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Guys, why wasn't my boyfriend dick get stayed hard or got hard?

We were in bed he was kissing my neck touching my nipples and was rubbing my pussy. He was hard then he started touching my and he put me side ways to fuck me , he was touching my ass he was grabbing my cheeks but then he wasn't hard and he started masturbating. I didn't know what to say but it was uncomfortable. He then try to put it back In still he wasn't hard Enough.. He then got on his knees and turn me side ways while laying down. I kind of gave him like a REALLY FACE. He said what.. im looking for a position to get hard , I told him should we stop , are you even liking it He said he didn't want to stop and he likes it. e did fuck me like that because he finally got more hard so why did he stop getting hard?
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  • Partially because of your reaction. The way you reacted was pretty much THE WORST you could have acted in that situation.
    First of all, guys sometimes can't get hard. It's just like that. We're not machines, we're human beings. Or sometimes we're hard but for some unknown reason get soft again. It has NOTHING to do with whether we like the situation or not. At least there are a lot of other reasons. Maybe he was freezing a bit or nervous or... there are thousands of reasons. Many times, a guy doesn't know himself why he can't get hard. He feels very horny and wants to fuck but his penis just won't get hard. Girls have that too by the way. My girlfriend sometimes can't get wet, especially in the mornings. It doesn't mean she doesn't like it or she doesn't feel in the mood (she always tells me that she really wants to have sex in these situations), it's just her body being a little weird.

    Your reaction was very bad because you made your guy feel very uncomfortable. By making a "really"-face, your basically telling him that it's his fault. That he's being a bad lover. This doesn't help at all if you consider that guys are already sooooo pressured to be good lovers. The emotional pressure and stress you gave him most likely just kept him from getting hard even more. Also, feeling uncomfortable about this type of situation is the wrong attitude. Sex is supposed to be fun! It's supposed to be light hearted. Don't become so somber just because your guy can't get hard (or you can't get wet). Instead, try to be sweet to him, try to make a joke out of it. I once hit my head kinda bad at the bed during sex. Of course I could have gotten pissed off or whiny but instead I just started laughing really loud and so my girlfriend started laughing too and the whole awkwardness of the situation was immediately blown away. Take it more easy and have some mercy with your guy. Just pet him next time, suck him and tell him it's okay. Because that is what it is. It's totally okay. No biggy.

    • Why what wrong with my reaction? Why can't they get hard at times because they are not liking it? And your right I sometimes want to have sex and sometimes I can't get wet when I was just wet mins before you got a point. I know of felt bad after I gave him a really face. He said don't give me that face that he was looking for a position to get hard. I just felt bad in the beginning because when he is not hard I feel he don't like my body or didn't like touching me basically that he got turn off.

    • Your reaction was wrong because you were projecting your own insecurities onto this situation, in which he happened to not get hard. Insecurities are a huge turn off for most guys (probably most girls too) during sex. I understand that you were worried that he might not like it. But you could have guessed with some rational thinking that he was in fact, into it. Why would he go on and try so hard to get hard if he didn't like it? He could have just gotten up and said "whatever, let's drop this" - but he didn't. Instead of making him feel as though it was his fault you could have at least asked something like "Are you okay? Do you feel nervous? Or do you maybe not feel like it?" This would have been a sweet method to approach the situation. He'd answered you "no, I'm fine... I don't know why I can't get hard suddenly" and everything would've been resolved. That's called good communication. Much better than just assuming stuff and getting annoyed about stuff you don't even know is true.

  • If you haven't had sex much, or this was the first time, then he might have just been nervous. I had the opportunity of sexual acts with the chick I loved more than anything and had desired more than anything in the world. Figures. I couldn't get it up, I was so nervous. That happened with another girl, as well, who I thought was just *SO* out of my league. She was so hot, I got nervous. Depression could also cause it. Some medications, as well. Alcohol, cocaine, opiates. Those can also ruin a good woody. Especially cocaine.

    The worst thing you could do is say, "Really?" The 'really' face probably wasn't that bad, though.

    But, also, without constant attention, I lose my hard on. If the action stops, at all, then it starts going down pretty fast. That might just be me, though. And also I take medications which make it difficult, as well. But, I wonder if it's the same for other guys.

    Why does it matter if he fucked you eventually? Sometimes that happens with guys. Just give us a bit of time. Actually. I mean. You could say, "Why don't girls get wet or stay wet. There's a lot of health factors involved like eating healthily, drinking enough water, exercising, etc . Probably for woodies, too.

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  • Contrary to popular belief, men do not always want sex. We rarely think about it either.

    His lack of erection has nothing to do with you or what you were doing but his state of mind at the time.

    Looking at him with "really" face was not a good idea though.

  • A lot of reasons could be...

    He just lost it... (effect worn off)
    He had things on his mind.
    HE didn't have enough blood flow to dick.

    NExt time try helping him. By puting him on his back and start grinding him...

  • Happens to some guys sometimes. If he's there with you then more than likely he wants to be so has nothing to do with you. Nervousness can do it sometimes.

  • It could be a multitude of things; stress, being tired, headache, medicine he took, preoccupied, being nervous, etc.

    Contrary to what so many think, getting hard and staying hard isn't automatic... It can be highly circumstantial.

  • he masterbates too much, only his hand gets him to stay hard, tell him to stop doing it so much.

    • He does masturbate a lot but he does get hard when he fucks me. It was just this time it was so random , uncomfortable When he couldn't fuck me because he got soft then he started masturbating..

  • He may need to see a ED specialist as if he is turned on even a bit it should be hard enough that a cat couldn't scratch it. From my own personal experience I know that once I'm hard the only way it goes down is after I've cum and even then it takes a while and I'm an old fart. If he's below about 30 then he needs to go see a specialist.

  • It happens. Most likely problem is the girl expecting the guy to be hard as a rock without her doing anything. Sounds like you where being selfish missy. Dont think he will just have a hard on by playing with your goods. You HAVE to play with HIS goods too. Make him feel good so you can. Its a 50/50!
    It doesn't help if you bust his chops for not getting hard either. Infact if you say something like in your story you might just kill the moment.

    Also stage fright can do it to. I had stage fright the first few times i had sex and i couldnt stay hard. I would be hard as a rock and when i was about to put it in, it would go limp. It happens. Make him comfortable so he's not nervous and doesn't feel pressured. Good luck! Happy fucking! Use a condom! 

  • get him some Viagra.

  • Because you were laying there like dead weight. You didn't even do anything to get him hard. Poor guy had to play with his own dick. Are you new to sex? You gotta suck his dick baby.

  • It might be a blood circulatory problem

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