Women that think anal or BJ's are not sex?

[godfatherfan]

I saw a interview and also read at least 2 articles recently where women stated that they didn't want to loose their virginity so they had anal sex. One said she gave the guy a blow job. lets put aside this irrational thoughts young women have about "loosing their virginity" like that is something that is the most precious thing on earth... Do women really feel that if they have anal sex they are still a virgin? regardless of the "strict definition?" personally I think it is way more intimate to let me cum inside her mouth then to let me cum inside her vagina. This really doesn't affect me as the women in my age range don't have these hangups about sex. most of us are divorced. So sex happens quickly when it does happen. Also most of us have done everything so men and women know what they like, we are not worried about talking about it openly, so we can get it right out there what we will do and not do. . It is hard to understand why women put such pressure or make virginity seem like it is some precious thing they have to protect at all costs. Guaranteed in 20 years that older you would want to come back and kick your ass for thinking this way. It is even crazier the ones that want to wait til marriage. The chances are your going to be divorced. so wow.. good thing you waited. Instead you should just find someone you would not regret loosing it to. The first time, or even first many times, are over very quickly, awkward, and for some women painful. why do you want your wedding night to be that? don't you want to have fun on your wedding night? Most guys will not care at all if your a virgin. I would prefer she isn't personally. . so maybe someone that feels this way can explain how if you take a cock in the ass you still feel your a virgin and why that was preferable to letting him inside your vagina?

[musicbrain5]

It completely depends on how one defines virginity. But oral and anal are just different kinds of sex. They're not typical sexual intercourse, which to me is P in V. Anyone who has done anything but regular P in V sex is a "technical virgin" to me and there's nothing wrong with that. People can do whatever they want with their bodies when it comes to sex and they should not be judged for it (a lofty idea though since women are judged on everything regarding our sex lives). I think this is why women tend to value virginity more than men do, because of the potential to be judged for having sex.

There's nothing wrong with waiting until marriage either. But I think it's good to know if you're sexually compatible which you don't know if you wait. I didn't wait, but I married my only sexual partner. Yeah it would have been nice to have fun that night but after a 6 hour celebration we were dead fucking tired, lol. So I don't know how virgins muster the energy to do anything remotely sexual on the wedding night.

[godfatherfan]

Guys want to loose it as soon as possible (most... there is an exception to every rule). we will take any woman willing to let us in. I don't buy the "judged" part after someone is out of high school. there is nobody that will know enough about you to judge you or spread rumors after high school so that is not valid. . I laughed at that part about wedding night sex... she spent all day getting ready and doing pictures... I was dressed and ready about 3pm. Church at 4pm. Then pictures. Then to the Hall. Reception went from 5:30pm to 1:30am. then had to pick up her suitcase, go to my house, open all envelopes so my mom could deposit the money and we would have spending money on our honeymoon. She actually went to sleep while I did that. Finished that a 4am. Left for the airport at 5am. flew to puerto rico for a cruze. we didn't consummate the marriage or even sleep together until two days after the wedding lol...

[XRabbitHeartX]

Well I've never heard of a guy losing his virginity for giving oral sex to a girl. It just doesn't happen. So I don't see why girls should be told they're no longer virgins for giving blowjobs either. It should go both ways. But yet it doesn't cause it's always the girl who gets shamed for shit when it comes to sexual things.

I agree with you though that anal sex is definitely still sex though. It stays a form of penetrative sex and it's used as a substitute for normal sex by gay people so for that reason I view those 2 as pretty much the same.

[VioletCouple]

I lost my virginity giving oral sex to a woman. She liked it, and so did I. I think that's enough. Fine, whatever.

[XRabbitHeartX]

@VioletCouple Well that's' certainly unique. Have never met a guy personally in my life who thought they lost their vcard when they gave oral sex.

[godfatherfan]

It just happened the first time I ate pussy I also had intercourse for the first time. but if all I did was eat her out, I am so counting that as loosing my virginity. so I agree with him... hell yes.. pussy is pussy...

[VioletCouple]

@XRabbitHeartX Well, I don't really believe in the concept of virginity.

