Should I tell my girlfriend my first time was with a prostitute?

[Anonymous]

PLEASE ACTUALLY READ BEFORE ANSWERING: My girlfriend and I are both 19 and we have been together for a few months now. When I was 18 I had never kissed a girl, never done anything with a girl and I was lonely, so I paid to have sex with an escort. I wore protection and I have since been tested and HAVE NO STDs. Honestly, I don't regret it. It made me feel a lot better about myself, like a beautiful woman could actually want me. I have told her that I've had sex before, but I didn't tell her it was with a prostitute. She didn't ask, but do you think that I should tell her? I don't have any STDs so really it's no different than it being with a random girl. In the future if we get more serious, of course I would tell her, but now, only a few months in telling her will cause more harm than good. We have not had sex ourselves yet and this will only make her want to end it now.

[dontBeJel-BeReem]

If you and her are close enough and if she is understanding then I see no problem with that, especially because you're clean so it's all good. But why did you have you're first time with somebody you don't know? I see first times as the time where it's something really special so it has to be perfect and with somebody you love... Or at least somebody you know. But anyways, each to their own 😊

[Asker]

At the time, no girl had ever taken an interest in me. All of my friends were in relationships. I just wanted to hold and kiss someone and feel like she wanted me to do the same.

[dontBeJel-BeReem]

Alright, fair enough. I get it now, I don't see anything wrong with that and I hope your gf thinks the same

[Yep101]

When you and her would really talk about sex you should tell her about that. If she really love you, she would not care about it.

[FallenAngel92]

Do you care about this girl and want the relationship to go somewhere? If the the answer is yes, Then DO NOT tell her.

[zorro8888]

I think the only information in regards to sex that couple are privy to know is whether or not you are a virgin and are you STI free... Other than that no further information should be shared, not numbers, not names etc... However if she really wants to know and you're okay with your actions and comfortable telling her then go ahead by all means

[AustinMan]

Your sexual history, absent STDs, is none of her business. That you once consorted with an escort is irrelevant to your relationship with this young lady. Just carry on and do with her what you will. ;)

[AbiGrimsby]

I'd never tell her, just tell her you slept with a girl before her, no need to say who, just say it was a one night stand, but not with a prostitute, keep as near to the truth as you feel comfortable with but what she doesn't know, can't hurt her.

[AleDeEurope]

You don't have to tell her that, but you don't have to lie either. Just say you didn't know that girl, and that it was just one night. There's no lie in that, so you don't have to feel bad about lying.

[glamgamergal]

Tbh I don't know...

[bubble_tea]

just tell her when she asks who it was with.

[jessa1988]

Unless you see her reacting favorably you might want to leave the past in the past...

[meatballs21]

It's none of her business with who or how you lost it.

[Anonymous]

I'd say never ever tell her