Can a Muslim girl have anal sex and still be a "virgin" in gods eyes? Because that's what my friend said and I don't know if it's true?

[Anonymous]

My muslim friend recently told me she had anal sex. When she's in public she looks religious. She wears the correct hijab and prays five times a day. However, she recently told me she had anal sex with her christian boyfriend. she's like "anal sex is ok in islam as long as it's not Going to break my virginity. God will not punish me and why are you so surprised, many muslim girls have anal" now I'm not muslim, but is her statement right? I don't know. I'm not sure how I can help her get her life on track. She's been my friend for years and i want to help her not ruin her life if her parents find out :(

[Anonymous]

Sorry, many people have been giving you false and unfounded opinions. Virginity in islam is a technical thing: if she loses her hymen by any means (but mostly sexual) then the term "virgin" seizes to apply to her. Likewise, if she does any other thing that does not involve losing her hymen, she is technically still a virgin.
You're friend is right, she's still a virgin by the islamic definition. By the popular or cultural definition? No.
Did she commit a sin? Yes, undoubtedly, but some islamic scholars claim it's not actual adultery, while others say otherwise.
Regarding whether or not her family will rage, it depends on her relationship with her mum and dad, but if they must know, I can assure you they will be less angry to know she hadn't broken her hymen by a real penis. They will most likely perceive the situation as unlawful but swallowable teenagers play in the best cases.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHO! I wish you and your best friend the best :) Please don't hesitate to ask anything if you have to.

[Play-Doh_THEMOVIE]

So, unlike a female Turkish teenager's as**hole, the comments section is now closed—though, due to some loophole, I can still waste my time typing something here instead. Can I just comment on the sharp turn OP takes right at the rectum of her statement? OP now starts asking how she can assist the girl with the broken a**hole and untouched hymen get her life back on track—because she's on a collision course toward the destruction of her life. This seems a bit dramatic through my eyes. Sucks to live somewhere that you can ruin your life by letting some local boy have intercourse with her still-digesting feces. In America, someone with their life off track is either on a lot of drugs or dropping out of school. In America, starting your sex life when you're 12-13+ is commonplace. No poophole loophole though. We go straight into the vag.. It's not that our teenage girls have their hymen inspected or anything. I'm jealous; I wanna destroy the colons of some Pakistani girls tooooo...

[dakraziest]

Im truly saddened with what i just read
Islam says NO to anal sex, even if she is married to the guy, its HARAM i. e one of the major sins

By being naked in front of someone who she is not married to she is committing ZINA (adultery) which is again HARAM and one of the major sins

i really hope she said it as a joke and if she was serious then please take her to a scholar of islam like nouman ali khan or someone who is educated. She needs proper guidance and islam doesn't judge people nor does god i. e Allah which means that all her sins are forgiven if she repents or did them in ignorance

by the way thank you so much for bringing this matter here and in our attention hope your concern will save her from destruction

[skullly]

If you belong to a religion you should respect the beliefs it comes with... considered a virgin or not, anal is still a sexual act, therefore a sin... in my eyes.. if she's part of a religion, any religion, she' is a sinner! If se's not part of any religion, she can then do what she wants. *and just a side note, anal is probably a worse sin than regular intercourse, because it's not even for reproduction, which is what sex is for. They are just sinning without any purpose, just for the sin* Anyway, my point is, if you're in a religion respect it! If you don't want to, don't look for justifications for your bad actions, just get out of the religion. It's pathetic to say what your friend says. Respect has lost its meaning.

[purplishone]

Hahaha OMG such a stupid situation :)) sex is sex in everyway. You can't be virgin after sex. :) i'm a Muslim, according to me if a girl and boy really love each other, they can make love :) But in Islam sex before marriage isn't true and anal sex is forbidden also it's not healthy.. Well but a person can do everything at that moment lol :) any way i have 2 ideas; you're friend isn't Muslim in fact or she has no idea about Islam :))

[LeafClover]

I am a Muslim. And I can say some points about this:
1- She is not a real Muslim (she just assumes that she is)
2- She doesn't have a true information about these subjects.
3- She wants to believe what she wants.
4- Virginity will be lost with any type of sex.
5- In Islam, sex is not ok before/except marriage.
6- Anal sex is totally forbidden in Islam.
I think it is clear enough..

