Losing virginity on wedding night question?

[Anonymous]

I'm losing my virginity on my wedding night and I have a question.

Would guys prefer to help a girl out of her dress and get to it? Or would it be better if I changed into something sexy for him?

What would you prefer, guys?

I was thinking of Letting him help me out of my dress and freshening up and wearing something nice for him.

I would like to surprise him so I would rather not ask directly.

I was thinking of wearing a cute baby doll with heels or something. I like something like this:

www.myesoul.com/...s-Babydoll-Lingerie_d10883.html

Sound appealing, guys? I want our first time to be really special :)

[kheserthorpe]

I think you should actually talk to your fiance. He's been looking forward to this night for a long time, and may have specific ideas in mind.

It's actually quite traditional for the bride to change out of the wedding dress into a 'going away outfit' before leaving the reception. But a fair number of guys do imagine taking the wedding dress off...

I would mention the fact you won't be in the dress and see if he realizes/is disappointed.

Assuming you're not wearing the dress...
- wear white, it's your wedding night, save colors/black for the honeymoon. Go with the theme!
- best look depends on your body. Can you tell us anything about it?

[Asker]

I have a very petite body, like Ariana grande or Haley Dunphy from modern family. I'm 5'2 and about 95 pounds. b cup, long dark brown hair and eyes with fair skin

[kheserthorpe]

Babydolls are tents for fat girls. With your body, the actual sub-dress underwear would be fantastic - bra/panty/garterbelt/stockings. (panties go over stockings btw, so you can pee or... lose your virginity). If you want something more like the babydoll, go for more of a fitted (not tight necessarily) chemise. You have a waist. revel in it.

[Asker]

Huh ok. I like those ideas!!

[AustinMan]

He's absolutely right. Make use of your terrific figure. It means you can wear anything.

[AustinMan]

My strong preference is for her to get into something "more comfortable" meaning more sex. The baby doll and heels are great. Do you have any kinks lurking in the background?

[Asker]

I'm not sure. I like the idea of anything where he's really dominant and rough though. But I think stuff like bondage is too extreme

[AustinMan]

Have you told him you want him to go all cave man on you? I'd suggest you agree on a couple of safe words. They are standard in the BDSM community as a way to safe guard both people. One safe word is to tell him you're okay but you need him to not get any more intense for a minute while you adjust to what he's doing with or to you. I like Mercy and you only use it in the safe word context. The other safe word is a stop word that tells him you need to stop right now and talk about where things are. Red Light is our stop word. I do not suggest the use of OH GOD!! for a safe word. ;) You can choose any words you like as long as you wouldn't use them in regular use during sex. I'd strongly suggest that you agree between you that you won't use them unless you absolutely need to and that he will honor them if you do need to use them.

[Asker]

Ok. And yeah I have lol. But not the safe word thing. We will plan one :)

[AustinMan]

The reason for them is so if you want to heat things up by struggling and resisting and telling him no and to stop, he'll know you're just in role and that he can safely overpower you and roughly, forcefully ravish you and you're loving it. If you think you would like to be spanked (it sounds like you'd really enjoy that), go online and buy a thin paddle for a wedding night present. Tuck it under a pillow or somewhere and when you're ready, look at him your most submissively and tell him you've been a very bad girl and really need a spanking to get over your guilt. Pull out the paddle and tell him you wanted him to have it, you know, just in case you should need it.

[Asker]

That's hot lol. Good idea!

[AustinMan]

Sorry for the long posts. I have a few other things to share that I feel like you'd find useful. If you would rather, message me and we'll chat privately.

[AustinMan]

If you'll post me, I'll share a few ideas for bringing out the animal in him and a couple of communication tricks that have made things a lot easier for me.

[Asker]

I appreciate it! Don't apologize :) you're insightful!

[AustinMan]

I meant if you'll message me here on GAG, I have a couple of other ideas I think you'll like.

[kheserthorpe]

Interesting. You might want to think about and talk about the kinks in general, but also what your expectation of first time sex is. Are you thinking rough sex comes later, or no? Are you hoping to have first time sex be as gentle as possible and then build to more, ore are you actually excited by the experience of losing it? There's no do-over on the first time, so though it almost certainly won't be perfect, worth thinking about and talking about what you're aiming for.

[Asker]

I don't want it rough my first time. It will probably hurt lol. But I would like that once I got used to it

[AustinMan]

My good friend @ kheserthorpe makes a point that I feel is critical. There is no rule that says you have to stumble blindly into the first time. One of the purposes of a honeymoon is to let a couple have a lot of sex to figure out what they like. You sound like you have your expectations set, which is wonderful. It's important that you share them with him, preferably away from the sex, maybe over an intimate drink. That way the horny factor won't force you to take action right away.

[Asker]

We have talked about the general things we like and he knows I want him to be gentle early on until it becomes comfortable

[AustinMan]

I like the bridal robe in the same collection as this. This may be over the top but from what you've said, it may be just the ticket. If you've already seen it, sorry for the duplications. www.victoriassecret.com/.../tulle-teddy-dream-angels

[Asker]

That's really sexy. Thank you

[AustinMan]

How would you react to him manhandling you over his knee and spanking you pert, round bottom to a bright red after which he pinches and scratches and gropes it? When it comes to bondage, it looks and sounds more extreme than it is. Use old neckties gently tied and a blindfold. You're completely at his mercy. Does that sound like fun?

