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My girlfriend came back from holidays and sex with her felt extremely different. Please may I have someone explain this?

My girlfriend who I have been fighting with, breaking up with, had ignored for a while because i didn't trust her came back from holiadys. We hadn't spoken for 12 days because I broke up with her. When we met we had sex, and I swear I could not feel a thing. she was extremely wet and she kept saying she missed me (she is 21 if that means anything). Umm I swear it felt so much larger, like i was putting my penis in a bucket. yet she was sreaming and squirting but honestly i couldnt feel nothing. im surprised i even had a boner cause it was frustrating at some point. I told her we should stop because i didn't feel right. I will be honest, i thought of the worst things probably out of insecurity but i could not shake it off. she explained that she was just horny, but the reason i broke up with her was cause i felt she was unfaithful and her health is quite bad to say the least. When i stopped sleeping with her immediately the fight of sex being different switched to why i was hanging out with a girl who has a crush on me. i am not remotely in love with this girl but the fight ended with i do not trust you for hanging out with this girl. Well thats too much background story sorry, i honestly just want to know or if i will ever know cause i think this question will help a lot of boyfriends. Just because your girlfriend of 2 years comes back with a bigger vagina does that imply that she slept with someone else?
Yes, she slept with someone else
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No, the vagina changes gets bigger/smaller (please explain)
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  • The vagina alone doesn't really do too much in getting looser unless she frequently stuffs something huge in it (then it reflexively relaxes). No penis will be able to do that, not even the 'monster cocks'.

    Has to be something like a wine bottle or something as big.

    So that evidence is pretty much non-existent.

    However, as for being a cheat, etc, it depends on what you can find out.

    What kind of person is she? Is she a liar that doesn't see harm in telling lies at times? E. g., if it's convenient and doesn't hurt anyone it's okay to lie? Is she the kind of person that says "everyone has to be responsible for themselves getting hurt!"?, that means to say she takes little/no responsibility in hurting other people.

    Is she the kind of person that says "Cheating happens because the guy is at fault" ? (absolute bullshit, never believe this, both are at fault, but you get to choose to not cheat even when shit happens).

    Is she a party girl with other girl friends who are cheaters, competitive, slanderers?

    Does she comment on 'needing freedom, to explore'? (Yes you can be free and explore, responsibly, just breakup, and be truthful about your endeavours to future lovers).

    What kind of person is she? What are her fantasies?

    Now that's all about her. The next part is about you, have you ever cheated before? Do you ever make her jealous and not apologise? Does she think you're cheating? Anyone of you rebounded to each other?

    Those things can push a girl towards that kind of crap.

    Since you've already broken up, the last bit is to find out how much fault is yours so you can deal with yourself, then leave the rest of the crap with her. She's not gona get married any time soon if she's a poor choice, or she'll divorce and be in many crappy relationships before she finally grows up (at a much older age, when all her bling is gone and she's desperate)

    The being suspicious and jealous must be substantiated by reasons, else its bullshit.

  • How the fuck are we supposed to know with any degree of certainty whether or not your girlfriend cheated on you?

    • Ok let me rephrase it, if the vagina is extremely aroused (note i have been with her 2 years so i think i know what it looks and feels like). and i put it in after about 2 weeks of NO sex due to distance, so what other reason would there be which is why i am asking for the vagina to get that large. To make a point, before she left i could not put in completely.

    • Well I dont have a vagina but to my understanding it does expand based on arousal. Unless she shoved a monster dildo or fucked a guy that was hung like a Pringles can, sleepin with someone else wouldn't make a difference. So she definitely could have cheated on you but I don't think the fact that you think her vagina feels larger counts as proof :/

    • love this XD

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  • I can't tell you whether or not she has had sex with someone else, but you really should talk to her and sort things out. I can tell you with complete certainty though, that the looseness of a vagina varies and changes on its own due to other factors that have absolutely nothing to do with how many people a woman has slept with. The vagina is a muscle, it stretches, it widens, it lengthens, it's super adjustable. The hornier a woman is, the larger her vagina will expand. I heard a funny analogy that makes a lot of sense, it's something like, think of the vagina as a sock. When the sock is empty, the space inside is almost nonexistent, but when something is inside the sock, the sock adjusts the way in needs to in order to fit whatever's inside properly. Also, if she's extremely wet, it takes away a lot of the friction that you'd usually feel, fooling you into thinking she's larger than normal, when in reality, she's just a lot wetter. You could think of this as when you have a ring stuck on your finger, if you add oil or butter, it slips off without a problem. You're finger didn't get smaller and the ring didn't get larger, the lubrication just made it seem that way. Even if she did sleep with other people though, the vagina returns back to its original size afterwards, unless she's just given birth, then it would take a bit longer and it might not feel exactly the same. So relax, don't let your insecurities get the best of you, and just talk it out.

