What motivates a man to rape a woman? I'm your opinion is it dominance, lust, or hate? Please read description?

[Nicole9356]

PLEASE READ: I acknowledge that men can be raped as well as the fact that some women are rapists as well. However I would like to know why you feel the reasoning behind men specifically raping women. Is it high he gets from dominating a woman and watching her struggle as he "screws her brains out"? Is it motivated by hate or perhaps revenge for perhaps being mistreated by a female figure in his past and now he is getting back at all women? Is it purely just sexual, wanting her because she appeals to his body but not being able to have her and not having the restraint to say no his desires? Is it motivated by lust, power, or hate? Years back a family member of mine was raped by her OBGYN, in that instance it would appear as if it was lust, or ather the temptation of the situation that motivated him. A few years back while riding the bus, I was 18, a man I'm his 30's asked if I had a boyfriend, I said no, to which he replied asking if he could "do me". I was a virgin at the time, and I think he picked up on my awkwardness because he would not leave me alone. He kept touching my leg, and asking if I wanted to go out with him and asked where I lived and where I went to school. I was clearly uncomfortable and it wasn't until a guy stood up for me that the man finally left me alone. However he got off at my stop and started following me but turned back, thank god. I know some men feel more "inclined" when a women is "inappropiatly dressed", however I was wearing just a plane t-shirt and a pair if shorts. I feel that this man got off on seeing how uncomfortable and awkward I was. The real kicker: my husband and I were looking at old photos of me when I was 14. He is 12 years older than me. However in one photo he pointed at me and said " I would love to have raped her". I was surprised but I didn't think too much about it. But later on I got to thinking, what would motivate him to say that and what kris area a person to actually do it?

[kheserthorpe]

It's a popular view in feminist academic circles that it has nothing to do with sex and is entirely about power (and hence is the natural outcome of the patriarchy or even a tool of it to keep women in their place).

From what I can tell this idea isn't terribly well supported.

Certainly that's -sometimes- the case

But it's not coincidence that while women of all ages (and men) are raped by far young women in their peak sexual prime are the targets.

It's not a coincidence that castration can stop repeat offenders. If t was simply about power they would still find ways to assault women.

And by far the most common 'rape' technique is to get a woman black out drunk and take advantage. She may not be sure what happened. This doesn't seem like it's meant to put her in her place.

There is no one reason why rapists (maybe 5% of men) do it.

I'd suggest the primary reason is lust combined with a total lack of empathy.

For some others it's lust mixed with hate and a desire to feel powerful.

I don't think lack of self control is accurate. They seem to have enough to wait for an opportunity.

[Nicole9356]

Very thorough and informative.

[Cardinal7477]

I'm not voting simply because the reasons can differ so wildly. That, and there are certainly more reasons than four.

Whilst some want the feeling of power, others may not be able to be turned on without the struggle and fear emanating from the victim. They maybe on drugs and not fully realise what they are doing. Some men can't stop once they have started, so what me have started out as consensual sex ends up being rape.

Some men just can't get sex at all, so I think it can be the result of an extreme sexualising tension build up.

Where I'm from, Australia, brothel and escorted services are completely legal. I actually think sex workers help reduce the number of rapes. For example, disabled people can get sex through an actual service. Whereas they may not be able to otherwise.

Very touchy subject though. Be careful discussing rape and discussing the motives behind it in the form of a voting poll...

[broadsword]

In no way am i making excuses or condoning what some men do before i try to explain my opinion.
Sex drive is a very difficult thing to explain and a man with a very big sex drive has demineshed control. Most are able to control it and know its wrong or masterbate or if lucky have a willing partner. When you have this combination of massive sex drive and huge lust some guys loose tbe control. Its a massive sexual lust thing very base and animalistic.
In the more rare instance of a guy having negative issues around women so try to dominate or punish. Then this usually is about him having been abused by a woman or being brought up in a bad way.

[TedStar]

B. I have been in many conversations about rape and a recurring theme is power/dominance although it would be unwise to disregard the other reason.

[Splithead]

This pole is soooo wrong, every paper on rape says its not about lust. Now DATE RAPE is different.

[James_N]

I don't understand how we're supposed to answer a question about an act that a very small percentage of men ever think about or actually do commit. I have no idea why someone would rape a person. I've never had the urge to rape someone for whatever reason or even thought about it for that matter. Contrary to popular neo-feminist beliefs, men as a whole don't have some underlying rape craving, and the thought the thought of raping a woman doesn't cross the minds of probably more than 95% of men.

[Meedo]

There is no one thing that motivates rape. However, it is a mixture of opportunity, lust, dominance.

They are all part of a sexual formula. But also contain a non sexual element.

[Octavion]

I think it's the power. I can't say for sure I'm not a rapist. If they really wanted just sex they could find a prostitute.

[Nicole9356]

Good point, I haven't really thought about that before.

[dricky2011]

the only people who can give you a proper answer to this are those who are rapists,

[hypno-trip]

yeah seriously, treating all us guys like rapists that's offensive...

[LionelMerelGlisem]

I thing of this it's just a lack of respect, but they do this only because you don't want them to do.
But, be careful, that's not the case of all rapists, some do this only for sex, so don't pretend you OK with the rape to try to turn them off.

[1Genesis29]

Some people are wired fucked up and when you sense bad vibes stay away from them. each persons situation is unique.

[aaothead]

Rape isn't so much about sex. Or so I've read. It's a hurtful act. I have no respect and would gladly shoot an attempted rapist dead, I didn't really see the answer in your poll. They more than likely have a power trip going on to. Lack of feelings for another human being. Sick mind.