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Am I being ridiculous in how I feel about the way my girlfriend dresses when she goes out?

So i get very uncomfortable with the way my girlfriend dresses going out to clubs or bars and im not around. She always wears extremely short dresses that reveal her butt with the slightest bend (and it doesn't help that when she gets drunk she is oblivious to this, at least when she's sober she's conscious enough to pull it down) and she wears very low cut dresses as well which are extremely revealing given her large breast size. And if it's not a dress it's a low cut belly shirt which idc about the belly but it's almost showing her nipples. And i wouldn't care about short dresses if it didn't reveal her butt idc about a lot of leg. I don't know why she dresses this way I don't think she's going out to find a guy or anything obviously but I don't know why she must dress this way I've explained to her how I feel and it turns into this big battle of how im trying to be controlling but I think of myself as a very giving loyal uncontrolling boyfriend. I feel that when girls dress like that it's mostly for attention whether from guys or other girls and I don't feel comfortable knowing that every drunk pig in the club is going up to her buying her drinks and asking her to dance because she obviously looks like she's single and wants the attention, it also scares me a lot because there are many guys who will try to take advantage of a beautiful girl at a bar and her outfit deff attracts the drunken horny assholes... Why does she insist on wearing these revealing clothes regardless of how I feel? Am I being controlling I don't want to be i love her sense of independence and would never want to take that away but I also want her to want to dress more modestly and not want that attention since she has me why does she need it? i tell her daily how beautiful I think she is. Should single women dress slightly more modestly so they don't put out the wrong message? And it should be known that i do trust her i just hate the thought of other guys all over her and trying to pick her
Am I being to insecure?
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Am I being controlling?
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Should she dress more modest knowing my feelings?
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Should I just suck it up?
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  • Don't be offended.

    She doesn't sound like a keeper man. Your intuition is correct. She wants attention, plain and simple, and it doesn't matter if it's a nice guy or some drunken asshole who is giving it to her. You are giving her WAY TOO MUCH credit dude. Honestly, I'm almost positive that she's hooking up with guys behind your back, and if she isn't then she PROBABLY will eventually. You don't dress like that for NO REASON. If you're a guy and you're sporting a six pack and you're walking around shirtless outside, what does that mean? It means you're looking.

    The only obvious thing here is how into her you are. You are really worried about this. Dude, you need to step away from this chick. She sounds like bad news. Distance yourself emotionally and get ready for bad shit to happen. If I were you, I'd disconnect from her and keep the physical part going unless you can find another girl quickly. Yes, I am kind of an asshole but she is being the asshole first, do you understand? So you shouldn't feel bad about it.

    Dude, I wouldn't be writing you this long thing if I didn't care. A girl like that IS bad news and you already know it! We both know you do! You're just second-guessing yourself and trying to be "open minded". She's not worried about losing you because she knows you're attached and that she "can find another guy" really quickly. Understand? She doesn't care about how you feel because she's selfish. A good number of women lay off the partying and undergo a certain kind of change when they have a boyfriend, they stop hanging out with their old friends and whatnot. Right? Not all, but a good number of chicks, we all know this. Your chick isn't doing that.

    Anyway man, I'm off the soapbox. Do what you want but you know exactly what's going on here. Don't be the fool.

  • Some women love to show off their body and they don't have abundant opportunities to do that, so she is clutching at the chances she has. In fact, she may have some exhibitionist tendencies. If that's her game, invite her to go somewhere and suggest she enter a wet tee-shirt contest. Or, take her away for a weekend to a clothing-optional resort. Maybe that will satisfy her urges, and that is probably safer than her getting drunk and bending over in a club.

    If she doesn't want to take your feelings into account. . . there's your sign.

Most Helpful Girls

  • My boyfriend and I split over this. I was wearing the dress I was wearing in my icon for him. But also for me, I felt like I looked womanly and it made me feel confident. I didn't notice if any other person was looking at me because I was comfortable with my body. That's hard for a lot of women to feel. But it started with him being jealous of that and it just got worse, and it's not worth it to have someone be not trusting of me and so controlling.
    Talk to her about it, but trying to control her won't end well.

    • I deff don't tell her hey don't wear that if she has a dress or outfit on to go out i don't try to make her change it but i have talked to her before about how I don't really feel comfortable when she wears something like that, and your dress is very modest compared to some of the dresses she wears it's not every time sometimes im really happy with what she wears she looks hot and sexy but without giving everyone a show... I guess i just feel like it's for attention and I don't understand why she wants it and I have been just sucking it up lately cuz I do trust her

  • She's an adult. You have no say in how she should dress. If you really trust her, you shouldn't have a problem with her wearing those clothes. I understand that you don't like the attention she may receive for dressing like that, but you can't control that. You sound pretty insecure about your girlfriend being confident with showing off her body.

    • yeah, but if she really cared about him wouldn't she take his feelings into consideration?

    • But before they were even dating, she dressed up in this manner. Why would she stop dressing like that just because she's in a relationship? I think he grow some balls and tolerate it. It's not as if she's openly flirting with these men. Besides, she only dresses like this when she wants to go clubbing, if it were an everyday thing, this question wouldn't have been asked, since we can assume the Asker would've been turned off and never would've approached her in the first place

    • It's not about his growing some balls; that is a rude comment to make. Yes, she is an adult and she can dress however she want, but. . . when you get into a relationship, you should be taking your partner's feelings into account. @hellionthesage has it right! What is important to your partner should become important to you. That stuff in wedding ceremonies about "the two become one" isn't just goofy gobbledygook. Her goals should become his goals, his desires should become her desires, and his concerns should become her concerns. If that doesn't make sense to you now. . . it will when you are ready for a relationship.

  • When women dress sexy we are not always looking for a guy. Sometimes you just wanna feel sexy and confident and flaunt how fine you are. Besides if you can't dress sexy at the club where can you dress sexy at?

    • I see your point

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  • Dude your girlfriend, make some rules... don't come here complaining about it, I mean its fine.. lol but man up... pull that balls out and go say to her face that your not comfortable with her dressing style...
    Or you can keep her away from clubs... make her spend more time with you... plus if you trust her, you got nothing to worry unless some asswipe will miss use your girl...

    Go talk with her, most girls do listen to their guys,

    If not, you can go to the club with her.. Its all up to you.
    If I were you, I will explain it to her, and if she doesn't listen to me, I will go with her to protect her but still if I feel uncomfortable, I will make a big scene and a fight and breakup... No jk 😉😂

    Good luck ^^

  • your too insecure, she should be able to dress how she wants

  • u shouldn't care bro... she's an adult... don't u trust her?

  • Just break up and let her date one of the guys at the club.

  • I don't comment about your girlfriend
    But I can tell about my girlfriend she is very decent girlfriend did not drunk except wine and social drinks also not have large boobs.
    Love wearing outfit extremely revealing and exposing accordingly some occasions seventy percent skin exposure with confidence and comfortable but very much modest and sensible and loyal to me.
    I love she exposed

  • So, why aren't you going out with her?

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