Why can't I orgasm when she eats me out? - LESBIAN HELP?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I (yes I'm female too) have very beautiful sex and I love every moment until it's her turn to go down on me. She hasn't had any sexual partners before I so she's just learning how to eat me out. It feels really really really good, but I take too long and I know how tiring it gets when it takes a long time because she too sometimes takes along time but I enjoy eating her out. Same goes for when she's rubbing me... So unfortunately I have to fake an orgasm just for it to stop because I feel bad I take a long time and I don't want to hurt her feelings if I say anything since she's new at it. Any advise on how I can achieve an orgasm while she eats me? Are there sexy drive pills or something I can take to help!! I wanna feel good the same way I make her feel good. --- I am able to achieve an orgasm myself so I know it's not her, and sometimes it takes a while for me too. 😔

[kaylaS91]

Ironically enough, you worrying about taking too long is the main hindrance in you achieving an orgasm from oral.

Just talk to your girlfriend and let her know how you feel. Until you get rid of that worry, it'll be nearly impossible to finally orgasm. This was exactly what happened with my boyfriend early on in our relationship. It would take me a while, by which point I'd start worrying that he's getting bored and impatient with me, which resulted in me often switching to something else to ease the pressure.

One day I just straight up told him that what he does feels great, and said I have no idea why I take so long. Hopefully your girlfriend will have a similar response and say something along the lines of that she enjoys just pleasuring you, regardless of whether or not it ends in orgasm. I know after I finally spoke up, he became much more confident in his abilities as well as eager to please.

Feel free to give her some friendly, positive pointers as to what you'd like her to do. Positive reinforcement when she does something good, and let he know where to focus more attention, as well as if the speed/pressure applied is good. :)

[TheEmma]

If she's not experienced, it won't be that good the first few times BUT if you keep faking orgasms, then it's never gonna be good because you'll make her believe she's doing the right thing to make you orgasm when she's obviously not.
My advice would be that next time you masturbate, pay attention to what you like: the pressure, how fast or how slow, the places that work best for you (directly on top of the clit? on one side?, etc) and guide her! tell her to go faster or things like that. Pay attention to what you like that she does and tell her to keep doing it.
You need to take time to know your own body, but she does too. It's gonna be harder for her because she can't feel what you're feeling and its her first time and that's what communication is for.
Does she finger you while eating you out? both things at the same time, for me, are the best thing ever.

[TheEmma]

Also, when you say it takes you too long, aprox how many minutes are we talking about? keep in mind every woman is different and most take lots of time, actually. Nothing wrong with that.

[Anonymous]

Have you have them with others? Sometimes it just takes getting used to each other and comfortable. Maybe you two can play a sexy game where you show each other what feels the best. I'm straight, but I actually had a lesbian friebd having this same conversation not long ago! Her issue ended up just bring the newness.

[Opinion Owner]

Also, to be blunt, is she (or you) stimulating your clit and gspot? I know some guys will just lick all over down there without focusing on the go buttons enough.

[Asker]

Yes. I've had one sexual partner before her who was able to have me cum but it did also take a while. And yes she is. I'm telling her what feels god and if I want to her move in a certain place.

[Opinion Owner]

That's how it was with my friend, too. She'd been with her ex for a long time, so she was worried it wouldn't work as well with the new girl. But it ended up getting better as that comfort level grew.

[Opinion Owner]

I've also heard that some kinds of yoga can increase orgasm strength and frequency!

[Asker]

Yoga, interesting! I'll look into that; thank you.

[PinkFreud]

You can't give yourself oral, so im guessing you cum by fingering... which means you cum by penetration... try using enhancing lubes and toys. Maybe strap ons.

[Asker]

Do you think a lube would help?

[Dragan]

Orgasm does not only depend on the physical stimulation. Pleasure is felt in the brain. Explore your body, especially the clitoris, so that should always be wet during stimulation. Breathing makes a special connection with the brain and enhances orgasm. You must tries to breathe deeply and rapidly (inhalation and exhalation should last less than one second or faster). Spiritual give another dimension to sexual satisfaction. Tantra is especially investigated that area.

www.orientpaperbacks.com/static/9788122204612.pdf
https://www.qtantra.com/TT_cunnilingus.php

[COCOCHANEL]

i really honestly think you would be happy with a man with a pretty face. that's what i've always liked and the one time i was with a girl i felt no sexual attraction whatsoever and couldn't come even after 20-30 minutes of oral.

[Asker]

I don't want to be with a man... Ew

[COCOCHANEL]

you just don't know the beautiful men i know

[COCOCHANEL]

but honestly i know what you mean. i once lived in amerika and there were no cute boys.

[TheEmma]

You do understand she's a lesbian, right? why would a lesbian want to be with a man?

[COCOCHANEL]

this is just my honest opinion about lesbians in western countries. people have been asking/assuming i'm a lesbian since middle school. i think a lot of girls just like pretty faces. no offence meant !