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Sick and tired of fapping twice a day. How to stop when trying to stay chaste?

They say the best way to stop masturbating is to replace it with sex. How do you stop masturbating when sex is out of the question? or at least bring it down to once a week? I'm just about to graduate high school; my next year will be spent in college. I'm a Christian, but not a fundamentalist. I'm not going to trust some Catholic chastity websites to try to tell me to trust in their wisdom and shame myself for turning sex, God's gift for two, into a one-man pass-time. I already feel enough shame for doing that- and lack enough shame to keep fapping anyways. I don't need that crap. Praying is hard enough anyways and I doubt God's just gonna take the problem away. I have a bad case of depression. I take some really high dosages of powerful meds to keep from killing myself, and I know that excessive masturbation is not helping my energy levels, physique, mood, nor self-esteem (especially since I don't last that long, anyways.) The depression meds aren't doing enough to kill my sex drive. I still fap multiple times a day. I don't plan on going into any serious relationships right now. I know I'm too much emotional baggage, and having a schizoid personality isn't sexy. At all. I don't believe in one-night-stands. I like clean girls; whores turn me off. I'm starved for affection, and like to cuddle, and that would require a serious relationship. In other words, sex, and any sort of close contact with girls is entirely out of the question for at least the next two years, for those reasons among many others. I took a couple tips already and I'm currently planning to wean myself off any new pornography, then quitting porn altogether, hopefully to stop fapping after that. I'm also out of school, allowing me to do some more physical work in the yard and elsewhere. Anyone have any other tips to make this easier on me? My will-power is at an all-time low-- not just because of the fapping. I seriously need some help here.
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Most Helpful Girl

  • That's not actually true about sex and masturbation, in the sense you mean. The sex drive stays fairly relative no matter what is relieving it. Besides, if you don't want to fap for religious reasons, sex is the same thing, or worse. Don't confuse all these things together make yourself feel bad. Somehow, it's like you want to stop masturbsting to punish yourself for not having partnered sex along with the religious reason. But it can't be both, because they're contradictory.

    Some studies do link depression/anxiety with frequent masturbation - that the person does it to get a boost of endorphins they're missing. It's more of a symptom, like people who drink or smoke a lot to help temporarily boost poor moods.

    Replacing the endorphins through other activities can help. Exercise is the best known help. Meditation can help, too.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Why do you want to stop jerking off? It is normal, it is good for you and it feels great!

  • focus on other things bro... like playing some game... so u can avoid fapping :)

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  • Find something to do rather than playing with ur cock all day

  • I was in your shoes, I

    • So my computer screwed me over there. But I was in your shoes, I grew up in a christian fundamentalist family. It even cost me my grades in high school. And at the nazarene church we went to they shamed sexual activity of all types. All that does it make people into weirdos. If I had a dollar for each kid at my youth group that turned into a total pervert from being there i'd be rich. But I fell into the fap trap and I learned that when you climax you are supposed to bond with someone, not dorritos and the lotion bottle next to you, that will explain a lot of your behavior. You are probably not into girls because you can fap, you are depressed no is there after you climax, you want to cuddle all the time because you don't have that from climaxing. Now not fapping isn't a magic bullet but it will change your life, I notice guys respect me more, like I've been in the presence of aggressive guys and they don't wanna mess with me. I'm built well and people could smell the lack of

    • Testosterone on me when I was younger because i'd fap a lot. Also girls got a lot more flirty with me too because we as humans are animals and have pheromones and we can't smell them but they tell the brain a lot about someone. Like how much testosterone/estrogen a person has, are they capable of having healthy kids, are they dangerous etc etc. Back when I was in the fap trap I would look for any girl who wasn't horrendous looking. But once I stopped things came to my mind while looking for a partner, like is she healthy? How much time she has to make kids (not that i'm dying for kids)? But once those factors became a thing I got better at looking for partners. Fapping in some circle is considered the mental disorder no one wants to talk about. So I suggest give not fapping about a week and I guarantee you, you'll notice a difference, you'll be more productive too

  • Read the Bible again and realize that it doesn't say that you can't have sex before marriage.

  • you have to find other things to keep you busy.

  • just stop lol. I did.

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