How to accept a foot/crush fetish?

[Cherrylipsxo]

Hi everyone i'm new here, but i need help to feel better about my boyfriend's fetish. We have been together for a year and i love him very much and i accept him the way he is, he has a foot/crush fetish and understand and support him. I don't have any problem with his fetish, but i need help because i'm very insecure and i've always been a little jealous of his sister because she's absolutely beautiful, im not ugly, im 5 feet and weight 110, im small, but curvy, but due to past relationships i have really low self steem. i just recently found out that her feet turn him on too(he had lied to me) i always had a funny feeling about it because one time when i wasn't home she came over with his parents and she was trying on my heels and he let her when he gets really mad at me if i let anyone borrow them and then another time when me and her found out we had the same shoe size 5.5, i talked to him and he told me the truth, but he said that he doesn't have sexual feelings for his sister at all and that he feels like a freak and makes him hate himself...my problem is that i know he doesn't have any sexual feeling for her, but why can't that make me feel better? Im only 22 so maybe im a little immature, but i need help getting over this because its killing me inside and im sick of feeling like this and i dont want to bring it up to him anymore because i know how he feels and sometimes i feel like im a bad person for still feeling like this even tho he feels bad about it! I just want to be happy with him and for that not to bother me anymore

[Anonymous]

Here are my thoughts, and I've had a fetish for girls' feet for years. Your BF probably isn't interested in his sister sexually. But if he has a foot fetish, he might think her feet look beautiful and sexy. He might have a strong admiration for her feet, by themselves or in heels or flats or flip flops, etc. Seeing them is probably arousing for him, but that doesn't mean he wants to be sexual with her. He might even want to smell her feet, like after she's been wearing shoes or flip flops that look cute on her feet, knowing that her feet probably smell arousing. He might want to smell inside her shoes, and find the smell arousing too. It's probably not her as person that he's desiring, but he's fixating on how sexy her feet look and maybe smell.

You say that you're OK with his fetish. How's your relationship with him with his fetish? Does he like YOUR feet? Does he like to feel them and massage them? Does he like to slip off your shoes and smell your foot scent inside them? Does he like to smell your feet? Does he find it very pleasurable? Does he suck your toes? These are all things that foot fetish guys like to do with a GF. If he's not into your feet but is much more attracted to other girls' feet, there's a big problem. If he finds your feet incredible and able to meet his needs, then he'll probably keep his main focus on you as his GF. But if he feels any rejection from you about his fetish, his interest in other girls' feet will increase. The important thing is to do the things he likes, such as wear certain shoes, wear toe rings, let him smell your feet if that's what he likes, etc. so that he feels that you're wanting to attract him totally to YOUR feet.

I'll bet you have very beautiful and shapely feet and toes.

[Loliitaxo]

Hey this is my new account... I actually did end up talking to him about it and thanks to all the answers i got from here i was able to understand the whole fetish thing more! It was just frustrating because i honestly don't have much experience in sex, he was my first and i honestly didn't know about fetishes until now and he didn't know much about it either i actually had to explain it to him from reading articles online because he never looked into it. He's answer to it was because I'm a weirdo... now i feel much better I'm not worried about none of that anymore because like you said its feet, not the person! Haha i actually love his fetish 😋 i never had a problem with it besides this misunderstanding... I'm actually a girly girl so high heels, sandals, ankle bracelets, toe rings have always been my thing and i always keep my feet smooth and nails always done 😊 (makes sense why he was attracted to me lol) and yes he does all those things with me. My f

[Loliitaxo]

My feet were actually the first ones he licked and kissed, he says that he never thought about what it would be like to do that to a woman that he only liked looking at them, but that with me it was different, he wanted to, he felt comfortable. As for the crush fetish we also use it, i crush things such as toys, food, cigarettes, boxes or anything like that for him and honestly it turns me on too. Thank you! And i have always gotten compliments about my feet before i used to think it was weird for people to compliment feet since i always thought people found feet gross, but now it all makes sense lol😂

[Anpu23]

Good news about dating a guy who's into feet, they buy you shoes!
Ok seriously, it's the look of a girls feet in the shoes, it's not about the woman who they are attached to. I understand why he feels so creepy, that is his sister, but he isn't into her. Kind of like seeing a pretty girl, you see but you don't act.

[Loliitaxo]

Hey this is my new account... thank you for your answer!!
I actually did end up talking to him about it and thanks to all the answers i got from here i was able to understand the whole fetish thing more! It was just frustrating because i honestly don't have much experience in sex, he was my first and i honestly didn't know about fetishes until now and he didn't know much about it either i actually had to explain it to him from reading articles online because he never looked into it. He's answer to it was because I'm a weirdo... now i feel much better I'm not worried about none of that anymore because like you said its feet, not the person!
Haha i actually love his fetish 😋 i never had a problem with it besides this misunderstanding... I'm actually a girly girl so high heels, sandals, ankle bracelets, toe rings have always been my thing and i always keep my feet smooth and nails always done 😊 (makes sense why he was attracted to me lol) and yes he does all those things with me. My feet were actually the first ones he licked and kissed, he says that he never thought about what it would be like to do that to a woman that he only liked looking at them, but that with me it was different, he wanted to, he felt comfortable. As for the crush fetish we also use it, i crush things such as toys, food, cigarettes, boxes or anything like that for him and honestly it turns me on too.
Thank you! And i have always gotten compliments about my feet before i used to think it was weird for people to compliment feet since i always thought people found feet gross, but now it all makes sense lol😂

[MrScTi]

You're worried about him being aroused by his sister's feet?

It doesn't work like that. That's gross.

You're fine don't worry about it. He's with you and he most likely loves you.

[Klaatu51]

since he doesn't see her in a sexual way don't worry basically..:-)