The way I see it, saying you are shy is just an excuse. If you want to be with someone, you've got to take risks. Holding in what you want is not doing either of you any good. Youre not getting what you want and she has no way of knowing what will please you or make you happy. Ask yourself, what is the worst that could happen if I tell her what I truly want. Then ask yourself what is the best that could happen. Chances are your worst fears will not be realised, but your fantasies just might.
If you want things to work with this woman, you have to dig deep inside, take a deep breath, and tell her what you want. I suggest you start with your own personal journal. Write down the things you fantasise about, but are too afraid to say out loud. You can show this to her, or maybe writing it out will give you the courage to speak it.
If you are not able to trust or communicate with her, then I don't see how your relationship can make it.
If you want to avoid a power imbalance in this relationship, you have to learn to speak for yourself.
Good luck to you both.0 1 0 0I’m at school and haven’t come out yet to anyone, I’m Bisexual I always knew I was... but here’s some advice to finding other girls the same sexuality as you. Sometimes girls give off body signs that tells you whether they are into girls or not. (Please note not every time you see someone do these things is a lesbian)
1. Their nails are always cut short (like really short)
2. Sometimes how they dress
There is many other things that could give you hints that she’s into girls but sometimes people do these things and could be completely straight so don’t jump to conclusions.
Sometimes if you want to meet someone of the same sex/sexuality as you. You have too look on websites so you can talk to people like you because it’s hard to find someone of the same sexuality as you and it’s easiest online.
Hope I could help!0 0 0 0First of all, you're still confused when you're going through puberty, so you might actually not be lesbian, but its really good that you're not stressed/confused/scared/depressed over being lesbian, because it can be pretty hard some people, there's nothing wrong with it, You go girl :)!
I'm straight, so I wouldn't have much info on flirting with girls, i'd start out by becoming more of an extrovert and conversing with people first, start out as a friend with a girl, then tell her that you're lesbian, if she's not lesbian, you guys can still be friends! Explain to her that you understand if she's not interested in the same way, you hope you can still stay friends.1 1 0 0Look to the art and theater departments. There tend to be a lot of queer girls there. Also, give online dating a shot.
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You are still young, do your studies as much as you know its enough until you reach the adult age, but read here and there about it, there are a lot of bisexual girls on dating sites so ask them and gather information, you might not be a lesbian, just been going out with the wrong guys (typical dick heads other girls go for because they think they are cool).
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2 1Well because you can't do anything because of the reasons you've listed you should just wait.
0 0 2 1Start talking to girls as friends then see their sexuality (I know a lot of girls are bi) then ask them out.
0 1 0 0Oh then how you feel in that way.
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