Tips for fingering girls?

[Anonymous]

Its my first time fingering a girl and its my girlfriends first time being fingered so were both pretty clueless. Just want some random tips on what to do/look for Thanks.

[kabooms]

First things first, remember that you MUST clip, trim, and file your nails. I made this mistake my first time and I never realized just how sharp your nails can be (particularly the corners). Read a guide about how to clip them properly so you can minimize pain. Furthermore, slide your fingernails against your lip and tip of your nose to find sharp areas that need to be filed. These sharp pokings can kill a great fingering. If you find a finger whose nail is too sharp even after filing, make a conscious effort to avoid using it.

Second, pace yourself. Fingering is something you have to build towards. Vaginal wetness is key and that means foreplay BEFORE fingering. After feeling up other parts of her body (nape of neck, collar bone, hair, breasts, arms, inner thigh, belly (not for all women), start by gently massaging her mons pubis (the fatty area where her pubic hair grows primarily from). This is a very erogenous zone and a great way to build tension without over-stimulation. Avoid contact with the clitoris at least until late in foreplay as rushing there WILL kill pleasure if its too soon.

Third, continue this teasing until she is wet You can tell this by starting to insert your finger and guage from how it feels. You can optionally use lube to make your dry finger slide more comfortably in. If you don't use lube, ease your finger in slowly back in forth a mere centimeter or two going deeper each time. To give perspective, you shouldn't fully penetrate until at least 30 seconds after starting to finger. This will allow you to wick lubrication onto your finger making it much more comfortable for her.

Fourth, special attention should be paid to the anterior wall of the vagina (closest to her belly) as this is where the g-spot is most commonly attributed to. Also remember to be gentle as forceful play can kill the mood UNLESS you've built up to it AND she likes it that way. That means forget that "shocker" crap as that is garbage technique.

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[kabooms]

Fifth, always start light with contact. Touching too firmly can dull pleasure. Start light and build to more firm touch based upon her reaction. Finally, be aware of her body. This can give you vital feedback on what is working. Know that as orgasm approaches, the outer 1/3 of the vagina contracts and tightens holding this pressure until orgasm. To your finger, it will feel like she is slightly squeezing your finger. As she orgasms, you will feel her rhythmically contract around your finger at intervals around 4/5 second with decreasing frequency for around 20-45 seconds. During this time, you want to scale back on what you are doing as it can be too much due to hypersensitivity during orgasm. Lastly, remember that the vast majority of nerve endings in the vagina are located on the outer 1/3 and that very deep penetration is not needed to be pleasing meaning you shouldn't press your knuckles against her vulva trying to get in deeper which hurts her Hope that helps!

[Illusive_Man]

Like this.
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I play the guitar... laddddies.

[Durty]

Hahahahaha

[Illusive_Man]

@Durty This is why the guitarist gets all the ladies and groupies while the bassists get a box of kleenex lol I kid. I kid.,

[Illusive_Man]

That moment when it's a bass he's playing.

[Illusive_Man]

Noticed the irony yet?

[MarkyyG123]

HHAHAHAHAHAH oh wow hahaha, good one mate, good one haha :")

[kabooms]

strumming the lady harp I see @Opinion Owner

[Illusive_Man]

@kabooms Wait till I flip on the distortion

[Fobananas]

Just know if she isn't wet enough it'll probably be uncomfortable for her, so use lube if she has a hard time getting wet. My tip is to just have the palm facing upward when you finger and make a kinda' "Come 'mer" motion with your middle and index finger.

Also, just eat her out. That shit is the best thing right there. Waaay better than fingering.

[Asker]

I want to please her that way but we dont have that kind of privacy. Wish i could eat her out cause i know shed appreciate it.

[Fobananas]

You don't have a car at least? Like I know that isn't the classy thing to do but, sex is sex.

[Asker]

Not yet sadly but im sure well have that privacy in good time

[Fobananas]

Just be patient. And eat her out!! I honestly cannot have an orgasm without it. A number of my friends are like that too.

[Asker]

can't wait til the day i can thanks.

[Durty]

Don't play with your food boy! Ghett down and Eat your dessert.

[Klaatu51]

use as many fingers as her vaginacan handly basically... don't overdo it ;-)

[Ihav2fart]

rub outside first then insert finger.

[PineappleBreath]

Start with one finger then 2 then a hand then your arm then your whole body then blam your in narnia