[Anonymous]

I've always thought undressing someone was one of the best ways to get things heated up, and doing it with a wedding dress sounds very sweet. But you don't need to change into anything. Just wear something special under your dress. Many lingerie brands have bridal collections that are both sexy and sweet. Like white lace bra and panties with a gartier belt and stockings. I think leaving him there waiting to get changed would affect the moment in a negative way.

[xCherryKizz]

I just chance upon this question, and i have nothing to say because im not experienced in either wedding or sex but the people in the comment section are really helpful and kind as compared to others I've read on the internet.
This warms my heart and i thought anyone who read this comment deserves a pat on their back.
Have a nice day (=

[LastGirlScout]

I can't think of a worse day to do it! You're going to be so tired.

[shadowlegend]

Can I ask... doesn't it concern you that you may not have sexual chemistry and you've already entered into a marital contract?

[Punkbuster107]

How do you know they don't have sexual chemistry? You can't decide if you're attracted to someone until you've already had sex?

[shadowlegend]

What? I didn't say they didn't. I asked about WHAT IF they didn't.

[Asker]

I'm not like most people. I wanted to wait till marriage and so did he. We love each other deeply and we have a lot of attraction and chemistry by doing non-sexual things. If I didn't feel passion I wouldn't have said yes. And I'm sure it won't be fantastic the first time but we can learn and grow together. So I'm not concerned.

[Asker]

and I agree with PunkBuster. I don't think you have to have sex to feel mutual love and attraction. Sex is just icing on the cake. We will make it great in time as we learn about each other. Your opinion is fine for you but doesn't apply to me.

[TripleAce]

i agree with her... its very possible... Ironically i happened to date couple of virgins seriously and they happend to be ready for sex while there were with me. We're not kids, adults. And I noticed that a women has waited so long so this moment, that she almost ruins it because there's so much riding on it. And really sex is something that gets better by more of it, not less of it. So your first time can easily be like meh, really That was it. And tht in itself sometimes an create a doubt. So in your case asker, Id say really dress however, dont make it too special. Just really connect naturally as much as you can, and get to connecting physically. Sex is something special and the chemistry can't be planned. If you start planning steps, your going to stumble somewhere. Just have fun like you were 16 again and it doesn't matter what you wear or dont wear. Just try and focus and be really into his penis. But yes thats a cute outfit

[shadowlegend]

I didn't apply anything to anyone. I asked if there was any concern. Two people can have mutual attraction and love eachother very much but it doesn't guarantee sexual chemistry, and if you don't have it then you have already married the person. I was curious, chill out.

[Asker]

I'll keep what you said in mind but he will be my husband. We have a lifetime together. So if it's bad the first time I really don't think I will be that bothered by it. I'm not expecting it to be good lol. From what I heard it's painful. But I just wanted to make things romantic and I wanted to make my husband happy, not plan out every step

[TripleAce]

for punkbuster... back in the old day you couldnt have sex until you got married. People generally got married very young, very soon after there torches got lit. So it wasn't really an issue. Today waiting around 25 years before sex and then marrying someone... your surely risking the chance of it just not really being what you want.. however you married her and you'll make it work. but thats besides the point

[molan]

Define sexual chemistry?

[kheserthorpe]

While I hope for the best for all of them, chemistry is NOT attraction. Problems around sex are one of the two main causes of divorce, and the problem is not generally a lack of attraction, or a lack of sexual skill. It's big mismatches in sexual style, desired frequency, etc.

[Asker]

We've talked about the kind of things we like and he likes the idea of being dominant and I like submissive a lot. We will see once we start having sex but we both love each other and will happily experiment. I really do think it will work here

[Punkbuster107]

If its your first time I'm sure it will be special no matter what you do. That sounds like a nice plan though. =)

[Asker]

Haha glad it sounds appealing :)

[YourFutureEx]

It may be very hard for a man to take the first step of undressing his wife. (on their first night)
You should help him.

[Asker]

Lol I'll keep that in mind. He will probably be confused

[YourFutureEx]

I'm also worried that what will I do on my wedding night. LOL

[Michael-in-SC]

I always prefer unwrapping my gifts. :)

[rotinaj10]

My wife and I didn't even have sex on our wedding night. We were both exhausted and fell asleep without it even coming up. I've found out that that isn't uncommon. Of course we'd already been having sex for quite awhile so it wasn't a big deal.

I'd say keep it simple and don't over think it. Save the baby doll for your anniversary.

[Strider90]

what a lucky guy. let him take your dress off.

[dannyboy3000]

I am still a virgin and want to lose it on my wedding night. I always have imagined helping the girl out of her wedding dress but I seriously think you wouldn't need to change into anything, some nice underwear will do seeing as he'll be more interested in your naked body.

[Anonymous]

He is a lucky guy:)

[Anonymous]

If that's the underwear stay in the dress