How do I become friends-with-benefits with a girl who wants to date me but doesn't do casual sex?

[thesweetness]

I met her after we had been chatting on facebook. at the time we met, she had just ended things with her ex boyfriend but even before that we were very sexual and flirty over text. however she told me that she didn't do hookups because it would make her meaningless and she only has sex with someone who she is dating seriously. She always asks me if I like her and I say that I do but I don't want a relationship. this is partly because I don't want to be a rebound and I also have doubts about whether she is comepletely over her ex. she has told me she is but it just seems a bit sudden to me. one day, we were talking in her car trying to figure it out and she kissed me on the cheek, then we started making out. she was really into and didn't want to stop but finally we did when she had to leave for one of her classes, then she texted me later saying that would never happen again because it just complicates things as friends. the next time I saw her we were in her car again and I kept trying to kiss her and she kept saying no, it just complicates things. day after, we were texting and arguing again and I asked if she wanted to see me again and she said "no. or like ever." then we didn't text for the rest of the day, but that night we made up and she said "we can have sleepovers but nothing can happen" I said "okay". then the next day I wanted to hang out with her again and I asked if I could hang out at her place during the day and she said yes, but you'd meet my parents, and I was fine with it. but later she said "you know, I don't think you should come here, I don't introduce guys to my parents unless I'm with them because they always think it's more, I don't want to do that" and I said, "you invite me to sleepover but I can't go to your house in the daytime?" and she says, "I just don't know what to do" . what do I do?

[Bandit74]

"she told me that she didn't do hookups because it would make her meaningless and she only has sex with someone who she is dating seriously"

a lot of the time when a girl says that she is full of shit. What they often mean is "I don't do hookups ANYMORE" but she wants you to think she is the relationship type so you'll take her seriously.

Just tell her that you understand and respect that she wants a relrelationship but say that you're not looking for anything serious right now and would prefer to find something casual and that if she changes her mind to give you a call.

Don't seem to eager, put the ball in her court.
she'll either give in and call you within a week or she won't.

This way you aren't wasting your time or hers. You are being honest but at the same time you aren't chasing her or wasting your time on a girl you only want sex from.

If she doesn't call you and give in to fwbs then just find someone else.

[HereForTheDay]

Have a backbone, man. Date the woman or move on. Don't try to turn her into your personal whore! Grow up.

[HeatherJoanGaG]

Agree MHO

[Mikebr25]

If she doesn't do casual sex, that may not ever be an option.

[Klaatu51]

then u can't coz da basis of friends with benefits is casual sex :)

[reptocarl]

So all you want her for is to fuck her. She said she only has sex with someone she's in a serious relationship with, what part of that do you not understand? Why can't you respect her wishes?

[thesweetness]

it's about coming to a compromise. i want to sleep with her, but don't want a relationship. she wants to fuck me but only if we're in a relationship. how can i get her to meet in the middle?

[willow74]

You can't. Don't try to make her compromise her values. If she's not good enough for you to date seriously, then you're not good enough for her to sleep with. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

just give it time and let things naturally happen.