    • MHO for sure

  • a lot of people have made some very legit and reasonable arguments here, but stop attacking the man. He made a mistake and he probably regrets it, but he didn't know some of the stuff that he knows now and you guys are just ganging up on him. People make mistakes and it just isn't right how you people are simply attacking him for acting on something that he didn't really know much about. Lay off, shit happens. How many of you have 'perfect' relationships where you don't get paranoid about being unfaithful? Just because you don't have actual evidence doesn't mean that it never happened and it sure as hell doesn't mean that did. Just because the police doesn't have evidence that a psychopath murdered some children doesn't mean that they didn't.
    LAY OFF AND STOP ATTACKING HIM FOR HIS CHOICES AND ERRORS
    He said that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with her so it's only natural that he would start getting jumpy and paranoid as he pondered whether or not it's a good call.
    By the bloody fucking Angel, some of you are just ruthless to a horrid point.

  • Your insecure thoughts are getting the best of you my friend. I am not saying she is innocent or guilty of sleeping with another man or woman for that matter. What I am saying is, your mind can and will play horrific games with you. You can psych your own self out to a point where you will not enjoy anything with your girlfriend. Until you get your insecurities in check you will be vulnerable to anything. Now, with this said, a woman's vagina can change just like her period dates can. Check out the link I posted below. If she has a healthy appetite for sex and you were not pleasing her, she could have easily pleased herself. Thats not to say she slept with someone else. Its clear that you were pleasing her if she was squirting and enjoying her time with you. Talk to your girlfriend and decide if she is what you want; if not, let her go and you do whats best for you. If you decide she is the one for you, find a way to work it out and be a peace with yourself.

    www.womansday.com/.../8-things-you-didnt-know-about-your-vagina-113565

  • You don't trust her and she doesn't trust you. You punished her for not trusting her.
    You don't respect her since you keep girls who like you around, despite her being uncomfortable with it.

    You also lack common sense:
    You broke up with her and then asked if she cheated...
    You broke up. Even if she slept with someone, she didn't cheat.

    All I see here is a lot of drama and paranoia that will only fuel it.
    You sound like an insecure guy and I would never date you personally.

    Please break up with this girl. It doesn't matter if she cheated. You two won't work out anyway. You have much bigger problems here.

    • thank you, please read the other comments i posted. but you are right. its done.

    • asker have u broken up with her then?

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  • Sounds like you made a bad call... It's understandable though. Everyone has their insecurities and if you had been fighting before she went away then that may have given her less reason to hold back. Also, guys don't really know much about how a vagina works in terms of tightness so the natural conclusion would be to assume something, or more likely someone, stretched it out.
    To be honest, I'm quite glad I've had a read of this cause I often get insecure, especially when it comes to the possibility of cheating. So knowing a bit more about the way a girls body works will probably help keep my insecurities under control if she does feel a bit looser than usual.

    I feel sorry for your ex. You should apologise to her even if there's no chance of you guys getting back together. Best of luck whichever way it goes!

    • Listen to this man, he is wise.

  • Definitely your insecurities because if a girl has sex with a guy with a bigger dick only once or twice wouldn't make a diffference :\ lol it would take some time for her vagina to be more stretched out so i think your imagining things lol did you actually even ask her if she was using any sex toys? lol, i think without knowing the facts at all this was extemely childish breaking up with her all because her vagina felt bigger :\ how do you know you didn't stretch it out for her? lol. If not a week or 2 having sex with a bigger dude wouldn't even make no difference to her vagina :\ lol i mean how much can you actually get away from the people your with without them suspecting things? lol. way over thinking things, it feels like you didn't like her at all.

    • I mean stopping sleeping with her was childish, you don't do that if you truly like someone, and i agree with others, when a girl is really horny the vagina can feel really slippery and it can get bigger. My advice would be to use different sex positions when she gets so wet like this, maybe go into missionary and keep her legs a bit pulled in so it's tighter?

    • thank you please read the other coments. i loved her very much, i have never had to jump to the conclusion of another guy with any girl in my life... but im afraid she implanted that thought in my mind so often, i couldn't shake it off as hurt insecure girl.

    • No it was just you thinking it lol my vagina gets the same way when i'm super turned on, it's natural for this to happen, take this as a compliment for the fact you can get her soaking wet like that xD lol she is obviously wild for you.

  • Either your insecurities are getting the best of you.
    (You are starting to see cheating signs that aren't really there).

    Or you truly have reason to believe she has been unfaithful.
    Because her vagina not feeling the same (the reason she gave is convincing)
    have you ever seen her in contact
    with men, or anything that would make you think she is cheating?

    • couldn't agree more with you. it's very dangerous to assume things in a relationship. it can result in breaking up a long-term relationship. when the trust is lost, then the relationship will be lost very soon too.

