and when I reply, she takes a few hours to a day to message me back and says "sorry I was busy" even though she's online most of the time. Now I haven't heard from her for a week. I messaged her something but she didn't bother repying. I dont know why she keeps coming back and then leaves again. Even when she told my friend she wouldn't contact me again... The reason why it's hard for me to let her go is I have strong feelings for her and she also knows that. I lost my virginity to her too. Some might think that me losing my virginity to her is why I'm emotionally attached to her but it's not the case. I've given up now and haven't messaged her for a week either. Should I cut her off completely and stop replying even if she messages me? It's her birthday coming up in a couple of days and I dont know if I should wish her not.

[wishfire10]

Sounds like she is holding onto you as a backup, you don't want to be that guy. She may honestly have feelings for you, but really she is too immature and I think for a long while you need to sever all ties.

[Asker]

I am going to do that, yeah. But I'm not sure if that would result in her coming back being truthful this time or getting pushed away forever?

[nimbus24]

Wow just leave that bitch and never talk to her ever again. It looks like she's playing with your feelings.

[Asker]

I am going to do that. But do you think that me leaving her or ignoring her would affect her in any way?

[nimbus24]

If you wanna move on stop caring about her, maybe send her one last text tell her about how you feel. Tell her that you feel that you don't want to be part of her games and you will never answer any of her messages anymore and you want to cut off your communication with her completely. She's not worth it, I think you're just a rebound and she's not over with her exes and whenever her exes isn't available for her that's the time she'll contact you. You're just a pass time for her. I say cut that bull crap and move on. I swear you'll be happier.

[Asker]

That's what I've thought. But I'm not going to text her first. If she messages me and ask me why I haven't been speaking to then I'll just say that she isn't worth my time and I deserve better

[nimbus24]

Okay good idea. Goodluck :)

[kheserthorpe]

Looks to me like she's thinking you can be a great supportive friend, when she needs you and feels like talking.

[crumpy_crumpet]

Well, at times it pretty obvious she likes me. She has plenty of close friends she can talk to whenever she's in trouble. But I dont know why she keeps coming back.

[kheserthorpe]

LIkes you how? As an emotional crush, or she wants to keep screwing you?

[Viperkiss]

Sounds like she's playing games. Move on and find a girl who wants to be with you more than playing games.

[Debara]

I would keep her in contact when I need.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I don't know why you keep putting up with her coming back and leaving again.

[Anonymous]

I would get off that roller coaster.

[Anonymous]

I didn't read it but yes you should.

[crumpy_crumpet]

Lol thanks

[Opinion Owner]

No problem. Never doubt yourself. If you asking you don't really want her around.