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Are small breasts a turn off?

My boyfriend has (in the recent past, but before we got together) participated in an orgy and had sex with a girl that was endowed with DD breasts. Afterwards, he asked her out, and they dated for a time, but went their separate ways becasue she moved out of state. I am a print and runway model, so i know i have attractive qualities, but have small, barely A cup breasts, and wonder if going from her to me was somehow a downgrade? He doesn't ever say that to me, but I can't help but feel it. I also accept that maybe these are just my own personal insecurities. I keep all of this to myself because i know that showing that you are insecure is a turn off all on it's own, but I don't know how to make it stop. When we have sex, I even have the urge to cover my chest because i am afraid if he looks at how small they are he'll be turned off. there have even been times when he lost his erection, and i'm afraid it's because of me somehow. He once told me that it was a fantasy of his to titfuck at least once in his life, but he knows i have small breasts and I can't help feeling that I am not able to give him something he wants, and that I am always going to be inadequet. someone please help me sort out how I feel.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Covering yourself is a sign to a man that you have lost interest in him. There is no need to hide from a man you desire and trust. This is how your insecurities are corrosive in the relationship.

    Don't set yourself up as less worthy than a prior girlfriend. With enough effort on your part, he will eventually come around to agreeing with you. You have attractive qualities or you would not be his girlfriend. Why would you argue against the choice he has made?

    A preference for large breasts is common in our culture. But I do believe it is very much overstated. The reason for that is that size is easily discussed and compared and measured. Yet size is only one thing that men like about breasts.

    Your boyfriend has been vocal about what he liked about a prior girlfriend. Perhaps you should ask him what he likes about you. Be serious in making your request and then believe him whatever he says.

  • I'm a "breast man" and I love small boobs. And you're a model! You realize that big boobs are NOT the end-all, be-all, right? And I'm a a breast man!

    If big boobs were that important to him (and there are men for whom it is), then he wouldn't be with you in the first place. Instead, he obviously likes the whole package.

    Finally, we don't always end up with our physical ideal, because we end up meeting someone and personalities just click. I've dated girls who were far from my own "ideal" and they were great girls and I didn't care that they weren't my "type", because they were awesome as they were.

    So, please, don't be so hard on yourself. You are just fine as you are, and I'm sure he's thrilled to be with you.

    • (x2) Everything this guy said... as a boob guy, small boobs are awesome, I dont discriminate... I'd rather go with small than huge... and a model? Yes please... dont second guess yourself, and definitely dont get fakes...

Most Helpful Girls

  • I have a cups and I get hit on ALL the time. I will say that the few men I've ever been with that considered my size a problem were usually the more immature, lower socioeconomic status (there are studies that confirm this trend), ghetto/trashy types who bought into media archetypes. But my last boyfriend and current boyfriend have adored my girls! No matter how "perfect" you are, there will always be someone who doesn't see it, or wants something else. Don't worry about those 💁 Sexiness is mostly how you move/ carry yourself / your trademark / your essence. And don't even get me started on the health benefits and other "perks" (pun intended) of having small boobs lol. You are so lucky! Believe it and embrace it!!!

  • Ok, so you can't fulfil that one fantasy... But I'm sure he has tonnes of others. There will be things about him, that you might not necessarily find preferable, either. But I'm sure that doesn't matter to you.

    The thing is, you have focused all of your attention on this one aspect of you, because it's something you're insecure about. You are obviously rather beautiful, I don't think you need to worry about this so much.
    There's more that women have to offer, than some tits. If tits mattered to him more than the woman, he would still be with his ex... But he's not, he's with you. 'Cause he thinks you're wonderful! ^_^

    • Thank for MHO :)

  • You are not unattractive because you have small breast. You may be mildly unattractive to him though... If he lost his um.. stamina... while having sex with you, Maybe he is a breast man and you are simply not the lady for him. That is no one's fault.

    • I suggest finding an ass man?

    • The thing is, he has told me himself that his preference is C cups, and that larger than that is out of his preference zone. But still... DD and C are both equivalent in my eyes, since i am neither and probably never will be lol at the same time, he 'says' he's more of an ass man, but i feel like he's lying just because he knows i have small breasts.

    • Aww, Bless his heart. He doesn't want to hurt your feelings so he lies... lol.. Do him a solid and break it off with him.

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  • You need a guy without a breast fixation. No doubt you're insecure because he's always talking about that.

    He has issues that require professional help. Go find someone mentally healthier.

  • #generalisation5

    no they aren't. men love boobs of all sizes! :) love yourself <3

  • It really depends on him.

    I find A cups very hot. And I'd enjoy rubbing against them if she was into it.

    • To be clear (based on a comment below), its not that I'd 'look past' small breasts. From what i've seen, a good third of men -prefer- small breasts.

  • Not at all. At least, not to me anyway. Some people have strict preferences about what they like, but no sense in worrying about them since you can't control it anyway.

  • Absolutely not, I love breasts of all sizes.

  • Anything from nipples on a flat plain to C's are most appealing but I could get used to bigger ones, up to a point.

    Even these are fine
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    but these would get in the way
    www.nigeriaentertainment.io/.../...h-big-boobs.jpg

  • At least once in his life? He should have realized his fantasy by tittyfucking that DD girl. Why didn't he? Sounds like he fantasized about dating her and that orgy.

  • A cup is not at all worrying
    If guy likes u
    N don't just under estimate yourself
    Just do work yo improve ur breasts size like massage n some food eating n also ask him to play with it more time n also suck on it u can also do gud massage by yourself n that will help u but first be positive
    N if that won't work visit a doctor for breasts enlarge ment...

  • To some it could be, but thoee who find small boobs to be a turn off shouldn't matter to you anyways.
    Just find someone who likes you as you are.

    Small boobs are fine in my opinion.

  • Yes they are kind of

  • Breasts are breasts, regardless of size.

  • I said a thousand times: "Every breast size has its own beauty".

  • Get rid of him cause it will be an issue later on

  • I love small tits! Even more when she has big hard nipples showing ;)

  • YES, SIZE MATTERS

  • Depends on the man, I've never cared for breast size.

  • I love small boobies more than the big/huge boobs.
    You are fine just the way you are don't worry about it. They're lots of us out there that like, love small/tiny boobs. Just be happy with what you have.

  • no but small brains are

  • If he's serious about wanting to titfuck at least once in his life, then you should let him titfuck a woman or two with big breasts until he gets it out of his system.

  • You'll be fine.
    You're a print and runway model.
    You're prettier than she was!

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