Guys, bf doesn't cuddle much after sex, why? does he not love me?

Question

My bf doesn't enjoy cuddling after sex much. He'll hold me for a few minutes. very little time. If i get up to get a drink or use the washroom he's already doing something else by the time i get back. I told him that it bothers me. And he said he doesn't like cuddling, but tries his best for me. He said he will work on it. 

But if he loved me shouldn't he want to cuddle for a while not just a few minutes? Its awkward that he has to try and cuddle with me.

Ped1981 · Accepted Answer

Men hate cuddling. It's nothing against you personally. Guys are always behind getting fuck all back but an arm that's not comfortable anywhere apart from under the girls body. Then it goes grey with lack of blood and gets pins and needles in it. Women get hugged. Guys just lie there like pricks breathing in the girls hair and wondering what's on TV

scott63a · Accepted Answer

Maybe the question should be, if you love him, shouldn't a minute be enough cuddling. He obviously isn't into it. Your persistence is just making him uncomfortable.

Do you see what I mean? You want more, he's happy with what he is getting. Maybe you're not the right girl for him.

truthbeknown · Answer

Actually I like to cuddle after sex and my wife always gets up and walks away LOL. Not everyone is into that I guess. I don't think it has anything to do with not loving you, some people are just not into cuddling.

electrollama · Answer

It's because men and women have different hormonal responses during and after sex. Men experience dopamine during orgasm, which is a hormone that indicates pleasure and reward. Its effect is short-lived, and a decrease in it can cause restlessness (low dopamine has even been linked to ADHD). Women experience oxytocin, also known as the "cuddle hormone". It's longer lived and causes a women to have feelings of love and as it's nickname suggests, cuddle.

7heDubz · Answer

He just doesn't like cuddling... I don't know what to tell you, Just a thing that happens. Some guys enjoy it some don't, perhaps he just get's bored easily? ADD?

Chris1312 · Answer

Well I would say even if he doesn't want to cuddle that doesn't have to mean much. I am not really into cuddling either but thats mostly because I am an awkward person and while cuddling I have no idea where to put my arm and if it is on top of her I worry that it might be too heavy for her and when its not on top of her I feel worried she might not be satisfied with the cuddling.

Klaatu51 · Answer

hmmm,... i guess he's attracted only sexually nbasically.. that's y he avoids cuddling

Antizzl · Answer

No no no. Where do women and girls get these delusional ideas from? Can't someone just not be into cuddling because well he just doesn't like it. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. If it's awkward if he tries to cuddle just take your orgasm and be happy. He's a man after all.

WestcoastBratt · Answer

Wow, that's sucks! Normally whenever I'm done doing the deed with a girl, a cuddle session is always what comes next

oldanddecrepid · Answer

Some guys are just not into it. To me the longer the better. I have spent a whole day just lying naked with gf, talking and holding each other. One of the best days ever!

I_am_repulsive · Answer

Cuddling has nothing to do with love. I don't cuddle right after sex, but that doesn't mean I don't have strong feelings for her. Some men cuddles and some men don't simple as that. You can simply tell him straight up and be direct about it that when he doesn't cuddle with you after sex, you feel this certain way. Like he said, he'll work on it. Just give him time.