I gave my boyfriend a handjob for the first time?

It was a terrible experience. I felt kind of pressured into doing it but, it wasn't like he said "Do it or I'll break up with you" or anything like that but he just kept putting my hand on his dick while we were making out behind our schools building. No one was there that wasn't something to really worry about but, I was still skeptical about it I didn't want my first time giving him a handjob to be at school outside where anyone could catch us so I wasn't all that into it but, nevertheless I tried my darndest. I've been looking up tips on how to do it for a few days and I tried to incorporate some things that I picked up. I went at it for a whole 20 minutes and over text we'd been talking about sexual stuff he said the longest he's lasted jacking off was 8 minutes. I was so embarrased he didn't you know finish and he kept saying "why can't I cum what the hell" and he started asking if I wanted to suck it and that's where i drew the line I wasn't ready for that I kept saying no and he kept asking for other stuff and it Just seemed like he wasn't happy with what I was doing for him. I tried changing positions facing him, facing away from him, he said he really liked my ass in the skirt I was wearing so I tried like bending over and shit. I left crying he kept calling me to come back and that he was sorry and to come back so we could talk but, I couldnt look at him knowing I fucked up so I just ran away. My question is What the hell did I do wrong? Am I not good enough? What can I do better?
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  • The only way he will know you're not okay with something is if you voice it.
    If you just go along with whatever you can't expect the experience to be enjoyable and for him to automatically know how you were feeling.
    Based on your reaction towards the end, i am sure he may have picked up on your discomfort.
    You have to let him know you'd rather do things with him in private not in public
    .
    The worse thing you can do before doing a sexual act is read what others think is great.
    Your mans reaction to how you are handling his penis will allow you to see what he enjoys.
    Every person is different.
    Also,
    It makes sense that he cums fast when he jacks off.
    Afterall he knows his body more, you are just learning it.

  • sweetheart, I will boast and say I'm pretty damned good in bed. I am amazing at giving head and anything else you care to imagine, but handjobs? Nope. I'm just terrible at them, it's like I'm trying to start a fire with sticks, or using a shake weight or stripping varnish. I just can't do it. Don't be at yourself up about it, talk to your boyfriend. Don't let this fester and linger, just tell him you felt like you'd let him down and next time having some privacy would help you BOTH a lot. He was probably very nervous and that's why he didn't cum, plus, it's the first time someone else has touched his dick, it may take a little while to figure out what's good but behind school in public is not the place to do that.

  • The only thing you did wrong is how you worded this question.
    HE did everything wrong.
    Please leave this tool!

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  • Hun... first thing first... if you are not ok with it, don't do it. draw your terms. the fact that you were nervous and he was just wanting to finish didn't help, it actually put some stress on both of you. be clear to him: if you don't want to do it, don't do it.

    Second thing: next time if you are up to it... do it in private and pay attention to the results as you change techniques. If you'd rather do sth else, go for it.

  • You did nothing wrong. Its not the end of the world if a guy dosnt cum. He should have been morerespectful to you. He says he Masturbates within 8 mins he cums. He wasn't used to any one elses touch but his own. . I say dump him you can get a more decent guy than that. ..
    Or if there is a next time have him show you how he jerks it. And ask him for pointers if you want.

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  • Sounds like he was more aware of the setting than he was putting out there. he was prolly worried some about getting caught outside and not completely into the deed. just talk to him.. play it cool.

  • I agree with the second male poster on this one. The only way he will cum in public is if you are in to it.

  • You are now learning the #1 lesson in sexual activity. You have to be "INTO" what you are doing mentally for it to be a good experience.

  • Clumsy guy meets clumsy girl.
    That's a problem that will solve itself if he loves you.

  • I'd not be able to cum in public like that.

  • You didn't fuck up, you did absolutely everything right - you're with a guy who is a bit of a jerk.

  • Stop spamming GAG with this bullshit. Your trolling for girls to talk about dicks and blowjows and shit. Your a fucking 40 year old man, perv. Leave.

    • im 18 😂 thanks though

    • i felt to embarassed to use my username so i went on anon granted there's a lot of perverts on this website i am not one of them.

  • First of all he shouldn't of pressured you into doing that and it wasn't really the time or place either. Don't feel bad. Tell him to stick it and get himself off next time