What to do with my guy friend who makes dirty jokes about me?

[Anonymous]

I have this guy friend who likes to make dirty jokes about me. He'd use to ask me to give him a handjob coz he's tired from working out, or if he could "practice" unhooking my bra clasps. Then he'd tease me about being lesbian (when I'm not), or getting aroused at bromance ( I find bromance cute, but c'mon!). Lately, the sex jokes has stopped (maybe coz we've gotten closer?), but he still teases me and calls me a guy at times, or says that he forgets I'm a girl. I'm wondering if he's doing this to show that he's not interested in me at all, because honestly (and unfortunately), I'm attracted to him. I'm worried that he somehow knows about it ( i try to be very discreet to the point of dissing him at times, but I'm not sure if I'm good at hiding it!) and that it's his way of turning me down, because he's not like that with the rest of our girl friends (he's actually known to be quite a gentleman). So, what do you guys think?

[doctorloveadvice]

Boys. they tease girls to see there fiery side. it's the key element to a boys heart. plus you should give him what he wants by starting an argument about the mean things he says to you

[Asker]

actually, we're known to have these petty arguments all the time among our friends, which is embarrassing coz we're no longer kids! So, I'm trying to avoid arguing with him now... but because of that, we barely talk whenever we're alone so it has become even more awkard. :(

[doctorloveadvice]

Yes but you really need to step it up!!! Make a wide out argument. Probably in private

[Anonymous]

38.media.tumblr.com/.../...ayaQbr1rfduvxo1_500.gif you need to tell him to stop bothering you with mean jokes you guys are friends but I feel like the friend zoned you forever

[Asker]

in fairness to him, his jokes has mellowed down since we got a bit closer, but he still teases me about not being girl enough (whatever that means). I used to respond though with a nasty joke of my own (although not as explicit as his jokes) and I'm wondering if that has somehow given him the wrong impression instead.

[CommieDearest]

I think you should grow a pair and tell him how you feel

[Asker]

oh, i wish it were that easy, but I really don't want things to become awkward between us. :(

[CommieDearest]

well awkward shit happens. And it's going to come out eventually

[AngryHorny]

He's obviously into you, but he won't approach you seriously because he's afraid of rejection. I think you should tell him to as we say in England "either put up, or shut up."

[Asker]

do you really think so? I used to consider that too, but i was worried that I was only misinterpreting his actions just coz i was interested in him. There is also one factor that made me cross out the idea of him liking me too, and that is he avoids any physical contact with me--even if it's just a handshake ( and even if I'm the one initiating it). He would rather hold on to by bag or my jacket if he needed to keep me close. There was even an incident where he grabbed me by the collar of my shirt because I didn't notice a bike speeding from behind me. Also, he visited me at my theatre group to check out the girls in my club, and he'd check out girls with our other guy friend even when I'm right there with them.

[Asker]

i used to think that way too, but now I'm not so sure (because of the things I mentioned in another reply.)

[AngryHorny]

Is he gay?

[Asker]

uhmm... no. well, at least I don't think he is. He's shared with me his dating history, so unless his preference changed, I think he's into girls.

[DodgersGM]

Why not just cut through the B. S. and tell him that you like him? :)

[tattooedhandfet]

Right on👊

[Asker]

I guess that would be best but thing is, even if I do like him, I'm not really sure if I'd like to be in a relationship with him. we're always arguing about the silliest of things and I'm not sure if I can handle that in a long term basis so that's one reason I don't confess. the other reason is that I'm scared shit that he'll just reject me.

[Sexualchrist]

I think its more to mask that he does actually have the hots for you.

[letsfixit]

He likes you, and you know it.. or he realized that teasing you turned to a lot more better.. oh shet! He likes you.. you are just waiting for each other to snap and say it..

[Asker]

i used to think that way too, but now I'm not so sure (because of the things I mentioned in another reply.)

[Welcome_]

does he wanna have sex with you? :)

[Anonymous]

next time he asks for a handjob just say "fine. drop your pants..."
That'll really throw him for a loop.

[Asker]

hahaha... well, he stopped working out lately so he won't have any excuse for not being able to use his own hand! lol

[Anonymous]

Filler filler

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