I'm still having that same performance issue, girls. Does anyone know why? (No mean people, please.)?

[Anonymous]

(I know I'm not hot... But I think I'm OK enough so you can put some thought into this question.) For the past week or two, I haven't been able to finish. I have no problem getting off. I can be hard as a rock with no trouble. I just can't finish. And this is by myself I mean. I haven't had a girlfriend since 2007, but haven't had this trouble before. I don't jerk off often. A lot less often than the vast majority of normal guys do. But I'll see something sexy, or read something hot that a girl will write in her post, and I'll want to have a little satisfaction. I'll be straight up without even touching it, but I just can't finish. It's not like I'll lose the erection, not at all. I'll just keep on jerking. I tried putting on p*rn , pictures of sexy women in black stockings that I really like... but nothing. I just stay hard, and go on pulling. It feel the same as always, I feel like I want to cum... but nothing. I just give up after a while. What do you think? I figured you girls might know something that usually works for guys, that you talk about at your secret, underground Women's Club meetings. I don't know, but I think its just a mental thing. Like if I'm in love with a girl I can't be with, or something. Any ideas? (No mean people please!)

[Anonymous]

I know this might sound lame, but if I can't get off I like to set the mood for myself. I'll dim the lights play music, relax with candles or in the tub then let my mind relax, or if it's just not feeling it I'll just keep telling myself in my head I'm going to cum repeatedly and then it usually happens. I know it's a crappy situation to be in, sometimes if my mood is off like if I've been sad it will be hard for me to get off or I'll get off and it will just be a crappy orgasm. Goodluck! You could also try changing up where you jack off.

[Asker]

Hmm. Thanks for responding. I didn't expect any women to care enough to say something. And thanks for your suggestion, too.

[Asker]

Umm. One other thing... Do you know why women won't respond to this question! I know you did, and I thank you for that, but am I coming of as a weirdo or something? Is this a disgusting subject for women to broach? I do want a woman's perspective, but I sure don't want to have any girls feel like I'm just some kinda sicko or something. (You have too many perv on this site as it is.)

[Opinion Owner]

Anytime! I think it's cause we don't have the same equipment and most girls find male gentila disgusting and jacking off gross in general

[Asker]

You know, that's what I had though originally, but after I wasn't satisfied with the responses I was getting from guy the first time I posted about this problem, I asked another question to that same affect - I asked women if a guy jerking off if gross or a turn on. And it was a huge gap, like 17 to 1 in favor. Most women like to watch guys do it, and even like to know they are doing it while thinking about them in particular. Maybe I should post something like that again. What about you? Is it nasty, in your opinion? I don't mean, well, I know its as natural as when women do it, but is the way we have to do it gross to you?

[Opinion Owner]

Personally I'm the type of girl who is really open and comfortable about my sexuality and nonjudgemental about others sexuality. I love dicks they fascinate me, I find it hot when a guy jacks off for me, however it only turns me off when I am not in the mood for sexual encounters or if the guy is a stranger to me, then I feel uneasy.

[Asker]

Sure, that only makes sense. And thanks for saying that, I do appreciate your candor. But, has it been your experience that you are a very rare woman? I mean the way you view this subject?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah every girl I know finds me to be what they call a "slut" just because I'm comfortable with what I like and don't like however I don't preform any acts unless I know the guy and want to be with him. I also don't believe in such terms as sluts or whores

[Wisenguber]

I believe it is all mental, maybe you need to seek a sex therapist, something is blocking you, something repressed maybe. Religious guilt. Maybe you need something you are not honest about to get you there. Physically, you may have really food stamina.

[David95]

Take breaks like ill watch p*rn for a bit then watch a YouTube video or something then go back to watching p*rn I don't know why but it works when I take small breaks

[Asker]

Hmm. Sure, why not? Thanks.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Try lube or a different grip

[Anonymous]

It's going to sound graphic so I'm going to pussy out and go anon. If I'm really stressed and under a lot of pressure it happens to me too. I've identified the problem as lack of concentration. If you are on your own, even if you are watching p*rn , there is mental effort on your part. Like having to project yourself into the scene you are watching or fantasy you are having: if you are distracted it's difficult to do. That's all I got man.

[Anonymous]

Relax... just relax maybe you are too tense while you are masturbating
Stress can inhibit this man just embrace the experience and don't think about it.
Get high and do it if you have to