If you think this guy is ok to be with, you have issues.
"and than later that night, he got horny and started touching me. No warning or anything and I told him to stop. He started calling me names and cursed at me. So I just turned around, cried and went to sleep."
Wtf?
Then he's always verbally abusing you and you think it's because you piss him off, not that you just met a fucked up guy. You're just lucky he hasn't beat you up yet. Leave before he does.0 0 0 0But why has he changed so drastically? I've lived with him for over a year. I never had this issue until now.
Honestly, I think a lot of relationships do change over time, but probably not this much. He could of just been hiding his true colours all this time, because no abusers really start early, they all start when the relationship has become more comfortable, otherwise hardly anybody would have an issue because they'd find it so easy to walk away. He could be under major stresses right now. Proper major stress, not just minor things. If he smokes weed, it could be that. There's probably a million reasons why he could of changed so much. You, you seem like a good girlfriend, like you're trying to make an effort for your guy, trying to adapt to him... You could do better and do that stuff for a guy who treats you how you treat him.
Thanks. I'm stuck with a lease with this guy so I'm under tremendous pressure. I just hate having to be the punching bag. Yeah, I'm not perfect. I've had times where I lashed out on him but for someone to change so drastically it must be an underlying issue that hasn't surfaced yet.
You need to leave. He's not happy, you aren't doing anything wrong, but he sounds miserable with himself! You should really reconsider your relationship.
0 0 1 0What you're doing wrong? Nothing. He's a jerk times twenty.
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I would suggest couples counseling but also individual counseling for each. It sounds like he has a lot to work through to be that angry and abusive. I can tell you I am hot and cold a lot but there are certain reasons for that. But that does not excuse my behavior to be taken out on the ones I love.
0 0 0 0He seems to have some issues. How is your sex life with him? Do you have sex often and is it rewarding for you? Does he have anger issues with others? ow old are you two and how long have you lived together?
0 0 0 0Our sex life could be better but it's not terrible. It was better when I first moved in with him. We have it 7-10 times a week. On weekends we're usually excited often because we have time so we're at it often. He has anger issues with his mother and friends, he's afraid of his military dad still. He's 26, I'm 23. No kids, I'm still in college. He's graduated.
Oh and he's kind of a selfish lover... if you know what I mean.
If he does not change... time to move on. Life is too short
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1 5Get the fuck out. It's emotional abuse, he will wear you down to nothing. You'll be an empty shell of a person to do his bidding. Do whatever you can to get him out of your life.
You do not "have" to work this out.0 0 0 0Umm... he needs therapy
0 0 0 0He's not treating you right anymore, simple as that and you might need to consider breaking up or at the very least moving out. Trust me, you haven't done anything wrong.
0 0 0 0Time for a new boyfriend
0 0 0 0You're living with a psycho. Get out of there!!
0 0 0 0"Can someone tell me what I'm doing wrong?"
you are with the wrong guy0 0 0 0
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