[ObviouslyBored]

Last time I checked STD's could be passed through oral SEX anal SEX. So those two are absolutely sex and people who think otherwise piss me off. Suckling dick is a kind of sex. So is taking dick in the ass. Petting, hand jobs and dry humping aren't, but blow jobs and anal definenrly are... seriously? Who the hell makes this stuff up.

[BertMacklinFBI]

its just all in the head, personally. they put it up so high and probably have had it high on the pedestal for a long time that its hard to take down at this point, for the girls who think that way. but they can do whatever they want, like you said some people may learn the hard way.

[martyfellow]

Bill Clinton doesn't think so either. Who are you to criticize the President?

[godfatherfan]

Listen... Bill Clinton was the best president of my lifetime. I can't wait for #hillary2016 and lets get Bill back into the White House. Just like Hillary had a voice in what Bill did, you can bet Bill will have a voice.

[SakuraChii]

Bj and anal are sexual but vaginal intercourse is where your no longer a virgin

[SakuraChii]

But to some people like some religious people believe that every form of sex "defiles you"

[godfatherfan]

What is it in your brain that makes that mean anything? if you did oral or anal you have already had sex. why would you think it makes any difference to a guy that you haven't used your pussy yet? more importantly, why does it matter to you? you had a cock in your ass but not your pussy? but your still considering yourself "pure"... I think women need to get over this and just have fun. forget religion that is crazy talk. Go out, have fun, be safe, and stop this crazy talk and walking the line. Trust me, I would love to be in my 20's again with the way most women think...

[SakuraChii]

I wasn't talking about myself. But if it came to that then im already "impure" in the first place and I don't care about pure ness, but to me your no longer a virgin once your hymen breaks sexually im not talking about any cleanness or pureness. I kinda agree with what you said though.

[JonJames]

Sakura... this makes so much sense!

[bubble_tea]

Beats me...
My guess is they think their mouths and assholes are not pure.

[Alexz0]

Blowjobs don't count. Kissing is more intimate.

[miserybusiness]

I follow the biological definition.

Unless there's a hymen inside your throat, you can still be a virgin if you blow a hotdog's ketchup out.

[BertMacklinFBI]

hotdogs filled with ketchup? genius!

[miserybusiness]

Yeah whoever started putting ketchup on hotdogs should win the nobel prize

[bubble_tea]

what if you are born without hymen? are you not a virgin from day 1?

[miserybusiness]

^ Wow questions like that would keep me up at night

[godfatherfan]

LOL... nice.. getting into deep philosophy on GAG... lol

[JonJames]

Hymen in throat -- that is a good one! But how does that analogy work with -- anal?

[JonJames]

That is almost like the movie Deep Throat. It wasn't so much that the girl loved giving BJs more than vag. By some biological quirk of nature, her c lit was actually in her throat! Kind of a funny concept, but it shows it's hard to judge others. Like after another huge orgasm during anal, when we were winding down, one girl said "I swear my cl it is in my ass." What, is she supposed to stay an anal virgin for life, and never orgasm?

[tina15xox]

It's called "anal sex" has 'sex' in it there for id count it bj no it's sexual yes but not bj sex

[godfatherfan]

It is called Oral Sex. Your answer is pretty scary and shows your not ready for any kind of sex. So yes, a blow job is sex.

[tina15xox]

Oh yeah then yes they are all a form of sex

[JonJames]

A girl has 4 virginities: * HJ * BJ * Anal * Vag She should lose them in that order.

[Cowboy6666]

Omg... Lol.. bahahahahaha @sucked 50 cocks.

[Anonymous]

Personally I counted oral as losing my virginity, but I don't think most people do.

Maybe a lot of girls don't count oral or anal as virginity loss since they can't get pregnant from those.

Either way its up to each individual to decide what counts for them. (But keep that in mind when people tell you they are/aren't a virgin. You might want them to ask to be more specific. lol)

[JonJames]

Good call! "Can't get pregnant" is the key. Hell, the way some people frame, a strong, intimate hand job is loss of virginity. What sense does that make? By the way, a good hand job is highly underrated. Girls, work those arm muscles!