Is it ok to fantasize about your crush or your girlfriend's hot friend occasionally?

[Anonymous]

I really like my girlfriend and find her very very hot. One of her good friends is also quite attractive and sometimes she dresses very sexy and I do think she is fun when she's around us. I have occasionally had a fantasy about her being in bed with my girlfriend and I. Also erm.. I get off to her FB photo sometimes. I mean, she was dressed quite sluttily and had her mouth open in a sexy way.. I kinda imagined she was blowing me. Is that ok? I mean if my girlfriend brought her home for a threesome, I would love that, but I mean I prefer my girlfriend (who I also have got off about). I just find one or two of her friends and my female friends attractive, and this one quite sexy. I wouldn't date them, but visualize them in a sexual way, compared to romantically and passionately with my girlfriend. Is it cool to masturbate about her or others occasionally and find myself turned on by her FB photos (most of which she has her mouth open in a sexy way)?

[notsuperangel]

Well in my opinion, I won't like that and it will hurt me to know if my boyfriend thinks that way. Even if my boyfriend thinks that way, I would prefer him to tell me honestly about it even if I don't like it but I will appreciate him for being honest and open about it. But I don't know, it could be different to your girlfriend. There are girls who are okay with that stuffs and those who aren't.

[Asker]

Right interesting. Another opinion suggested to keep those thoughts to yourself. I mean naturally I prefer my girlfriend. It's just occasionally I have fapped to a FB picture of a hot friend of hers or mine. It's just a fantasy really, a sexual thought. Is that ok?

[vmw2008]

I mean what you do in private by yourself is your own business, but I'd strongly discourage you from every telling anyone about it. Particularly your girlfriend.

Would you be very happy to find out she thinks your best friend is hot and masturbates to his picture online? Or that she'd want to have a threesome with him?

Just keep it to yourself.

[Asker]

Yeah good point. I really do love my girlfriend who I think is really sexy and who I prefer. I think it's just seeing their FB photos where they look hot, I fapped to them as I felt turned on by them. Is that ok to find them sexually attractive and fantasize about them?

[vmw2008]

Again, this is a matter of perspective. I don't think what you do by yourself in that way is anybody's business, but if you're asking whether your girlfriend would be upset, yes she undoubtedly would be. Just like you'd be upset if she found several of your friends attractive, fantasized about them, and masturbated thinking about them.

[Asker]

Ok, I see your point. So is it ok to be attracted to them, occasionally privately fantasize about them, knowing I wouldn't do anything with them? I mean tbh, some of them personality wise are definitely not dating material. I just feel a little aroused suddenly if one of the hot ones suddenly turns up dressed a little slutty.

[Asker]

Also when they have a FB picture with them in a swimsuit or with their mouth open, it's hard not to feel turned on for some reason?

[ACW100]

I don't think you should really do that. That can damage your relationship with your girlfriend cause you might like her more than your girlfriend each day, thats really possible. So if you even can't stop thinking about her, just don't masturbate about her.

[Asker]

I don't think i like them more though. I mean they look nice, but aren't as nice. I deffo prefer my girlfriend. I just find some of them fairly hot, and when they dress sluttily, feel a little turned on. Also their FB picture, they kinda look hot?

[FistSlaminElite]

I think its wrong, I'm quite a jealous person and I get uncomfortable when my girl talks about other guys (celebrities ) she finds hot, if she was doing that to pictures of someone who she or I knew in person... i would be super upset and crushed

[Asker]

Fair enough