Why do I keep fantasizing about a threesome with my girlfriend and her best friend? Is there a way to make it happen?

I recently met a few girls on another course at uni. Two of them are really close friends and rather pretty. I asked one out when I was brave enough and we started dating and I guess you could say have become a couple after about a month. I really like her and she's so fun and pretty. She's quite close with another girl who I get on well with too. Is it ok that I have fantasized about that girl sometimes? I erm.. masturbated to her FB picture of her in a bikini the other day. I kinda imagine having a threesome with both of them, partly because they're both so flirty and hot. One of my favorite photos is of them smiling at the camera with their mouths open. Is it ok that I masturbate about this fantasy? I mean I would love to have a THREESOME with them. Is there a way to make this happen and should I mention this to my gf? Does it mean anything that I masturbate about her friend as well sometimes? In terms of dating and personality I prefer my gf. I do like her friend though and sometimes do think she is easier to have conversations with. My gf is wild, but that's what I like about her, she's really fast moving and fun to talk to. I also think my gf is prettier and do masturbate about her too. I really would love to get head from her, but not sure how to talk about it.
Yes. It's sexual attraction. Masturbating about her friend is fine. Go for the threesome! Advice below on how to get there.
Vote A
Masturbating/fantasizing about her friend as much as you want is fine. It's just sexual desire. But keep it a fantasy.
Vote B
You have feelings for both of them. Go for the threesome! Advice on how to get there below.
Vote C
You do have some sexual and personal feelings for her friend. Go for the threesome! Advice below.
Vote D
You have sexual and personal feelings for the friend. Maybe ask her out/make out with her. Tell your gf you like her friend.
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How do I approach the subject of a double bj from my girlfriend and her hot friend? It's a fantasy I would like to experience and my birthday is coming up?
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I'd really love a double bj. I particularly fantasize about this with her and her friend. Is there a way to hint at that? Is it ok to masturbate about her friend sometimes?
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  • Your thoughts and fantasies are your own business. But as for an actual real-life threesome within your relationship? Tread carefully. The topic is controversial and comes with all kinds of drama and complications that you might not be considering or be prepared for.

    Even just telling your girlfriend how you feel about this could completely destroy your relationship and maybe even end her friendship with the other girl. Before you go down this path, make sure it's worth it to you. Is this something you need to be happy in a relationship? Is it important that you find a partner who is comfortable with threesomes? Or is this just a fun fantasy that you'd be better off keeping to yourself? Think carefully before you decide. You are dealing with real humans here, not characters in a book or a p*rn film.

    If you decide you want to pursue a threesome, introduce the idea cautiously. First, ask if she's ever fantasized about a threesome. Don't jump to suggesting one right away. Allow your conversation to naturally take you there, if you can. And always be prepared for the possibility that she could become upset by the topic.

    One thing is certain: if you value your relationship with your girlfriend, you CANNOT be the one to suggest her best friend as the person to include in your threesome. If your girlfriend suggests asking her, great! If she doesn't, you're out of luck, bud. Knowing that you're attracted to her best friend - attracted enough to actually pursue a threesome with her, that is- has very good odds of ending your relationship right then and there. It will likely bring up all kinds of trust and security issues that will take your conversation from fantasy to argument in the blink of an eye. So if you do bring up the idea of a threesome, be prepared to live out your fantasy with a different third person- unless you get lucky or you want to risk your relationship.

    • This is really helpful and brings up some interesting points! Thing is I really like my gf. I don't think she is the one and we are both looking for fun now. If anything she is more out for having a good time all the time than me. Sometimes I feel like her friend is more down to earth like me. Both of them are hot. If there's a chance it could happen, I might risk it as I'm not sure we're all going to be in the same place after we start progressing through careers. It is a really fun fantasy to masturbate about - both of them pleasing me. How would I introduce the idea? What exactly do I say that would be subtle? I mean, tbh I don't mind a similar looking girl to my gf, when she's been on holiday I masturbated to a p*rnstar who looks like her and my gf's picture. When I fantasize about her friend, it's normally only with my gf as well. I would like it to be her tbh, since she is also pretty hot.

    • So how would I point it in that direction? What do you suggest? Also I really like the picture of them both with their mouths open?

    • I can't quite tell from your comment if you thought I was suggesting that you have a threesome with your gf's friend and another girl entirely, as opposed to your gf's friend and your gf. That isn't what I was suggesting. That could be an option, potentially, but it's also a whole other can of worms with it's own complications. What I meant was that maybe your gf would feel more comfortable having a threesome with a girl she doesn't know, as opposed to her best friend, since it could affect their friendship and she likely won't want that. To be honest, casual "fun" relationships are not something I have a lot of experience with or insight into. And obviously, you know your girlfriend infinitely better than I do. If you believe your girlfriend could be down for a threesome with her best friend, then maybe you're right. But just don't overlook the possibility of jealousy and hurt, and how this could affect their friendship as well as the relationship. Being a fun, wild person is one...

