Dude, I lost my virginity like 6 months ago at age 27. I had never even made out and only kissed 2 girls, very awkwardly I might add. I considered going to a escort and even tried to go meet one but just couldn't bring myself to go into the bar where she was supposed to meet me. I actually ended up going to see a sex therapist and got prescribed some anti-anxiety medication, which I personally think was the biggest help out of anything. For me, I had about zero spiritual significance added to the concept of virginity and still don't care even after I lost it. Seriously, a lot of people have all these ideas about how it should go down like whether your in love or not, but for me personally like it just doesn't matter at all. Like it is as important as what color my socks are or something.
When I lost my virginity, the first minute or so was shocking because I was doing something for the first time, but after like 5 minutes I was so bored I remember looking out the window and thinking I would seriously rather be outside in the parking lot doing jumping jacks. If it wasn't for my sense of manners I seriously would have just walked out in two seconds.
I had also thought that you should tell the person you were with that you were a virgin. I can't even explain why I thought this but I did. The sex therapist suggested I not just because it would raise questions. Anyways I didn't which I don't regret. Anyways the first girl I lost my virginity to I only slept with once just because she had to go back to the country she was from but I found a second girl that I started a kind of casual relationship with. I ended up telling her that I had lost my virginity a couple months ago and she was kind of shocked and she still brings it up after like after the ten meetings we've had. I kind of feel like it is annoying all this weight people add to the concept of virginity and I seriously don't think it matters at all. Feel free to ask any questions. don't know if this was helpful.
I think it would be good. A lot of women take pride in taking a guy's virginity. Why allow someone to take pride in taking from you something that you could not take from her. If you breakup, she can go on knowing that you will always remember her for taking your virginity but she will not give you that much significance
"If you breakup, she can go on knowing that you will always remember her for taking your virginity but she will not give you that much significance" DING DING DING we have a winner, this guy gets it.
Don't give a non virgin girlfriend your virginity. She doesn't deserve it.
It will hurt you for the rest of your life
What a dumb idea. You go from one extreme of the spectrum to the other? You can't find a virgin so you'll do a skanky whore who's done them all? How does this possibly make sense? Plus you're out of pocket $200 at least all to have a meaningless experience with a girl who couldn't give a shit about you.
Just meet a nice girl and go from there. If she's a virgin, great, if not, you'll remember your first experience with a girl who liked you, and it was free.
It's not the same if she's not a virgin. It's like me gifting her a brand new car and her gifting me her used 2001 toyota
I see you selected your MHO all to just hear what you wanted to hear. Good luck with your dirty hooker. Your next girlfriend will just love knowing that was in your past cards as she drags you to get HIV tests done.
I would just tell her it was some girl I dated for a short while. The same story she'd probably give me. done.
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Im not going to say its a dumb idea because if you want to do that then its your choice however personally i dont think you should, you haven't lost your virginity yet so what? Who cares? Why not wait until you're in a committed relationship with someone you love and let that person take your virginity because they want to not because they've been paid too.
I'd be giving her something she wouldn't be giving back in return if she's not a virgin
Okay so what's the difference with a prostitute? Why is virginity such a big deal to you? There are so many women in their twenties who are still virgins.
If I give it to a girl whos a non virgin then she'll have that over me. If we break up she'll always have that part of me but I'll have taken nothing from her
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I can't tell if you're joking or not but the answer is NO DON'T DO THAT. You will find someone whom you genuinely like and can lose it to. Unless you really don care about the emotional aspect of it I would say just wait. But if you really don't care, then I guess go for it but be careful.
The point is she won't be a virgin so there's no point in staying one
Okay so you're saying you're totally fine with giving your virginity up to a prostitute, but not a woman that you may genuinely like who is not a virgin?
Those two are the same level of "special" to me
Get it over with. If you're willing to take that dent in your wallet, do it. This is something nobody wants to resort to, but if it helps you move on, it's worth it.
You just have to promise yourself that it will fix the problem.
Nah, i don't think the criteria should be to either lose it to another virgin or else a prostitute.
It can be any one who would be meaningful and special to you in the future.
Loose it somebody who may acknowledge maybe.
Then a prostitute who wouldn't care anyway.
If you think its special, you may offer it to your future love interest. And make it meaningful.
That doesn't make sense. Why would a girl be meaningful or special to me if she threw it away to some other guy?
Asker, if you throw away your virginity to a prostitue aren't you doing exactly what you despise?
Because most likely she didn't 'threw it away' but had intercourse with some one she was in love with at the time. She would be meaningful to you if you guys happen to fall in love with each other. In your case probably ur future wife. As u seem convinced you won't fall in love.
You almost make me vomit. Oh no! A girl who had a relationship before her 24th with a guy she was in love with and he with her and they had sex, but it ended because of a good reason. That's indeed really a disgusting whore!! Her vagina shouldn't be ever used again and she should just consider working as an escort.
C'mon man. Your virginity really isn't that much of a great gift to her. It just means you have no experience and you'll probably suck at sex.
