Is Masturbation/ Touching yourself during sex a turn off (contradictory to popular belief)?

[Anonymous]

I hear all the time that guys supposedly love it when girls masturbate in front of them. I'm not talking about busting out a rabbit or even a shower nozzle: just our own hands. Are we girls being lied to? are guys secretly turned off/conflicted about their lady friend showing them how she masturbates? Women have always been told that guys love this, that for a girl to admit that she does and to give a guy a front row seat, is up there with chloroseptic-sponsored bjs and squirting. There's always a hute cache of vids on any p*rn site of girls solo - but then again there's also always catagories for large old women, hairier than my dad women and u get the idea... but In my personal experience, inever found "guys like it when you jerk of in front of them" to be true. I would totally include him in the process - sit in front of him, talk about what I think of from our past or future etc ya know... but it almost seemed like he (and when I aay "he" it is an amalgam of a few different relationships) is intimidated or resentful. which brings be me to my other question: does it bother you when your girl wants something touching her clit when you have sex, especially if, for whatever reason, you don't pay attention during intercourse to her clit (no judgement) I imagine it might take attention away from the task at hand (well or not at hand), and she either takes it upon herself to play with it during sex OR if she wants something vibrating during intercourse like a cockring, wevibe, or even just a tiny egg-type vibrator. If it does bother you - on any level - why? or if she gives herself t a "hey you just lie there and watch how

[Anonymous]

Yes you sound confused, perhaps due to... too many opinions, personal preferences, each to his own?
My experiences with men I've found most pleasurable (the others' opinions really don't count) has proven that they are in the know about clit stimulation and female masturbation THUS use this in our sex play.
Of course SOME visual showtime is an appetizer, be the spotlight on his self stimulation or I'm the star... this doesn't last that long. Real men find this titillating but also a sure-fire warm up if I do it, leaving their hands more free to roam as they wish over me.
If they are busy elsewhere during intercourse, they love me to stim my clit to get things hotter... only the real sophomoric types need to be THAT in control or "do it all" (or nothing... ugh).
There's nothing better than a We Vibe II and those guys mentioned all love to be there inside with it.
I really can't be around shallow thinkers that limit the sexual options, the sexual horsepower a woman can bring to the table/bed...

[LauraHelen]

Well I think sex and masturbation is two different things because when you are going masturbation then you want to have sex. That time girls are using sex-toys as we-vibe etc that are available in stores as like colorsandtoys for entertain the sexual moments.

[Prettykangaroos]

My boyfriend doesn't like it. He wants to do everything himself. I guess it makes him feel like he alone isn't good enough.

[voraciousone]

But do you like it? Would you like for it to be part of your experience?

[voraciousone]

For me, a woman who knows her own body is a better lover. She knows how to get off and I love to see what she does to herself so that I can also experiment with her. Masturbation, even mutual masturbation, is deliciously hot to me. During foreplay, and I adore foreplay to all heights and measures, if my lover begins to touch and play with herself it gets me too excited. And, toys are enhancers, not the real thing. You want to use them, please do. Getting you off is what gets me off and I do everything within my power to make sure this is the outcome. I loved your question and the intellectual approach you too to it.

[Anonymous]

Popular belief is right in this case.

" Are we girls being lied to?"

No, and why would you think that you were?

"but In my personal experience, inever found "guys like it when you jerk of in front of them" to be true."

Is it possible that you've found a way to make the whole process seem clinical and utterly unsexy?

Is it possibel that the guys you've done this with are too young and inexperienced to be anything other than threatened by something like a sex toy or vibrator or dildo?

[VeryBiFun]

My lady loves to rub her clit as we have sex. When she does that it turns me on like crazy. She likes it when I do the same. She loves to suck on my nipples and watch me stroke my hard-on.

Masturbation during sex for me is super hot. It does not harm our relationship or our sex. It enhances it big time.

She is not a toy user at all, but loves her fingers and will masturbate alone and when we are having sex.

There are times too where we will masturbate together or take turns masturbating for the other to watch.

[Klaatu51]

personally i find it a turn-off... why? because i want to have sex with her!!! not see her masturbating!

[DaBuzzman]

No I love watching my girl do it for me and then when she adds me in to help her. Extremely sexy!

[Kiwifun]

You talk like a man lol

[ND4SPD31]

I think it's totally hot if she masturbates in front of me!! That would get me going in no time! Lol.

[QuietKnight]

Love it

[Kapooya]

It's good clean fun

[gazianteplim27]

Very long question :)

[Anonymous]

Guys ask me to sometimes or go on about how they'd love to see it. So I think so.
I could never do that though haha all on show