[ThePragmaticRomantic]

The 'Poop-hole loophole' is a theological myth. Every religion with a rule against sex also has some form of rule against anal sex. Specifically: "Shariah (Islamic law) defines sodomy outside marriage as adultery or fornication or both, and it thus attracts the same penalties as those crimes (flogging or death), although the exact punishment varies with schools and scholars"- Yoinked from wikipedia because I couldnt be arsed to type pretty much the same thing.
This song, almost, covers this situation:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8ZF_R_j0OY

[Kyndra]

Anal sex is forbidden in Islam, the guy commits a sin and if the woman agrees to it she commits a sin as well. At least that's what they say around here.

[Writteninthestars]

You're right, Any sex outside marriage is haram Anal sex even in marriage is haram and ends the relationship

[BZerpy]

Her statement is semi true. It's fine to have anal as there is actually no God to be judging her. You are complicating things with old superstitions and tales of fantasy.

[dbrnal20]

You really had to be "that guy"?

[BZerpy]

What guy? Its hard not to be the antagonist when questioning peoples faith. Religious people don't listen to reason and they don't listen to knowledge. They choose the ignorant path through life so why should I give them any benefit?

[dbrnal20]

Ok, you clearly have an opinion. But you knew before clicking that this was gonna be a religious question. Why even bother? If somebody was on a post about atheism claiming that there's only one way to think and any other way of thinking is wrong, I know for sure you at the very least be annoyed and want to respond. So why basically do that here? You have your opinion on religion, but why go on a post ABOUT religion and try to force feed it down people's throats? It may seem harmless to you, but these comments from atheists on the internet calling all believers "dumb" or "stupid" are getting really old. Live and let live.

[BZerpy]

Religion is force fed down my throat daily. I drive past churches, mosques and temples but i dont drive past scientific institutions. Bumper stickers, cross necklaces, burqas, kippas. Press conferences where people say 'god bless' or 'our prayers'.. Religious extremists inciting civil wars in their countries and others. Halal food symbols everywhere. Not to mention the door knockers.. I've never had an atheist knock at my door. References to religion in almost every single tv show. Religion is everywhere I cannot get away from it. So please, give me my time throw my opinion in someones face on the internet because I get religious crap spewed at me from all directions.

[dbrnal20]

So you're upset that you see churches, mosques, temples, cross necklaces, burqas, etc. in your everyday life? You really shouldn't be upset or offended by that. Those are just places of worship/symbols of religion. Nobody is making you walk into the churches, mosques and temples to celebrate or worship any religion. Nobody is forcing you to wear any crosses or burqas. So why should it affect you at all? That's completely different than you going to a post that you know is about religion just so you can tell those believers that they are wrong or stupid. You got a point with door knockers (they can be annoying and unwanted), but you realize you're basically doing the same thing, except you're doing it on the internet. You're no better than them.

[dbrnal20]

Oh and by the way, there are atheist churches so it's not like atheists don't have their own place to meet up.

[scorpio100]

She can still be a virgin in her own eyes, and technically she would be, but she's pushing the boundaries a bit lol

[Hanz0]

I'm an ex-muslim, muslim women should NOT have sex (whether anal, oral or anything), or having male friends, or even be with a stranger man without her father/brother/her male relatives

The Quran says in Surat Al-Noor (2): The [unmarried] woman or [unmarried] man found guilty of sexual intercourse - lash each one of them with a hundred lashes, and do not be taken by pity for them in the religion of Allah, if you should believe in Allah and the Last Day. And let a group of the believers witness their punishment.

source : quran. ksu. edu. sa/index. php? l=en#aya=24_2&m=hafs&qaree=husary&trans=en_sh

[Hanz0]

and by the way anal sex is forbidden in islam even if they are married

[AdamThomas]

If a penis has entered you, you're not a virgin.

[kiler1000]

that goes for masturbating another.

[AdamThomas]

@kiler1000 technically then it entered your hand.

[kiler1000]

i mean by another person.

[kiler1000]

the word technically is used merely as a loophole. you're also '''technically'' a virgin if you just give oral.

[kiler1000]

or, in his case, anal.

[kiler1000]

in this

[Insaan]

I never thought Muslim girls are in to sex.