    • this

  • It's in your head dude, the wetter the better for a woman. So point is you don't trust her & the cooch doesn't have you all whipped anymore so just let her go. Don't be a fool & keep doing the on/off crap any longer.

  • it might be that
    a, you were not as hard as normal because of your insicurities
    b, the vagina gets larger and smaller depending on the time of the cycle, you might not have noticed becasue it was gradual before... it also changes depending on arousal, so she has a point
    c, she got streached out by another guy... or her toys
    d, a combination of the above
    i imagine that it is a combination of a and b, it's not always the worst case... but you should have a frank discussion with her, that doesn't end up in sex before you finish

  • Okay lets just separate some things here. How her vagina felt has nothing to do with infertility. Women tend to feed off of emotions during sexual experiences and her being more wet then usual is most likely from being overly emotional, turned on and wanting you, NOT from being 'stretched out' or something by someone else.

  • It sounds like she's losing some body muscle tone. Ask her to do three sets of 25 Kegels for 10 seconds at least five times per day. Tell her that if she's getting better, she should be able to insert one finger when she's cumming and feel the squeeze when she flexes her vaginal muscles. I don't think you can infer a thing other than that from it.

  • perhaps its just your mind getting the best of you plus the additional fact that you haven't had sex with her while you were away so it might just feel different and your insecure and your ideas or insecurities are getting the best of you or your just trying to figure out why it feels like that and your convinced she's unfaithful so thats why you thinks its different or she's cheated kind of thing. I dont think she's cheated as she clearly is lustful for you. Plus her explaination is kind of plausible considering she said she was just horny and she was squirting and screaming so yeah.

  • I am not sure what your feeling. The vagina is a muscle and by design is very elastic and flexible. Remember childbirth. Women have babies and after they recover their vagina is just as "tight" as it was before. Even if your girlfriend had sex with a huge cock while on holiday, her vagina would be back to normal when she was with you. Maybe she was just extremely wet and you could not feel the same friction you remember.

  • Seriously, if she is fucking horny, ofcourse her vagina will be extremely wet and it will feel larger, but that is just because she is extremely horny -_-

    Also, that should not be the reason why you think she is unfaithful. She still could be, but you won't ever notice because vaginas don't change... except when you get old, or have had babies.

  • The vagina is supposed to expand when aroused, so she could have just been really horny

  • Your opening sentences answers your question. You're really paranoid and insecure, you don't trust her and you don't have a very good view of her because you're constantly arguing so you're giving yourself another reason to get paranoid and not trust her! The way you talk about your girlfriend is disrespectful. Vagina size can change depending on a variety of things, it seems her vagina hasn't changed at all looking at your question, it's just a bit bigger or maybe you have a small one. I would say to break up with her, the relationship isn't going anywhere with the constant arguing and your insecurities.

    • Thanks for MHO

  • the vagina is really really tight it expands to the penis then closes on it even if it's been used a lot o think... maybe it didn't feel right to you because your feelings are not the same anymore? maybe you weren't getting as turned on and involved because of what happened with you guys fighting

  • I mean, when a girl is more excited, the vagina does expand more.. Doesn't necessarily mean she's been sleeping around, but genuinely missed you. But that's a sciencey stuff and could be wrong in this case :p

  • The wetter and more aroused the woman the looser it is, women are made to have baby's it always goes back to ifs shape, if a baby can't change that, a man definitely can't lol.

  • Well to speak from personal experience, I am a girl who has had quite a bit of experience, and my vagina has not gotten any bigger than it was the day before I lost my virginity. The more wet a girl is, the more space the vagina will create. I have read before as well that the vagina only permanently increases in width after child birth. I would say based off of this information, no.

    • It doesn't change in size after giving birth! Maybe she was faking it, and she wasn't actually having an orgasm. Usually the walls contract during a climax; making it feel tighter...

    • I'm with ^. I've had a child and mine isn't stretched out or larger inside. In fact, my make doctor said it's just as normal as a woman who hasn't had a baby.

  • If you REALLY thought she was being unfaithful in the beginning (the reason you broke up with her) then you should've told her to get tested before even having any sexual relations with her again. I would say it's possible, but unlikely. Me and my bf are often sexual active with each other, however sometimes my vagina is as tights as a virgins! Some things just can't be explained!

  • Not necessarily - if you haven't slept with her in a while then it can get tighter !

  • not possible. those things don't stretch.

    • Love the sleeve 👌

    • Thanks love!😉

  • What has been done is done. You can talk and forgive but please reconsider if returning will be healthy for both: from your side, insecurities have taken the worst of you; from her side: she went on with her life and admitted that she was horny. In both sides, there was a fight and discussion and trust in the partner is starting to lack.

    Trust and no lies are important in a relationship.

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