Did my ex try and trap me? He finished inside me without asking?

[Anonymous]

My ex & I were together for 6 years. Every time we had sex he wore a condom or he would pull out, & finish else where. Not once did he ever finish inside of me when we were together, he knew that was something really intimate for me. That I would only do that when I was ready to start a family with my future husband. We broke up because the relationship wasn't going anywhere, and other issues. But we hung out recently and it had been a very long while since we both had sex, so we agreed it was just sex (I regret it) nothing else. The sex was good, but he didn't have a condom so like we always did before I thought he was going to pull out, but instead he finished inside of me. I was in shock and couldn't move, like he didn't even ask me or hint anything he just came in me. I wasn't on birth control or anything. I actually started crying and told him "why would you do something like that, especially now that we aren't even together, not even at our best in our relationship did you do that, so why now?" He looked so lost and empty and said "I thought that was something you wanted to share with me". When he said that, he really scared me. I felt disgusted and betrayed. Can someone please help me clear this out, why would he do that? Did he try and trap me, I'm the one who ended the Relationship. Also what he told me was creepy, why would he say that? I felt like he just wanted to be the first one to finish inside me, because he knew this would be the last time we had sex. I feel like I don't even know him.

[SpicedPumpkin]

That is a terrible thing for him to have done... Did you take a morning after pill? He could have been trying to trap you. Either way, it's messed up and should not have happened. by the way pull out is a bad form of birth control. Be very careful in the future.

[Asker]

Yes, I took the morning after pill just incase because I can't easily get pregnant I have a condition. But still I took the morning after pill. I feel like his intentions were malicious.

[SpicedPumpkin]

Good job! Hopefully things are fine then, but yeah that is VERY malicious. I can't even imagine. :(

[Anonymous]

Maybe he wants you back and thinks a pregnancy will get the two of you back together? Anyway, that was wrong of him. He should have pulled out.

[Asker]

That's what I thought, but that's the wrong way to get me back.

[tyber1]

Have you ever heard of pre-cum? You should not be relying on him pulling out to begin with. Even if he didn't cum inside of you you still could have gotten pregnant. Now the odds are that much higher. He was being an idiot but you were being a much bigger idiot.

[Asker]

I actually have a condition where I can't get easily pregnant, I would need to get on a treatment when I would be ready to have kids.

[tyber1]

Well regardless yes I think what he said was likely a power play, like he got to be the first one or he got to get back at you for dumping him. But I'm still gonna say that you should have used protection because frankly you did not know where that dick has been since you broke up.

[Asker]

Yeah, I know I didn't make the smartest choice but I felt like I still could somewhat trust him after 6 years and all. But that's exactly how I feel, like it was having power over me.

[LibraPisces66]

Wow... that's seriously messed up. I can't even imagine what type of mindset would allow him to even think of doing that, much less do it. The whole exchange borders on the bizarre. I really feel your horror and sense of betrayal.

[Asker]

What he told me scared me the most, the look on his face was honestly terrifying. I just don't understand why he would do that.

[LibraPisces66]

I'm so sorry for you. It sounds like he was indeed trying to trap you, or perhaps was deluding himself by hoping you might actually be happy about it in the moment. Either way though it is utterly unthinkable to me. And yes, it is impossible for us to understand his warped thinking, and almost unimaginable selfishness, and disrespect. Whether you can easily get pregnant or not. I totally understand how that should be a sacred moment, and not this other violation. Hard to believe he actually knew you so long, and yet acted this way.

[Asker]

Exactly he's known me for so long, and for him to do something like that to me, something that means a lot to me is just disgusting. When he did that he lost me forever, I could never see him the same way again.

[LibraPisces66]

Good for you. I'm glad you realize this ended it. That he ended it right there, that is. I can't even imagine that moment, the betrayal, or the look in your eyes as it happened. What a loss, yet a realization of his true colors. I so feel for you. Thank goodness you didn't waste more of your life, affections, or body on him, and that you can move forward.

[HereForTheDay]

Well, you can get pregnant even if he pulls out. He releases millions of sperm well before ejaculation.

[Cuminginside]

You sound like a ball busting prick high maintenance, you were with this guy for 6 years and not once you let him finish inside you no wonder he came inside you it was a power play on his part. So who else have you had sex with and who else came inside of you 6 months I can understand 6 years just something wrong with that. I'm not buying your story there's more to it.

[KidanisCortes]

Morning after pill ASAP and dont have sex ewith this guy again

[Asker]

I took the morning after pill, and I will never touch him again. There's no way we could ever mend anything between us.

[HomerJ]

Sounds like a psycho

[Asker]

Yeah he scared me.

[HomerJ]

If I were you, I would not have anything to do with him. Not even as friends. Get out before anything else happens

[Asker]

We aren't friends anymore, we don't have any contact. I realized he's poison in my life.

[Anonymous]

Did you get tested to see if you're pregnant?

[Asker]

I can't get easily pregnant I'm kind of sick, but I did get tested and took a morning pill just in case.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok good