I get caught having sex with my boyfriend by my dad and he hate me since then. What should I do please help me?

[Anonymous]

The story is that my dad went out to meet his friends and told me that he might come back after midnight. So i called my boyfriend and we started to have fun, then we started having sex in the living room on the couch. I didn't hear my dad when he came but he was like" what the hill are you doing with my daughter you son of bitch" that was really awkward and we didn't know what should we do because he was standing in front of us! I run upstairs to my room and my boyfriend runway outside after wearing his pants. The other day in the morning I wanted to sit with him but he was silent I felt that I'm invisible. So I went outside to meet my boyfriend and we were kissing on front of the door of my house and my dad came and say"I'm going to kill you" so we runaway and we were laughing but still my dad hates me so much after what happened. p. s I'm 19 and my boyfriend 22 years old. My dad used to say that my boyfriend is a good guy and he love him as his son but he changed his mind after that night. We don't talk to each others and he treat me with silently, I really don't understand what's going on please help

[Anonymous]

Things like this happen I know my mom has caught me when I was younger so yeah but she didn't freak or anything but he should have known that at your age u would be doing this type of thing its normal and I'm sure he did when he was young to I think it just bothers him because no father ever wants to see their little girl like that I know my husband wouldn't like to find pur daughter like that I think your father just needs to be more mature about it sex is a part of life but it would help if your boyfriend wouldn't have ran out and would have faced the music and talks it out with your day and let's him know he not just there for a piece of ass basicly

[Anonymous]

Looks like you are at the cross roads of a decision:
1. move out and hope someday your dad will accept this guy - probably only after marriage + the BIG risk this boyfriend will stick with you, provide & protect you and eventually marry you, to prove you selected the better man to be your champion in life hereafter
2. break up with boyfriend, honor dad like most intelligent cultures do, get MUCH more education so your authoring of such Qs improves... and your ability to see your wrong doings become clearer faster.

[Asker]

I don't want to lose my dad or my boyfriend because I love them both

[Opinion Owner]

You can't go down two roads at once = you must choose which man will be your leader now that trouble has arisen... stupidly

https://biblehub.com/luke/16-13.htm

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romeo_and_Juliet

[ButtHoleSandwich]

Your dad needs to get over it. You are an adult and I'm sure he was plowing other women and your mother before he was married. Right now it's probably an awkward situation for him. Continue to love your man and he will get over it

[SirenDep]

Apologise and try to show him you are responsible and you deserve his trust. Do your homework, do chores, go out less, don't let your boyfriend come near your house.

[Red_Arrow]

Dad's are protective, so they will react like this at times. Plus, you were doing this in HIS house. You were not even kind enough to do it somewhere else. When he caught you, you ran upstairs and left your boyfriend to face him alone, which was not nice of you toward your boyfriend. Then when he was still pissed you went outside and were kissing in front of the door, basically shoving it in your dad's face, and when he came out you and your boyfriend just ran and laughed at your dad. Of course he is still mad. You are still antagonizing him. And you really don't understand what is going on?

[Asker]

I'm a horrible daughter I know that and I tried to talk to him and apologies but he still hates me and don't want to talk to me. I didn't want it to be like this...

[Red_Arrow]

Then you should not have laughed at him.

[Asker]

Just I don't know what else to do

[Red_Arrow]

Well since you are missing the obvious, try to start by NOT LAUGHING AT HIM!

[AustinMan]

Your dad got a shock and he's reeling from it. I would give it a couple of weeks for him to come around. He loves you. He's just upset by what he saw. Just tell him how sorry you are that he saw that and that you need his forgiveness.

[Domingo]

You seriously don't understand what's going on? No father on the planet wants to see someone having sex with his teenage daughter in his house. That's not a mental image a father wants to have. He probably knew that you were sexually active but to to walk in on you doing it, of course he's gonna be upset

[DaveyBaby107]

There's nothing you can do. How about not having sex in public places where anyone can walk in? Common sense

[greycadillacs]

Time will heal the wounds eventually. In the meantime, it might be prudent not to kiss your boyfriend at your house or do anything at your house where your dad will see it, until a long while has passed and your dad has cooled down.

[TotallyAlmost]

You have to talk it out.

[Asker]

Everytime I try to talk about it he went out and leave me alone

[cuteboy11]

so what you want now?

[Asker]

I want to fix this problem with my dad because I have tried talking to him and apologies but it's not working. I want someone to give me a good advice and tell me what should I do to make my dad forgive me and back to our old amazing relationship

[Anonymous]

You sound more like you're 14 and if your dad really caught you he should have put the smack down on your boyfriend. you don't respect your dad and if you really are 19 I would kick you out of the house to go live with your boyfriend.

[Asker]

14 seriously! Besides I don't want to explain to you why i'm still living in that house because this another problem

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't ask why you were living there but the fact of the matter is you are living there and you are disrespecting your dad. Especially when you day you run away laughing

[Anonymous]

Your dad is just being overprotective. He doesn't hate you, quite the opposite. Dads get like this with their daughters. If you want it to go away your boyfriend has to man up and talk to your dad, express his intentions.