Did she act like that because of the size? Are the fetishes the result of it all? and most importantly what should I do now?

[Anonymous]

So I was in a relationship with a very pretty girl, she was 5 years older than me, [& she knew my age from the beginning] she liked me a lot for the first 1.5 months, but then slowly she stopped respecting me, then she started ignoring, degrading me even in front of her friends & they kind of went with it, about half a month later, she told me that I should find another girlfriend, I ignored that at first, after a day I sent her a text & asked what is going on but she wouldn't even speak calmly, it was all insults after that, & they ended with the most humiliating text, she said. "I don't need a boy, I will marry a man", that pissed me off & I started saying bad things to her too, it went on for a bit. After all that, every time I would see her around, she & anyone she's with would have a big grin on their face. So after a year I grew close to another girl, not a girlfriend, but it got to sex, after which I was told that I had a very small penis, but she wasn't a bitch, & we still became good friends[no sex]. But I think it all got to me very deeply & that I didn't realize it all at first, so overtime I started craving weird sex fetishes that I had not heard of before, but now they have become a part of me, I feel ashamed and sometimes humiliated for liking it all, but I don't think these fetishes will ever go away, they're like the only kind of sex that I now like, I know that people like me are considered very weird & not respected because of our sexual needs or whatever, but please be open-minded about my situation. Just so you know I have been with only two women because I just can't enjoy physical contact with someone who is not very close with me, it has nothing to do with anything else, I can still get girls but with these fetishes I will just lose them soon after, so what's the point in trying. IMPORTANT: 1. 4.5 inches length and 5 inch girth. 2. Please don't lie, if I catch your lie[132 IQ], it will just upset me further.

[Anonymous]

Sex is strange and fetishes can come upon us in even stranger ways. Sometimes the kink fairy just comes along and says "that really weird thing you never thought you'd do? Haha. You love it." And that's okay. It doesn't make you a bad person or less of a person.

Cuckholding and insults kind if go hand in hand don't they? I'm sure you can find lots of ladies interested in that sort of thing if you look in the right places. Have you thought about fetlife?

[Asker]

Yeah, sex can be strange, haha, I remember that sometimes I enjoyed my girlfriend trying to mess with me, sometimes I didn't, I just don't know what's ahead of these desires, I don't want to do something that can harm me. You mean fetlife. com?

[Opinion Owner]

Well it's just like any other kink or fetish. You have to talk with your partner about it and explore slowly so you can learn about one another and yourself. Even when something sounds really, really fun it can be a really really bad idea. So it's good to have someone else there to keep things realistic. Yep. They have something for everyone.

[Asker]

Seems pretty amazing, I didn't know so many people shared the lifestyle as openly as on fetlife. com Are you there, on the site?

[Opinion Owner]

Well that's what it's there for right? Plus even if there isn't a huge following there you can maybe find out where there is. Not currently. I'm kind of trying to simplify my social media XD

[Asker]

Well, do you have experience in this, I mean enough to help out?

[Opinion Owner]

It's more my guy's thing than mine and I think he approaches it in a different way than you do. So I don't really know how useful if be.

[Asker]

No worries, thank you, anyway.

[Anonymous]

What kind of fetishes are you talking about?
Also, how tall are you? Penis size is usually in proportion to your body size.
You aren't an incredibly small size though, my guy is 5 inches length and girth and it's the perfect size to me. He isn't very tall though. The average is 5 inches so being 4.5 isn't too far off. I'd consider small to be under 4 inches.

[Asker]

Crazy ones, SPH, girl sleeping behind my back kind of. I am 5'10.

[Opinion Owner]

If SPH is your fetish then you sound comfortable with the size of your parts. By sleeping behind your back you mean cheating? Are these really fetishes that turn you on or are they things that you fear will happen because of your penis size?

[Asker]

Yes, but even if it's talked about first, I just feel that I will accept to live in a such a situation. I am confused about it when I am not turned on, but when I am turned on, it's like I am a completely different person.

[Opinion Owner]

So as your normal self SPH and being cheated on are fears but once you're aroused they're turn on's?

[Asker]

Yes.

[Opinion Owner]

To ease your fears not all girls are shallow like the older woman you were dating. In fact many of the good girls worth being with aren't really concerned with the size of your penis. I think once you find someone who loves you for you and not the size of your part then those fetishes will go away during sex because you know you're worth more to her than just your penis.

[Asker]

But she gets the bad deal, how can I be fair and still find someone like that?

[Opinion Owner]

She isn't getting a bad deal at all because she has a very sweet man who values and cherishes her, that's the best deal you can get. Penis size isn't very important at all when compared to the big picture of a relationship (that isn't just sex based) it's actually a very trivial detail.

[Despondency]

First I have no idea how your IQ will help you catch me lying. Second, if your IQ is that high you already know the answer. Third, SPH is weird bro.

[Anonymous]

SPH fetish ridiculous, your fine, find a woman that loves you the way you are there are lots out there.