Guys, do shy men like to send dirty texts but not act on them?

I've had a crush on him for quite a while now. He knows and he said that he likes me too yet he has rejected my suggestions of going out for coffee, dinner, or drinks. He started avoiding me and I thought he didn't like me anymore because we went from talking every day to a casual "hi" or "good morning" and sometimes a smile. Co-workers have said that they always see him looking at and watching me whenever I'm not looking. I was talking to a co-worker about how I was going to have to come in to work late because of classes. I said that I didn't think anybody would notice anyways if I wasn't there on time or if I even showed up to work at all, for that matter(since I'm shy and quiet). My crush appeared out of nowhere. He looked right at me and said,"I would notice". Then walked away really fast. He texted me later that night and things ended up taking a sexual turn. Naughty pictures were exchanged. I wasn't expecting that to happen because he's also shy but I guess we were both in the same mood. When I came into work he was walking by and saw that I was there. We smiled at each other but then he started talking with a male co-worker and they walked away. The rest of the day it seemed like he was avoiding me because a couple times when I saw him and started walking towards him he turned around and went the other way. But yet he and I were exchanging naughty text messages all throughout the work day and at home. We were talking about blowing off work to go hook up in the woods and getting into detail on what we would like to do to each other. Why would he act distant in person but blow up my phone with naughty texts? Do some guys like to send sexy texts but not act on them?
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Well, it looks like I need to move on. As it turns out he has a girlfriend and she works with us. They were dating even when he was sending me all of those dirty texts. Smh :-(
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  • Even I am super confident online and on phone, but yes its a lot harder to follow through in real life with shy people... I mess around too but when it comes to the part I say..."hey sorry I was messing around last night, I hope you don't get the wrong impression"... but I actually would like to do all that with her... so yeah being shy is a fucking curse.

  • I love sending dirty texts and then being a total prude when I roll up on da place.

    I be like "I'mma eat your motherfuckin' pussy and ass and all that shit it's going to be hot!" then show up and really want to watch Aladdin. It's a good movie.

    • Lol! Thank you for that. I seriously did laugh out loud while reading your answer.

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  • It's much easier to text than to express their feelings physically.

  • Lovely... so the reason he was shy, was because he did not want it to appear as though he was coming on to you outwardly.

    Nice Guy!

  • he likes you but he is just really shy, i think. i was like that when i had my first high school girlfriend. i would message her on facebook and that but when it came to seeing her in school, i would do my best to avoid her and not speak to her. purely because i was EXTREMELY nervous. she ended up breaking up with me because i didn't talk to her at all.

  • Well, like with anything, it's much easier to hide behind a keyboard or phone. Men and Women alike are probably more apt to say things via a text that they might not say (or do) in person. I would be happy to know he's at least thinking these thoughts even though he might not be ready to act upon them.

  • I did not read your entire novel but I will say that if a shy guy made any type of acknowledgment for you then you should go get him now! I think that he was trying to find a reason to get together with you but couldn't follow through

  • He's just nervous