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Ok guys is there a reason a guy won't let a woman cum?

I know of guys that like to go down on women and make them cum multiple times I would think that's very pleasurable for a guy and guys I knew in the past used to like doing this. However many males I needs and this is our first time or second time fooling around will go down on me even for hours and they purposely will not make me cum or let me come. They do this intentionally as it's very easy for me to cum as I'm getting close they will somehow suppress it and then do other things. I once dated a guy that did this and he was a little psycho and it's like he controlled the number of orgasms I had. Usually it was just one. Is there a reason males would do this to any girl or is it some kind of phenomenon now? I'm pretty nice body. I do get the guys off too but once they start this orgasm control thing it's upsetting and then I don't want to do much. Also suppressing my cumming messes with my hormones badly. This is just orally as with these people we dont get to sex. The guy starts doing this right away. To me it's abusive and weird. It almost seems sadistic like they are trying to take their aggression out on women were using me. A guy recently did this to me. He didn't want me to cum and told me to finish myself off. I said well no I mean wtf? After an hour he made me cum but my clit is beat up and in pain and worse I can cum ten more times and he stops. I find it all weird and makes no sense. One thing is that my sex drive gets so fuked up then I can't cum at all. I'm super repressed horny n multi orgasmic.
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  • It seems to me that these fools are trying to do something for you that ONLY applies to men and their plumbing.

    The thing they are doing is called edging. When a man engages in edging, he gets close to cumming then backs off. This is repeated again and again.

    What he gets out of it:

    - hanging at the edge of cumming is pleasurable all by itself
    - each cycle increases the amount of semen that will be ejaculated when he finally cums
    - when he does cum, the orgasm will be more intense

    As far as the "finish yourself" business goes, that just sounds completly jerky to me. But, if I were to bend over backwards to be as charitable in my interpretation as I can be, then I would say this:

    Some men masturbate so much now that they are able to deliver for themselves a consistently better orgasm by hand than they can get from normal intercourse. By letting you finish yourself off, he was giving you the opportunity to have a really good orgasm in the way that works best for him.

    • Oh wow. That sounds pretty accurate most likely. And so weird too lol. I mean it makes sense pertaining to how men might think what is beneficial for them works for women too. If that is true it is just so strange. This guy did say he wished he could make me cum that many times but I knew he could he just wasn't doing it. It seems very sadistic doing it to another person. I do that to myself too but not the way another does it to u. Thanks for the info

    • There is also an element of bsdm play here. It is a normal thing in the relationship between a Dominant and a submissive for the D to deny orgasm to the sub as a means of dicipline But, the D/s relationship is based on mutual consent. So this is still wrong for guys to just do to you.

    • Since a separate opinion would be a waste, it is probably also him boosting his ego by doing the I "I COULD have made her cum this andnthis many times bud didn't cause I'm such a man" thing. Strange and controlling, uncool.

  • I will do this sometimes, on purpose, with my submissive girlfriend, but it's to build up the sexual tension and to make her eventual orgasm super-intense. Many submissive women enjoy orgasm denial, or just generally having their Dominant in control of their orgasms, and as a Dominant, I definitely like having that control.

    I wouldn't intentionally stop the session before she had an orgasm, though... it's more of just delaying it until I'm ready to let her have it, or until I think she's in the state of mind I want her to be in. She never goes home unsatisfied.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I too am multi-orgasmic and it's pretty easy for me to get 2,3,4... etc but #1 takes a few mins. Sometimes guys have a quick fire but if you're talking or real thin I don't know. My guess is what the guys have said… Edging. Tell him it bothers you and that you are a multi cummer. Then he may eat out to several orgasims.

    • Eating a girl out is so yummy especially when she squirts in your mouth n to swallow as she is squirting n cumming

  • Have you told your current partner you don't like that? Lots of people like to tease because it can be fun for the other person too. But if teasing is making you upset then you need to tell him.

  • You need to be having sex with men who meet your needs. These men aren't meeting your needs. That's pretty weird and messed up. Sounds controlling and inappropriate to me.

    • Thanks I agree for sure. I just don't get why they're doing this but maybe it is just for control and it's weird and scary

    • It's very weird

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  • It's called Edging. Tell him to knock that shit off and make you orgasm proper or you will find someone that will.

  • I love licking a girl off and after she gets off she says "Stop I am too sensitive!" and all I want to do is lick some more! I love doing it for the beauty in front of me, her sweet smell, and the heavenly taste of her cum, I could do it for hours but after 5 minutes they cum and want me to stop and ruin my fun of eating that pussy and tasting that cum IT PISSES ME OFF! I would say you just had too many assholes get with you! Try a nice guy!


  • Love you to cum for me taste you

  • My s. o likes it when I tell her not to cum! It always has the opposite effect.

  • Not that I can think of. I don't let my girl go unsatisfied.

  • I concur with what grey_sailor said about edging (holding off male orgasm for later intensity of orgasm)
    So these guys are probably projecting their own male sexuality on women assuming that we are all the same.
    I personally will try to get a girl off a few times while taking turns with oral or petting/stroking etc. Then most girls after cummming a few times will want me inside her and not before.
    It took me a while to understand that about women because they were too shy to talk about it. Eventually I got over my shyness and ask the girls what they liked and when and how much.
    Moral of the story is, do you discuss it? Have you expressed all this frustration with the way things go for you? Any guy worth keeping in your life will take to heart what you tell them and try to give you what you want. Although it might take more than once to get through to him, old habits die hard. At that point you have to ask yourself do I really like him enough to work on it?

  • Sounds like we be perfect 👌

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