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  • Ok, i didn't vote bc none of the options i agreed on. You stated that your GF is wild and fun to talk to. So, if this is her best friend then she would probably entertain your fantasy. She would NOT like to know that your fap to her friends photos. Approach her when she is in a good mood, and ask has she ever thought about a threesome? She may want you to do the same for her with another guy. And you should be willing to do so. But be cautious, she may get upset at this. If she does, say that you completely understand and that it was just a passing thought that almost every guy fantasizes about. Then the next day complementary flowers would sooth hurt feelings, BUT that being said, I gave my BF a threesome. We were talking one day and he brought it up. i was hesitant at first, but i soon realized that it would be fun for him and i. And it was! he still loves me, and is still more attracted to me then the other female. But the most important thing is that i didn't want them to have contact afterward, and he kept it that way. She may be into this kinda thing, or it may be just a one time occurrence. Either way Just ask :)

    • Would she be up for it? I'm not sure how to approach the subject so directly. How to ask more subtly? I really like my gf tbh. I only thought about a threesome with her and her friend because they look hot together. How would I mention this? I definitely am more attracted to my gf than the friend and I would not have any sexual contact afterward. I do not want to cheat. How do I ask her and not upset her? I find my gf so sexy, it's just I saw her with her friend and it set off a fantasy.

    • Tell her how hot she is, and how hot it would be to see her with another girl. Maybe mention this on one of those sexual cuddle nights, tell her that is one of your fantasy's. Girls like to be able to fulfill them for their men, maybe you should start out with just asking to watch her and her friend have some fun, she may be more at ease with that. Then later she may bring it up herself, or it would make it easier for you to ask after that for the threesome. Hell, if she agrees to have fun with her friend while you watch she may drag you into the writhing mess of female flesh in the heat and desire of the moment. But i must give you the best advice if this happens. DO NOT FINISH WITH HER FRIEND. You better cum with your girl, or there will be hella big problems. lol

    • That's some solid advice! So tell her how hot she is and how would I tell her I'd love to see her getting it on with her friend? As in what would I say? If she did suggest it, I would be up for it deffo! I agree in terms of the finishing.. I mean my fantasy was getting steamy with them both, but either giving them both a facial or else having her friend talk dirty and encouraging me to finish on my girlfriend saying how dirty she is. How do I ask my gf about her getting naughty with her firend and watching? And then how to move to getting involved?

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  • It's fine to have those fantasies but it will more than likely ruin your relationships and all the friendships involved. Someone will end up making a sound or doing something that puts the seed of doubt in someone's head. It will lead to a lot of mistrust and fights. Eventually everyone will stop being friendly.

    • Ok, glad it's ok to masturbate about her. Thing is I really like my gf. It's just I love seeing her with her friend and when they're both with me. Is it possible to hint at it?

    • I wouldn't. I just mentioned to my fiancé once that if he hadn't kissed me and asked me out I would've tried to get with his best friend and he was not happy about it.

    • Yeah but the thing is I'm not trying to get it on with her friend, I'm just asking about having her join us in the bedroom. I prefer my gf, which is why I asked her out and not her friend. So is there a way to have a threesome? I wouldn't want to get it off with just that friend. Thoughts?

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  • I haven't read all the other opinions, so I apologize if I'm writing something already covered. Anyway, I voted B and it's coming from a man that has occasional threesomes himself. Me and my GF have rules we follow in our relationship, which is obviously not strictly monogamous. One of them is: NO FRIENDS!

    My opinion is that there is a difference between love and sex. One goes with another, sure, but it is possible to have sex without feelings as well. We practice threesomes with strangers only, sometimes girls, sometimes men. Of course, we don't pick these strangers on the street, we check them and we get to know them a little before. However, it is impossible to have sex with a friend without consequences, because there are already feelings involved from at least one party. There is a possibility that a threesome with a friend would strengthen the friendship but it's highly unlikely and very risky. It couldn't only end their friendship but your relationship as well. Just don't do it.

    Besides, according to your description it seems to me you have some feelings toward the other girl, not just physical attraction. This could complicate things further. Sorry for breaking down your fantasy, but it would be better for all if this fantasy of yours remains as such.

    • I see your point. But in terms of her friend, it's really only physical attraction. I know her, I'm not close friends with her. My gf also just met her on this masters course. I think it's more that I find the thought of the two of them together hot which is what I masturbated about. How would I approach the subject with my gf? I mean, my fantasy is sort of having them give me a double bj. I fancy my gf, it's just I would love to have a threesome with her friend. She's not my friend by the way. Is it possible and what should I do?

  • Ask her if she ever had or fantasized about a threeway. Test the waters before you say, i want a threeway with you and ur friend. Maybe you two can talk to eachother about what you both like sexually. Generally a man wants to please his woman and the woman wants to please her man. She might do it

    • How to bring it up? I really like her, it was just seeing them together got me fantasizing.

    • I would start by asking eachother what both of you like in bed. You and her would probably have better sex and relationship too. If she likes a certain thing done to her than as long as it doesn't totally geoss you out, do it. Same with her. When you're talking about this you can say u always wanted to try a threesome. You dont know how she'll react until you ask her.

    • ok! that's a good point

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  • I need an advice on the same

    • Cool need to find out too!

  • Its just a fantasy the chances of your gf letting it happen is less than 1%. Don't feel bad we all have fantasies.

    • Any way to increase the odds?

    • Marry a p*rn star lol

    • Honestly, this is a very realistic answer. Some things are better left as fantasies. If a threesome is legitimately important to you, go for it, but be prepared to leave a trail of destruction in your wake.

  • How did this go lol

  • Use the Force!

    • I wish I could!!! Strong enough in the force I am not. Trained I need to be! Your advice?

    • You nedd to start off by spending more time with BOTH of them... This is the "Hugh Hefner" technique. Find fun stuff to do for all 3 of you... then, the opportunity will arise... be on the lookout for jealousy though!

    • How to do it? If we are all at a bar, or bowling or hanging out at a houseparty, how to do it? I love to see them both smiling at me!

  • 1. Because you're a boy.
    2. No.

    • 1. True true true 2. How though? Is there a way? 3. Is it ok to masturbate about her friend?

    • 3. Yes.