[molan]

She is dead wrong, however, since is Islam is not true anyway then who cares.

But the Islam does permit sex within the boundary of marriage only, just like the bible. Both anal and oral sex is still sex and the offence is just the same, no difference whatsoever.'

Your friend is both hypocrite and an idiot, impressively bad.

[Kreneman]

According to God's Words, you have to be married to have sex and the same way for anal sex (especially for oral sex although Vaginal and Anus is the primary for virginity). Your friend is not a Virgin in God's eye and the source is from the bible. Many religion can dispute and there are a lot of controversial debates but its not hard to understand the answer for virginity in the scripture. Pray for your friend and tell her to be cautious by waiting for marriage.

[GalaxyFlame90]

umm no dont know who told you that but thats pretty stupid. Sex is sex and if you touch her then she ain't a virgin anymore.

[GalaxyFlame90]

she's already broken her virginity lol, by the way tell her she's doing shirk, cause she's only praying 5 times a day acting religiously ONLY FOR SHOW is what makes it a shirk (polytheism). so there goes 2 major sins.

[Katy16]

I'm Christian not Muslim but I'm willing to bet that that isn't ok before marriage in that religion, I know it isn't in mine.

[kiler1000]

i see no issue with anal... but i do see the issues of premarital sex all around... a baby was found in the gym at my middle school!

[Katy16]

:O omg And I have no issue with anal if people wanna do it, just not before marriage

[kiler1000]

more girls could benefit from thing that way... course, it don't help when idiot boys rush in and screw things up for the rest of us. i think a woman with an open mind is a key to have a good marriage. i read all about how men cum and go to sleep, answer: their bored! i myself would like to enjoy all a woman has to offer. i'm not gonna sit here and lie, but if vaginal [despite how pleasurable it is] then i'd be bored too... so why continue? this may sound selfish, but put yourself in the wife position: you continue to deny other forms of sex for your own pleasure... what's that make you?

[kiler1000]

from thinking that way.

[Katy16]

Thankfully for me my future husband isn't Interested in anal lol

[kiler1000]

may change. just remember, you can't rush.

[douride2]

If she had anal sex and thinks she's still a virgin she is only deluding herself.

[singlebee]

hhahaahhaahha... its completely ok and natural to have sex before marriage. i dont care if it is anal or vaginal... unless and until you are religious and yes she still remains virgin as she is having anal and not vaginal...

[gapminder]

It's hard say honestly, I guess it is up to interpretation by each individual. Technically a virgin is one that has not engaged in sexual activities of any kind. So if someone chooses to have anal sex in order to maintain chastity I think I would have to ask them why even do it if it's not pleasurable for them? I get that doing so may please the man in the relationship but if it isn't mutually pleasing then it's kinda a one way thing. However if the woman enjoys anal and the sex creates a stronger bond in the relationship then it's all good. But given the religious beliefs of her family I would be scared to let anyone else know because of the potential backlash.

[LukasTheLovely]

Anal sex is completely and utterly forbidden in Islam, so fuck that

[cems0077]

the same is sin in the eyes of God

[kiler1000]

despite what religion you're in.

[msg812]

there is a verse in quran about anal sex and according to this verse anal sex is clearly forbidden in İslam. if you want, i can write the verse too

[msg812]

Even if a person (male or female, it doesn't matter) is married, he/she shouldn't has anal sex with his/her husband/wife, according to islam. this is for women's good because anal sex is painful for women and it is unfair a man enjoy while a woman is feeling pain.

[msg812]

by the way having sex with women is forbidden too in the marriage when women are in their periods according to Quran too.

[kiler1000]

no, she isn't. that's sex.

[Abdulwahh]

Anal sex is forbidden in islam even after marriage.

[dbrnal20]

Under Islam, she clearly wasn't supposed to do what she did. But I'm more of a "to each his own" kinda guy, so if she's completely alright with it then great. I'm not here to do God's job (judge). Ultimately, she made the decisions that led up to it and she must take responsibility for her actions. It's between her and God now. Nothing you do can take back what she did. She will either learn from this and try to better herself in whatever way she sees fit or she will continue to have sex. You just gotta be there for her no matter which way she goes. And if she chooses to continue having sex, the least you can do as her friend is remind her to always stay safe.