Your first date was going to a bar at 11pm?
Sounds like a night that's going to end in sex to me.
If I were looking for something a bit more serious (not casual sex),
I would decline if I was asked out to a bar on first meet.
The whole thought of possibly getting drunk and thinking about
what could happen would be unappealing to me.
You WEREN'T wrong for saying no.
You're not obligated to give him anything.
The guy saying you ruined his night all because you didn't give a blow job
shows what he only wants from you.
Not a big surprise to me.
I think you two are looking for two completely different things.
If that is the case don't lead him on.
(You let things get a bit sexual)
Of course he's going to want more.0 1 0 0Ah, see the whole 11 pm thing was because I went to a movie w/ my dad the same night haha. I had a busy weekend and that was the only time I could fit him in.
Of course not.
You were both drunk, and a bit stupid if you ask me.
At least he didn't force you. Thank god.
Be more careful, more responsible, and maybe lay some early ground rules about what you will and will not do.
Getting fingered by a new guy is fun fun fun, for sure. but as you can see it might turn into "I did for you now you should do for me". He has a point there.
These are really the things that actually sometimes lead to rape charges that I and many other girls aren't buying into.
Love ya anyway
XD0 1 0 0Yeah, that was bad... It was really stupid! I had no idea that he was THAT drunk either. I told myself I wouldn't bring anyone home on a first date.. and we were just having so much fun and I was wide awake that I was like oh sure why not. Such a mistake! One thing always leads to another.
OK you learned. More than that, you admitted error instead of putting all the blame on the guy. A GAG one in a million. Maybe give him another chance if the desire is still there. Lose the alcohol. It dulls sexual senses. You sound nice anyway, :)
Aw thanks, yeah, I imagine if the night hadn't ended that way there would be another date.
There's really nothing less sexy than a man asking for a blow job. I definitely don't think you did anything wrong. He said he didn't need to receive. He shouldn't say shit he doesn't mean.
1 1 0 0He was probably so drunk he didn't remember
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Sounds like he should have had a great time for date #1
his planning was poor
his indecision or dishonesty was poor
his "giving" was really just your warm up for things to come for him = poor
you went along with the bar hopping so late = A
you allowed him comforts of home = A
you allowed him body access = wow
you even gave sunrise HJ = oohlala on any date #
... and he somehow became a judge of dating?
I doubt anyone has spoiled him like this or worse,
so his judgment is bogus and unfounded by any sense.
Therefore, any further thoughts of being bad in this context should be laundered - like this guy.1 1 0 0Yeah, he hasn't spoken to me since... and I don't think he's planning to..
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hahaha probably...
No, you weren't wrong. You said you didn't want to do anything. You actually gave him more than you agreed: you gave him a handjob. So, he certanly shouldn't be complaining. He got better than he bargained for!
0 0 0 0Exactly! Well this is just awkward now.
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1 8first date and asks for head. girl, run away
2 0 0 0I didn't ask for anything, he just offered!
either i misunderstood your Q or you misinterpreted my opinion. i suggest the latter ;)
hahaha so run away? He just texted me yesterday...
You were up front about it so no.
0 0 0 0I was!! I specifically said it was a bad idea
He was theoretically okay with it but in practice was really really turned on. Whether he concludes from this 'she's selfish' or 'god I need date two with her' I can't say. Dates at 11pm are usually hook ups not dated from what they tell me. They being those young people. Under 35s ;)
Lol 30 and 25. I'm pretty sure he doesn't plan for date 2...
Nah you told him you don't want to do anything and he even agreed. Plus he was drunk. Not wrong at all.
0 0 0 0He was! I didn't even know he was that wasted
No. Lesson learned. Personally you sound like a cool date, your guy for the night, not so cool.
0 1 0 0Aw, thanks, really? What makes me sound cool?
Cause I'm super-shy in real life! You did more than enough physical stuff for a first date, regardless of how he feels! If he can't get hard from fingering you, he doesn't deserve anything else! That's hot!! :)
Oh geez. That was such a mistake haha. We were just having so much fun talking and the bars closed. I know better than to invite guys up.. because one thing leads to another per always. He was SO drunk he couldn't get it up!!
Why do girls make white guys wait so long for the pussy but they let black guys fuck them so quick. Is it because the size differ from a white boy 6 to 8 inches or a black man w a uncircumsized 9 to 12 inch dick.
0 0 0 0He is a scummy or creepy guy. I don't like to use the word creepy but you are foolish to date people you don't know and bring them in your home. When he told you he only wanted to give and not receive he was lying. Just some fyi also. Hand jobs are lousy and blow jobs feel so much better. That being said that guy didn't deserve one and you were right to delete his number. I am afraid for you that he knows where you live. Not smart but you will learn from this hopefully.
0 0 0 0Damn wanna go on a date with me? lol
0 0 0 0haha what ?
You're lucky he wasn't able to rape you.
1 2 0 0Haha lol
Didn't even read it. Pointless coercion question. No it's not wrong.
0 0 0 0Ah. I'm just annoyed. He said he was fine giving and not receiving and then he completely got upset and changed his mind.
And that's a synopsis I can stand! He's an ass.
Is he? I tried to give him a hj, but he couldn't keep it up b/c he was so drunk! I even offered sex over a bj and he said no? He really did leave my apartment all angry... pretty much said I ruined things.
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