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I'm horny 24/7 but my boyfriend can't keep up, any suggestions?

I don't need any judgy. This is a serious issue that I've been having since I became active. I'm ALWAYS horny. I can't help it. My doctor says that I have a hormonal imbalance and with my higher than normal testosterone levels I'm always in the "mood". I have to have a orgasm everyday and it literally gives me life. I'm being blatantly truthful when I say that if l could, I'd do it every hour of the day If I had the chance to. My boyfriend on the other hand can't keep up and it's not his fault but he discourages me from using toys which he thinks will make me want him less which is FAR FAR from the truth. I wish I could have him to myself even during work! Any suggestions of what I can do or say? Ladies, I'm gonna need help from you the most!
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  • Thanks for this question because it reaffirms what I've said in answers to other's questions about female sex drive: testosterone controls the sex drive.

    I empathize: In 1988-89, I knew a woman who was likely like you. She was a nymphomaniac. God bless - it was a wonderful 2.5 weeks of my life that I got to service her needs. Of course, she needed to move on the next sausage in the meat case, so I ended up brokenhearted.

    My advice to you is this: Tell your boyfriend what happened to me. Because that nympho couldn't get enough, she strayed. So, he needs to let you relieve yourself in any possible way you can that doesn't involve you cheating. Also reassure him that, no toy can replace "the real thing" so, while you may use a toy to relieve yourself, when you "need the real thing", you'll always go to him.

    As a side note, I've noticed that women who are like this are... ummmm how to put this nicely... have some extra hair. It's a hallmark of women who have an elevated sex drive: if they have hair on their upper lip, they have elevated natural levels of testosterone and this makes sense because it's the same reason men are hairier than women. That nympho I knew was like that (so she dealt with it with nair) and I had a GF I loved who was a bit like that. You are likely like this too. So, if you and your BF do break up, the good news in a way is that a man who understands this hair issue will be able to detect that you are a woman with an elevated sex drive without you saying anything. Such a man should be more empathetic to you needs.

    • Wow thanks for that advice! I do have extra hair lol. Oh my, I shave probably 2-3 times a week and I wax once a week. I'm sorry about the straying lady... I certainly don't wish to do that to my BF. Its good to know someone understands me. Everyone just thinks I'm crazy and I need to relax and do hormonal therapy or spend thousands on laser treatment every year. I'm gonna talk to him about it. Thanks again.

    • Allow me to add this piece of trivia too. Alcohol increases testosterone in women and makes them more excitable, but it has the opposite effect on men.

    • That's good to know. Im a sponge. I get drunk VERY easily and it's probably not wise for me to do it as often as I was at some point. Thanks for that info.

  • the best solution that I can give you the best advice that I can give you is you can masturbate every chance you got if you're not working that is cuz you do not want to get caught at your job while doing that. I'm actually going through the same thing.

    1. But I do not tell my therapist about it.

    2. Because he's gay because I don't know him that well anyway.

    3. Because I'm more comfortable talking about my situation to a women more

    • I wanted to ask you some personal questions but if you want you can hit me up on private in my Inbox

    • I wanna inbox you so bad. I really need someone to talk to about this. I went anonymous because I'm slightly embarrassed.

    • don't be just hit me up

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  • do you masturbate? because that would be the obvious answer. i have a high sex drive, though i don't think i have a hormonal imbalance to give me a reason for mine haha if it's not going to get in the way of normal daily activities or your sex life with him, it's perfectly fine to masturbate when you need to.

    • I masturbate a lot but nothing like the real thing. I feel like he doesn't try but turns out I'm always wearing him out 😞

    • tell him he needs to either do better or let you get toys for yourself. just lay down the law. he shouldn't have control over your satisfaction in this way. if he won't let you do what you need to do, you need to find someone who takes you seriously about your sex drive and who wants to satisfy you. he shouldn't want you to feel unsatisfied all the time - that leads to cheating. also though, how long have you been together? i was extra horny when my boyfriend and i first got together but i have gotten better since lol

    • We've been together 3 years. Oh where do I start? He was great in the beginning, very freaky and he was the one who got me into the toys, the lingerie and what not. We did it 3-4times a day. Than he got into a motorcycle accident about a year ago and wasn't really the same 😞. I nursed him back to health during that time we didn't do it for a month. I was very aggravated, but after healing and stuff he seemed to be doing a lot better but we don't do it as much as we used to. Lately, within the past months, he's been slacking a little and it's been really messing with his ego. I've been hornier than ever before and I don't want to break up with him over sex.

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  • To be honest, he can't tell you what to do... its your body and if toys give you some relief, then its your choice to use them or not. I think in a situation thats abnormal, he doesn't have any say in this

    Do what you need to do to feel better, if its toys and whatever, go for it

  • I don't get that attitude. Toys are fun. We've introduced them into our sex life for years.

    • If your gf or wife used it while you at work it wouldn't bother you?

    • Not at all. I'm comfortable with myself and our relationship. It's my wife. Maybe he wouldn't be so put off if you brought them in during sex? Or he could go the direction of feeling that he doesn't satisfy you on his own. People can be uptight about sex. I'm glad my wife is happy to go along for the ride. Great sex is a big relationship improver. It will never fix one, but it does improve it. Toys, they make some fun games, massage with oil. Dry massages get nowhere near as erotic. Sex in public is always a good one. We had a nice time in Sam's parking lot last week after grocery shopping. You want him to get into a toy? Go buy one of those vibrator that go all the way in your vagina so you can move around and give him the remote control, go out and let him control the speed. He'll die watching you try not to lose your mind in front of people. Plus it's erotic because nobody knows you're getting off right in front of them.

    • Thanks. I wanna do some online shopping right about now :-)

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  • Maybe try wearing vibrating panties and a diaper under your clothes?

  • That's interesting! Get your bf to pleasure you with his hands i guess.

  • I don't mean to make light, i just always lol when i girls wearing out there bf's

  • Suggest going into an open relationship. Try new things in the bed. Maybe threesomes? It's something you and your partner needs to be willing to experiment with.

    On the flip side, you could try to force yourself to maintain your urges by stopping yourself from masturbating and having sex. (Can look up the 'NoFap' movement on google for instance.)

    • That's gonna be hard but there was a time where I abstained from it for an entire month. That's like a whole year for me but it's possible.

    • He's not open for an open relationship. I understand. He's afraid I'll leave em for someone who's good in bed. My BF really doesn't give himself credit. He's a STUD.

  • Do you really enjoy the feeling of being wet and turned on then?

    • Yes I do.

    • Good... so tell me then , dirty little slut... What do you look like? ALL over...

    • Okay now you're getting a little creepy.

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  • No judgy, but this is exactly the scenario most guys face on a daily basis. If you are unhappy, find a guy who can keep up. You're surrounded by them.

    Take comfort in the fact that is won't last. It never does with women.

    • At what point did you read that I was "unhappy"? I'd like to point out that we have a very deep friendship and a decent sex life, unfortunately I'm a bit on the extreme side of things. I'm not unhappy at all. Unhappy isn't the correct term to use in this situation.

    • I don't think you understand her man. When you experience a real nympho, she is different than any other woman and even hornier then young men. A guy can have an orgasm and be satisfied for awhile. A nympho needs to do it several times a day.

  • Keep to his pace and don't even consider cheating or finding other ways (other than with yourself or your boyfriend) to sort out your needs.

  • I'd say just masturbate or use tous.

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