In a long distance relationship, my boyfriend is always asking for nudes and is always horny, what should I do?

Me and this guy have been dating for like a month and he is constantly asking for nudes, how do I tell if he actually like me for me?
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Would it change anything if I said he has already sent me pictures of himself and go to the same school that his sister goes to?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Don’t. At your age, it’s advantageous to start putting guys who are interested in you through tests to see their true level of respect and honor. This is step one to preserving your emotional and mental health as well as not getting your heart broken. If he actually likes you, he will not ask you to compromise your comfort and self-respect by sending him naked pictures. No offense, but to be honest, when a guy truly respects you, he doesn’t ask for naked pictures. The only time a guy ever asked me for naked pictures was at 17 years old when I was in a long distance relationship with a guy I had met online. Later on I found out that he was a creep and a huge loser with nothing going for him. Any other guy I’ve dated and even when I was in a relationship, they NEVER asked me to send nudes because they were respectful and honorable.

    He sounds shady. Don’t EVER send nudes. They can get all over the internet…they’re out of your control once you press send.

    • Guys who truly respect you and care about you will NEVER put you in certain situations. This is something you need to remember for the rest of your life. When you are dealing with a respectful, trustworthy, honorable man, he will NEVER put you in a certain situation for his own personal gain.

  • I am in a LDR and he has never asked for nudes, I have known him longer than you. If a guy respects you he wouldn't ask for nudes. We have skyped and our convos never turned sexual, we just had a laugh and made decent convos. He pays a lot of attention to me of different ways, like asking about my day and wanting to know my opinions on different things.

    You are really young and it sounds like this guy is taking advantage of you. If you send out your nudes you won't. Know where it might end up? Do u trust this guy? My advice is don't do it. Tell him your uncomfortable and if he flips out at you he isn't worth it since he is refusing to understand where you are coming from.

  • Long distance and only together for a month... Definitely do NOT send him nudes, or even show nudity on video chat where it can be captured. You will be on the web almost guaranteed and your world will suffer for it. Many girls fall victim to this fate.

Most Helpful Guys

  • If he doesn't ask you for them it's coz he's found someone who will accept him n his needs n is fulfilling them.. constantly asking means your his one n only n he is crazy about you... its hard for a guys to keep asking since we run on pride n ego... break it n he will break..

    he likes you a lot..

    • Bad advice. Don't listen to this guy.

    • Yes please take advice from women who don't know how to keep steady relationships :) hehe

    • What about her needs, she doesn't want to send nudes, he should never force and she should never be guilted into doing something she's unsure about.

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  • Tell him that it's too soon in the relationship and that you aren't comfortable with doing that. Don't feel you need to do something just because he wants you to

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  • Tell him that you aren't ready for that yet, and if he gets upsets.. then he may only be after one thing.

  • Just say no. If he really likes you, he'll respect your choice not to do it.

  • DON'T!!!

    wether he;s your bf or not, it's NEVER wise to send nudes... ESPECIALLY to someone who's asking constantly about it!

  • just say you don't feel comfortable with that right now. If he cares about you he will get over it... I would only show myself a bit "cleavage" on the webcamera (not a picture) if I was comfortable in the relationship and dated long time.

  • Looking at your age - Be very careful and say no - If he really likes you and respects you, he will be fine with your decision.

  • um he's not being real... just another perve who nailed your vulnerability.

    • You got duped.

  • I bet he's a white creep but unfortunately Indian guys are blamed for that.

    #WhiteMansHypocrisy

    • lol wtf is this

    • @σαςReverie White women are hateful towards Indians so I am retaliating. They talk shit about my ethnicity so I talk shit about them.

    • Well that's not very mature. Plus no offense, but it's not just white women who have negative things to say about Indian men. There are a handful of Indian men who are not very cultured and act creepy at the club with rapey eyes or just being real pushy and in your face. They have a bad reputation among many ethnic groups of women of being weird. No offense or anything

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  • Don't give him nudes photo you will regret it unless you already had sex. If you haven't had sex wait till you get know better and even better then wait till after marriage.

  • My long distance boyfriend asked for nudes from me to I said no and he settled for a picture with cleavage.

  • That's totally fine because of the distance. LDR means lack of physical contact and intimacy so your guy needs something to fill that up and you should. BUT, if he just acts like he wants you just because of that then I don't think there's love all in all. He should treat you special too and show care and love everytime not just lust. I had a boyfriend for 3yrs before and we only get to be together for a week every month but i felt his love so i always spoil him with his needs.

    • This is a horrible answer.

    • To whoever said this is a horrible answer. are you a man? Do you kniw what it's like to be one? Thoseguys were honourable yes. but you sayying no meant they had options if you think they were ok with it. guys are loyal to ttheir women if their women spoil them. your entitled to your opinion good for you but you have no right to tell people what to do n what their opinion should be n force people to agree with you or see things your way. If you've had bad experiences too bad life isn't fair. We all dont end up with the same fates... but i would say in the case of peace if mind if he wants your nudes make him send you his for leverage sakes. if he publishes yours then you have him by the balls literally. If you tc of your man he will respect you but there's a difference in expecting it in return n commanding/earning his love n respect. men cheat when their women act too smart n use "No" as an answer to everything. Spoil him n hell not cheat. Say no hell move on to someone who cares.

    • Guys I'm sure he loves her. But you guys need to understand she says no he wil loce her still but will feel more let down. Will you lose out on someone you love coz y'all can't compromise? Your afraid he's gna post your stuff? If he wants pics make him send you his first!!! Also make it difficult for people to identify you women so it's easy to deny it if it came to that... im sure he didn't askyou to iinclude all your details in the pic... dont be cold n say no just be smarter n get something out of it thats beneficial to you