Girls, does my girlfriend has serious penis obsession, please help?

My girlfriend and I have had a great 2 years together. We rarely fight, we have common interests and work in the same fields, and we're pretty much best friends. I know her in and out and trust her completely. She's a great person through and through. However, recently there have been some things about her that I just don't understand. At first she told me she had been masturbating to lesbian porn and thinking about trying something with another girl. I understood and was supportive about it, but that phase came and went. Next came the penis obsession. She constantly wants to hold or touch it in some capacity, talks to it, takes pictures of it all the time and desperately wants it to be sentient, or be able to talk back to her. Her having penis envy isn't just wild speculation on my part either, she's explicitly told me several times that she wishes she had one, they're the coolest thing ever, etc. At first I thought it was cute and played along with everything, even making up little fake penis stories to entertain her. I even bought her a "Mr. Limpy" fake penis for trans women so she'd have one just to play with. At first she was ecstatic about it, but soon it wasn't enough. For months I thought all of this was just another one of our inside jokes until last week. We had just finished having sex and I was at the computer looking at something, and she reached in my pants to play with it. Ok, no big deal. After 5 or 10 minutes it was getting kind of annoying so I said "hey sorry, I think that's enough for today", and she immediately withdrew and started acting really weird. Eventually this led to a full-on breakdown in tears, and when I asked what was wrong she said "I just want to touch your penis all the time, and when I can't have it the rejection just crushes me" I just don't know what to do. I feel that it's endearing and sweet, but at the same time I really don't like being messed with constantly. I've told her it's akin to someone poking and prodding you all the time, and she understands, but it just kills me to see her so heartbroken over this. The other day she even mentioned that she had been looking at prosthetic penises to wear around all day. Is there anything I can do about this? Are there any other women who feel this way? I'd really love to hear what you think. Thanks for reading this wall of text.
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  • Some women go through various stages within their sexuality. I too went through a phase like this with my boyfriend but it was FAR less severe. I wanted to constantly play with it. Even while watching tv. I just wanted it in my hand at all times. Even if that meant creeping up behind him while he was doing dishes and reach down his pants. He loved it. I have never once wished I had a penis though.. Unless I had to piss so freaking bad and there were no bathrooms or toilet paper in the area. Then I would wish I had one just to eliminate the pressure in my bladder. You said above that your girlfriend wanted to experiment with women but the phase came and went. Maybe it really didn't.. Not many women will wake up on day and be like, "You know what, I want to fuck a girl today." The idea was probably in her head for a long time before she came out and told you. Where you were so understanding of her desire to sleep with a women, she probably thought you would be understanding of this as well. She probably has more hidden desires that you are unaware of and she is most likely just trying to spice up your sex life. However, where you have stated both the female fantasy she encountered and the penis fetish, I wouldn't be surprised if the next thing she springs on you is her want to sleep with a transgendered woman. It is normal for women to find comfort and lust about these things. I know I have gone through this same fantasy multiple times. Probably because I am a bisexual woman and the idea of having a woman and man in the same body turns me on to extreme measures. Sometimes the fantasy is just that, a fantasy. I would never act on mine, only on the simple fact that I am in a very happy relationship of 4 years. But sometimes, the fantasies are stronger than others. Just try to keep an open mind. It is probably just a phase that she will go through, as she did the lesbian fantasy.

  • Dude. You're gonna wake up one day and she's gonna be getting one medically attached. Best to suggest she see a therapist about this. Freud said we go through a Phallic stage. Maybe she's stuck in that.

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  • Well let face it, they are pretty cool. But she does have a fixation, I think that it might be time to seek help.

  • Troll story. You are that guy who wrote how your pregnant wife's sister loves to play with your moulded dildo.

  • Have you tried letting her dominate you? Maybe she feels she has lost power some how in the relationship, or she wants to dominate you maybe let her fuck you in the ass?

  • Some people male or female believe they were born into the wrong body.. She may be discovering this and feels like she should have been born a male
    If that's the case there's nothing you can do besides support her

  • i dont think there is anything you can do about it.