Never said she would be any of those things, just that I wouldn't want to give her something she won't give back in return
Exactly. That's where I pointed out in another comment that he's just insulted pretty much all of us women who have had sexual relationships already. I like to think that my time with exes meant a bit more. We had some laughs, made some memories, and that's what I bring to the table for my next relationship. Instead he's got every non-virgin lumped together as meaningless whores so he may as well give it away to a woman who he presumes is going to use his virginity against him. Instead, if I was the next woman to date a man after he slept with hookers, I actually wouldn't want him at all. I'd much rather date a guy who had a few girlfriends than one hooker.
It just means you have no experience and you'll probably suck at sex. This is wrong, no caring and considerate man actually sucks in bed. We are only as good as the woman we are with. I always say that it takes two to tango, and if you do not tell the guy what he should do to 'push your buttons' then it is YOU who actually sucks at sex.
"I don't think I'll ever lost it to another virgin, so I might as well?"
So from my understanding, losing it to another virgin would make your first time more special/magical?
Why don't you just fall for a girl and lose it to her, virgin or not? Wouldn't it still be special as long as you both care for each other? I don't see how just losing it to a prostitute would make it as "special/magical" as a losing it to another virgin.
If she isn't a virgin it feels like I'm giving her something and she's just taking and giving nothing back, it wouldn't be anywhere near as special, it wouldn't be special at all. Losing it to a girl who's not a virgin is the same as losing it to a escort to me
If that's your thought process, then do womankind a favor and lose it to a prostitute.
If a girl didn't save herself for me then she doesn't deserve me saving it for her. Why is that bad?
Hell no, if you can't find a women, start making friendships with women you find attractive. Losing your virginity to someone who has had sex with multiple men isn't love. Look for the right woman, you're still young...
Do what you want. But you'll likely regret it. You may not find a virgin. But you're willing to have sex with a hooker to support her drug habit. Maybe just wait until you have a girlfriend. Virgin or not.
I wouldn't date a non virgin if I was a virgin
Why wouldn't you?
Because they have tons of baggage, and all the novelty and specialness of everything has already been taken... there's nothing for me to be their "first" for. I'm not special to them whatso ever no matter how much they may say otherwise. would you want a brand new car or a used car?
Brother, after reading your threads, I suggest you go with the ladies advice and get a prozzie because the way you think will not get you anything (yet alone a pretty virgin) here are your options 1) get a pretty virgin (which you say you can't get) 2) get a prostitute. So a or b? I tell you though, the way you think... you will only get prostitutes for the rest of your life. You either change your thinking, be celibate or go for prozzies forever. That's the 3 roads that YOU choose.
You haven't been saving anything special for the first girl you have sex with. You've been trying to give it away, and no girl ever thought it worth accepting. Get that through your head. You are only offering inexperience.
I think your attitude is all wrong, and I don't even think banging a whore will help you.
If your happy with that choice then go for it. Make sure that the chick is 100% clean though if you can. Also think about it really hard to make sure your 100% sure that is what you want because you don't want to regret it.
I guess it's your choice but you're still pretty young. Why is it important that the other person be a virgin too?
Because if she's not I feel like I'm giving something to her that she just threw away and isn't giving back
Not necessarily, what if she was in love with her prior boyfriend? If you hold virginity so valuable why would you want to go to a prostitue? It seems like doing that would be condemning yourself to the same judgment if you do meet a nice girl later on.
There are no nice good looking girls that are virgins after 23. Very very very rare so no, after losing it to a prostitute I'd be on equal footing. Losing it to a prostitute and losing it to a non-virgin are one and the same.
Ah
another obsession peep.
Yeah go for it.
Not a good idea. Why do not you wait till you are attracted to someone?
I saw your update. She is virgin. That is great, you are even because. Build a real relationship first.
Why are you rushing into losing your virginity? That does not make sense to me.
If that's what you want, go ahead. I may get burned for this, but virginity shouldn't be given as much importance as it's given.
I lost my virginity to a random girl in a club's bathroom when I was 16. I didn't care, I don't care now. It didn't change me.
So if you wanna lose it to a prostitute, go ahead, I ain't gonna stop you.
yeah pretty much bro, a 24 year old virgin girl that you actually like will be super hard to find...
You dont have to lose it to a hoe, just a nice girl! who had a few sexual encounters... no big deal there
DO IT DO IT DO IT!!!
oh and remember to bring a camera because otherwise it's illegal
Why the fuck are you waiting for a virgin ffs! Are you planning on bringing Jesus back into the world? Get a fire breathing whore pronto. You've missed your best shagging years. Get a ticket to Amsterdam and go window shopping. Red light district though. There's a blue light district you'll want to avoid unless you're into weird shit. Man oh man what the fuck did your parents fill your head with growing up
You've seriously never done a woman?
whats the difference between losing it to a prostitute compared to losing it to a girl who isn't a virgin, but you actually are interested/like them?
i really think you should not lose it to a prostitute tho, lose it to someone you genuinely like and that you know you wouldn't regret, it may take time but its waaay better :)
There is no difference. Losing it to a prostitute and losing it to a non virgin are on the same level.
so you'd rather lose it to someone that you dont have any feelings towards? then to lose it to someone that you do have feelings for?
Yes, because I dont want to give her something I would never get back in return
I guess you should give it a try.
There's a possibility it will grant you some level of self confidence that may result in being able to actually get a girlfriend.
if it will shut you up, then by all means go ahead.
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