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Is it shallow to dump a man because he prematurely ejaculates?

So I have been dating this guy for a few weeks. He's hot. Nice hair nice body, and even a nice guy. I even don't mind him having quite a small penis (about 2 inches soft and 4 inches hard) I mean size isn't everything right? But he can't last for more than a couple of minutes in bed. The first time It happened I thought it was a one off. On our third date I wanted to "test the water" he was dropping me off home. I told him to pull over as I felt unwell but really we were just in a secluded spot. I reached over and unzipped his jeans. I pulled out his willy and had to hide my disappointment. It was half the size of my last guys who was a jerk but had a big dick. Hoping it would grow I give him a bj. Within about a minute I was spitting his cum out on his balls. It wasn't very sexy or ladylike but I disnt expect him to cum so quickly! I don't even think he was hard when he ejaculated! He was embarrassed and apolgised. Anyway I took it as nerves or just me being good at giving head :) and thought nothing more. Until the 5th date we got hot and heavy and started to have sex. Despite his smaller penis it felt really good and I started to feel close as I was really horny when after about 3-4 mins it was over. He apologised and said next time he would give me oral. He hadn't done it before but was turned on by the idea of it. So date 6 I made sure I was fresh and fully shaved. Sure enough he gave me oral and it was amazing... except as I was close to orgasm again he stopped. I looked down and he was shaking. He was dripping cum all over my feet but his cock was COMPLETELY soft. He had came from eating me out FFS! The sight of him ejaculating out of such a small flaccid dick looked disgusting and really turned me off. He fell asleep soon after anyway. We went on 1 more date but I made an excuse about having to go home early. I just couldn't bare one more sexually frustrated night when he cums so quick again. Am I shallow for wanting to dump him? Ladies what woul
No u are not shallow sex is important end it now
Vote A
Yes you are shallow. There's more to a relationship than sex
Vote B
You should stay with him aslong as he can make u orgasm from oral penetrative doesn't matter.
Vote C
He has a small penis and can't last long? You can do better.
Vote D
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  • I voted A. No you are not shallow. You gave it how many tries before this point? He should be trying to control himself better if he wants you to stay. You said yourself you don't mind a small penis and that's good, but if he is not going to put forth the effort to sexually satisfy you then that's his fault not yours. Sex is very important in a relationship, you gave it a shot and that makes you better than most :)

  • Sex and intimacy are an important of the successful relationship. If he is cumming too soon and leaving you unsatisfied, then you need to end it. You will only get more frustrated and it will end sooner or later. If he can't keep it going you should move on.

Most Helpful Girls

  • There are things like lubes I think that can help pro-long ejaculation these days. Maybe do some research, but no, i would definitely not dump an amazing guy just because he came that quickly. There is more to a relationship than sex, and he is willing to please you in other ways too. I'm sure you could find some kind of solution for that.

  • All I have to say it some people care for sex more than others...

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  • yup... it's a minor flaw i guess... sorry :-|

  • I vote d you could do better

  • After a few weeks, yes. After a few months, no. Has he tried masturbating before having sex with you? But if you aren't satisfied with his size, probably best to cut your losses and move on because that issue can't be fixed.

  • Tell him to masturbate a little while before you have sex. That should make him last longer. If it doesn't help I don't think it's wrong to dump a guy because he can't satisfy you. Like it or not that's an important part of a relationship

  • It's really sad but that's important so do what you must.

  • There is more to a relationship than just sex I mean it's obvious. its like how some people date people who are in wheel chairs.

  • This is pretty funny.

  • It’s not sex is very important, if my partner could not satisfy me I would leave. If you don’t want to though, talk to him about it. Ask to try new things like toys and more oral sex. Try not to be hard though I know that could be pretty embarrassing already so let it on him softly.

  • Move on. You are sexually incompatible. Stop wasting time.

  • You should give him a better chance or let him improve. How would you feel if he dumped you for not being able to satisfy him without giving you a chance to improve?

  • I clicked b but I really Just wanted to see the results. This guy cumming so quickly seems abnormal to me. He should be able to control it better.

  • lol I get pissed off though because i can take like 20 minutes to cum and I have a 8 and a half inch dick and I fell like its too big :/ I am the opposite of him lol.

    • Your probably too big for me it would hurt. 6-7 inches is perfect

    • yeah its shitty then being small

    • I would probably prefer to be tiny lol

  • So if he lasted longer, you'd be okay with his size?

    • Since you're dating him for sex, I'd just move on.

    • Yeah I don't mind a aller penis. I do prefer a medium to large one. His isn't the smallest I've seen though, on holiday I seen a guy with literally a micro penis.

  • oh bless his heart! At least he tried :)

    • Oh bless his heart. ... Hahahahaha ;j

  • Loyalty and commitment are dead, do whatever the Fuck you want.

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