He doesn't want me to give him a blowjob because he doesn't want to take advantage of me. Why?

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Long story short, I've been seeing this guy for 2 weeks or so now. he's really great and I like him. I told him on our 2nd date that I was a virgin. 
I ended up giving him a blowjob for the first time the other day. He enjoyed it a lot and came twice. We then met up again yesterday and as I wanted to go down on him, he said he didn't want to take advantage of me since he couldn't physically pleasure me too. He said he would prefer for me not to give him a bj as he didn't want me to think that all he wanted was something sexual. He said he really liked me a lot and wanted to take things slow. 

I was a bit upset tbh since I didn't expect him to turn me down like that. In my past relationships my ex boyfriend's were okay with me giving them a blowjob and none of them have told me not to give them one. am I wrong for being a bit upset about it?

detlef · Accepted Answer

You're not wrong and you sound like a great girl.

I respect and understand your guy's perspective. Would he not want to go down on you?

Look it's okay for you to be so giving, but make sure it's a two-way street and that you're getting just as much in return. I think your guy may understand this somewhat more intuitively than you do, and he's just wanting both of you to take your time.

Frankly it may also freak him out a bit that you were so down to blow him. That willingness is not necessarily a positive from a guy's perspective. If he cares about you, it may have unnerved him. Talk with him openly and honestly. Good luck.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

He's very considerate and I can see how he might be worried that you'll wake up one day and think he's just using you for sex.  Are you prepared to have sex with him?

Born2Suck · Accepted Answer

Not at all, seems like a good guy

mysoccerman · Answer

you should be happy that he cares about you more than just for sex. he's right to not want to take advantage of you, and it's not something that's your fault at all. it's not that he doesn't want it, he just doesn't want to make you feel like you have to blow him in order to be his girlfriend. he's a keeper

Klaatu51 · Answer

maybe he's not into BJs anyway? not all guys r into these stuff

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

seems like he's just trying to express being fair and equal.

Skadouchebag · Answer

If he wants to pleasure you too then why don't you just do the 69?

Potterhead213 · Answer

You shouldn't be upset because he was trying to be a gentleman by not taking advantage of you

takumii · Answer

unless you have herpes in your mouth, strip down his pants and get down on him. He is just being self loathing i guess because of his previous unsuccessful relationship